how many dates before....

[meme]

things get physical?

i mean i am a bout to go on a fourth date with a guy i like a lot. so far we have kissed goodbye once. i don't think we will go much further than that just yet(telling myself this:rolleyes:), but i am starting to really want to.

should i wait longer, perhaps until i know him more or i explode from built up sexual tension?:laughing:

help. it feel like it's been so long since i ever dated anyone i don't know what's appropriate.

[Ana Gram]

I haven't had a date since becoming single so I can't answer you question as I now beginning to think there is something wrong with me :laughing:
But I just wanted to say :smiliedance::yelclap: for you!

[Mum2Bug]

I have no advice either but congratulations on getting back out there and dating hun:hugs:

[fox_girl]

after being single for a while after spliting with DD's father i started dating again and we had quiet a few dates before taking it further. about 2 months had passed. and luckily that isnt all he was after.

But take it as slow or as fast as you want.

But :yelclap: for having found someone.

[meme]

thank you for the positive response to this:) it is very exciting for me.

as we seem to be averaging about a date a week, i suppose i have known him irl for about a month, and a bit longer if you count emailing?

i am not sure whther this is actually going to be a *serious relationship* a friendship and abit of action might be all? not thinking about it too much as i want to enjoy it for what it is right now.

i guess that means i will know when the time is right.

[SassyMummy]

I'm a big ho. :laughing:

I met the bf online, though not looking to meet anyone, just came across him and got to know him that way.

I spoke to him online and on the phone each day for 2 months, then went to visit him, at his place, to spend the night, after that. I wasn't exactly planning to have sex with him, but I mean, how could I spend the night in his bed and not? I knew it was likely to happen, and it did.

So I guess you could say 2 months in... or you could say straight up. lol. I wouldn't have done it though, if I didn't feel the way I did about him, nor would I have done it if I felt I hardly knew him or thought it would just be a one-night thing. We both knew it would be more than that though, and so far it has... we're coming up to 4 months on Tuesday. :goodvibes:

I don't think it's something that should be scheduled or planned. There's no specific date where you can be "not a **** but not a prude" or anything... I'd say when you feel comfortable and want. I'd just go with how I feel, both in my heart, body and mind... and do it then. :p

[crazyaboutbubs]

Hope you don't mind me jumping in on the single mummies thread, im neither of those. But I guess it depends when you feel comfortable with it. I know with my DP, i wanted to jump his bones pretty soon into dating.. but he didn't. :laughing: We were a couple before i even got to 'sample the merchandise' But it was nice to know he was in it for the right reasons.

Ps. When i read 'physical' all i could think of was "lets get physical" by olivia newton john. :laughing:

[OneBabyBoy]

I don't agree with all these "rules" society has about when you should sleep with people depending on what kind of future you want with them.

Just sleep with him when you're both ready and comfortable. If it changes the relationship in a negetive way then he's obviously not someone you want anyway.

Good on you meme for finding someone, i'm really happy for you :goodvibes:

[meme]

yeah, i am not looking for rules, or judgemnt over when it's ok or not.

i guess it's jsut been on my mind and i wondered what others do/think.

AF has decided to drop in so i am pretty sure nothing will happen in that department this week;)

it's sorta fun waiting though. the build up is great.iykwim.

i have absolutely no expectations to where this is going. but he is a really nice guy that i feel a strong connection with. so who knows. i could get hurt, and that worries me, but i've been through **** before and if i have to deal with that i will. for now i am loving the excitement of getting to know someone where there is that undefinable special feeling.

[RmumR]

I'm a big ho. :laughing:

. :p

Stace you crack me up:laughing: i just almost chocked when i read your post!

Meme i think as some others have said you will know when the time is right. There are no specific amount of dates or timeframes or whatever just whenever you feel ready to take that step.
Congratulations on finding someone and i hope it all works out for you:flowerz:

[Zada]

I met dp online, we were chatting for mayb a week then we met irl twice and on the third time i stayed at his house so yea it happened then lol. We also started actually going out that night but I guess I just knew he wasnt in it for that 1 thing.
I say basically whenever u feel the time is right, theres no right or wrong answer

[reAllytee]

Just dropping in here cause well im being nosey :o

I just wanted to say :smiliedance::yelclap::goodvibes: to you meme even if its not 'serious' I am so happy that you are enjoying yourself cause you deserve it :hugs:

[susmamma]

I'm just being nosey too :D:o:p

I say go for it... shag-a-lot and often!
And as soon as possible!

Why wait?! (I'm not one much for delaying gratification :laughing:)

[SweetSerenity]

M and i didn't wait very long...even though we agreed we would :p But it definitely didn't impact on our relationship in a negative way. Go the next step whenever it feels right hun :yes: You deserve some fun and happiness in your world :hugs:

[meme]

I say go for it... shag-a-lot and often!
And as soon as possible!

Why wait?! (I'm not one much for delaying gratification :laughing:)

lol!

i sooo much just want to gossip about my night out with you all, but trying to be ladylike and discreet:p.

[reAllytee]

lol!

i sooo much just want to gossip about my night out with you all, but trying to be ladylike and discreet:p.

Bugger discreet .... Whats discreet hehehehehe.

Oh what it would be like going through all those wonderful giddy stomach turning moments again !!!!

[misskittyfantastico]

Bugger discreet .... Whats discreet hehehehehe.

Oh what it would be like going through all those wonderful giddy stomach turning moments again !!!!

:iagree: Spill ya guts!I wanna live vicariously through you!:p:D

[xkwzit]

I agree, we want to hear all the nitty gritty details :D

(sorry, I have no advice, I'm just snooping :o)

[meme]

oooooh. i guess it is serious, to me anyway. just don't know where we are headed or will end up. but i guess i am pretty:cloud9:

we didn't dtd, but yanno:rolleyes: af didn't interrupt us the way i thought she would, and lo isn't the only one whose had a mouthful of my breastmilk lately!

on a more romantic note, here is the dscription i have posted elsewhere online of our walk on the beach after dinner...

sand between my toes.
silver heels discarded next to me.
the ocean shushing gently.
music drifting out across the beach from the surf club.

we stood so close i felt like we could melt into each other,
that our minds would be joined.
that we could be one.

i got so dizzy from kisses that i thought i would fall over,
but had his arms to hold me up.



and no one yelled out
"oi! get a room" :p

happy meme:flowerz: