Giving up on ttc

[rgeo81]

Like i said my husband and i have been trying for five years i did a test and it was way off i always get my hopes up.
i pray all the time i try to stay positive about things but no matter what nothing is working. i do not drink, i do not smoke i do not do drugs. I don't even have tea or coffee. Maybe i should start these things i notice those that don't really take care of their bodies end up pregnant.
My hubby is thinking it will never happen its set in his mind, yet i believe he is just saying it. But i am getting to become the same way as him.
I am really ****ed off, angry n upset and just feel like giving up not caring any more. I do not understand why after 5 years it ain't happening. I asked my hubby to go to docs to get tested but wont i don't know why. we can not adopt and ivf cost to much. I am losing faith right now because one thing i want the most and it is not happening and i do not know if it ever will. So i am giving up because i am sick of getting upset, and let down every time we try. So right now i really do not care if we never have any, just means more time to do what i want to do. Probably best not to bring up a child in this world anyway with how things are going.

Best of luck to everyone else and thanks for ur advice. Maybe return i just do not know.

[SomewhereOverTheRainbow]

I'm so sorry to hear that. :hugs: I can't imagine what it would be like TTC for 5 yrs, we have only been trying for several months and it still feels like a kick in the guts when AF arrives. I'm also sorry to hear that your DH won't get any kind of fertility testing done, as it may only be something minor that is causing the problem? (i don't know too much about infertility so I'm not sure). Is there testing you can get done on yourself even if he doesn't want to have any done himself? That might at least give you a head start.
I don't know what to say except to give you big hugs. :hugs:

[stellarella]

:hugs::hugs:

Have you and your DH been to see your GP about it? It could be something really simple or they could put you on drugs to help.

I'm sorry I don't know your situation so maybe you have already done that.

If you haven't it's the first step and there are lots of things you can try.

What about going the natural route? Acupunture, naturopathy? Where are you located? Andrew Orr in Brisbane is known as "the babymaker", but similar practitioners are popping up around the country.

I'm not going to pretend I understand the grief of this situation but I can imagine just a little bit. I'm so sorry :hugs:

[mrsmov]

:hugs: I couldnt imagine how hard ttc for 5 years would be! I tried for 12months with DD before going to see a FS, turns out i had PCOS & on my 2nd cycle of clomid fell pregnant.

Have you had any tests done yourself? :hugs:I know what you mean about IVF costs, if i weren't able to fall there'd be no way i could afford to go through IVF

:hugs: I hope you get your miracle bubba soon!:babydust2:

[Loopy Linda]

big hugs, with my last child it was 18 months of trying, 5 yrs would be so much worse. i know the feelings of maybe and getting hopes up, half the time i already had names picked before i would do the test and be devastated again. while i was ttc my sister in law was preg, had the baby and got pregnant with another.. it just wasn't fair.

great big hugs and i am sorry your husband won't do any tests. sometimes it is a big part of their manliness and to see dr about it is thought of as weak or not as manly. maybe he will change his mind in future.

and some more hugs cause it is a sad decision and i really feel for you

[truckette]

:hugs::hugs:to you.

My DH and I were trying for almost 2 years with one m/c and that was bad enough so I can only imagine what you both are going through.

Maybe giving up on TTC will be a good thing. Relax a bit and enjoy each other again without the pressure of "I'm ovulating quick lets go for it."

That's what my DH and I did and we fell the first time. It is hard to change your mind set though I know.

Good luck with it and :iagree:with the others about seeing your GP.

[trixiebelle17]

i'm sorry to hear that ur DH isn't willing to do tests :hugs: 5 yrs must feel like several lifetimes... I'm almost at the six month mark without having o'd once and it feels like everything else has been put on hold 'waiting' for it to happen, let alone getting a BFP!

I know u mentioned not being able to adopt, but have you ever thought about permanent foster care? It's an option alot of people take, as it doesn't cost you any money, and the wait isn't as heartbreaking as being on an apotion waiting list wondering if it will ever happen.

[delirium]

What about going the natural route? Acupunture, naturopathy?

:iagree: We tried for 4 years before I fell with DD. We also didn't have the money for IVF. I visited a naturopath and one cycle later I was pregnant. There are some fantastic herbs out there for a whole range of infertility issues with both partners. Stuff like zinc boosts the health and number of sperm. Vit E, fish oil and Vitex are wonderful for aiding hormone imbalance in women.

I really think your hubby needs to get tested. Maybe he doesn't want to get tested bc he's scared it's him - men I guess like some women, base their manhood on their ability to reproduce. You really need to find out where the issue lies. Have you yourself been to gyno about your infertility and been tested for things like endomentriosis or PCOS?

[Jezabel]

I dont have any advice but would like to give u a big :hugs:....I couldnt even begin to imagine how hard this is all on you and ur hubby.

All the best :babydust2:

[KiahsMum]

I am sorry to hear you have gone through so much! I thought there was a public list for IVF which is cheaper than private. We are looking at IUI which privately is only $800 a cycle or so, much cheaper than full IVF so this might be an option? It would help if hubby would agree to be tested, he may just need some supplements - have put DH on menevit even though his SA was good just to help.

I wish you all the best with whatever you decide to do!