Hi new girl here

[jori]

Hi everyone. my name is glenda. only found out about this club yesterday. sounds great. anyway i am 32yo and married. i have a little boy called Joshua and he is my world. he will be 1 on the 18th July. currently trying for number two. fingers crossed.

[jamb]

Welcome, its a great site!! Good luck with number two :)

[Briannabear]

Welcome Glenda! :D

[alindrina]

Hi my name is Fiona and I am new to this site, I'm thrilled to find a site like this because I wanted to chat to other mums. I am 28 and have an eight-year-old buy, William, a six-year-old girl, Sarah, a four-year-old boy, Maverick, and 21 mth old Harrison. Hoping to make a lot of friends online

[Jenni]

Hello Fiona,
I too am new to this site. 1st time ever. I am a mother of 3. They are 13yr old daughter, 8yr old son and 4yr old son. I am 35yrs. We lost my husband in January of this year to cancer. The kids are struggling greatly. I`m feeling quite lost. I worry that I cant find help that they need. I`ve no car or drivers license. I never had one. Makes it hard to get them to programmes that might help. Money is very much an issue as I am now on a sole parent pension and cant afford much of anything.
I`ve never suffered depression before. It`s quite frightening.
Enough on me and mine. How is life treating you and yours?
Many well wishes, Jenni.

[alindrina]

Hi Jenni,
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband and the children's Dad. How incredibly sad and devastating, nothing I can say can take away your pain but I hope I can be here for you. I can't imagine your sadness and it's normal to be depressed and frightened. I wish I could offer practical help, I can't drive either and I know how difficult it can be. I have been depressed at times, after my best friend died four years ago and also six years ago when my husband lost his job, but he found another job quickly. I miss my best friend Leon, he was the most wonderful person but nothing can compare to losing your husband. I really feel for you and the kids, my husband and kids and I are so happy but it could all be taken away one day just like you have lost your husband. Cancer is the most terrible disease and I'm sorry he probably suffered terribly. If you want to email me to chat or share memories of your husband.... I know I wanted to talk about my friend Leon when he died...... my email is alindrina@yahoo.com
Love and friendship,
Fiona

[Jenni]

Dear Fiona thank you so very much for your kind words of support. It does sound like you understand depression. I`ve never felt so helpless in my life. I have great family and wonderful friends. But it feels bad to burden them with my pain. I know they would be there for me but I dislike greatly feeling so needy. I feel most helpless watching the suffering of my children. I support their feelings as best I can but you cant make their grief go away no matter how hard you try. It would be nice to have a magic wand at times like these.

Your family sounds lovely. I hope you are all keeping well. Again Fiona, thank you very much. You do seem a very lovely person.

With many thanks and much appreciation, Jenni. xx

[alindrina]

Hi Jenni,
I was so glad to hear from you and I wish I could do more to help you, but
I will always be happy to listen to you and I do care. I know it's hard when you
don't want to burden anyone, and it must be so terribly hard for your children;although I haven't been through the pain of losing my husband I really feel for you and the kids. I hope to see you on here again one day because I want to offer you all the friendship and support I can. You really sound like a lovely person and a very strong person, and I can't make your pain go away any more than you can make it go away but I'd like to be here for you. If you want to email me to chat you can. I hope to see you on here again anyway. I'm glad you have a great, supportive and understanding network of close
family and friends, I know you must hate to burden people but don't think you are a burden because I'm sure they care about you.
Love Fiona

[WeThree]

hi jenni i am so sorry to hear of your lost, i know you will find plenty of support on this site, there are threads on grief and bereavement where you might find some words of inspiration and hope, maybe you could start a thread on coping with the loss of a husband/wife/partner? i dont know if we have one of them, and im sure it would be useful to many people. there are also threads for people suffering from depression, although i have never suffered a loss such as yours, i have suffered from post natal depression, and i know how all consuming it can be. you need to get some emotional, financial support etc for you and your family, maybe you have a trusted family gp who can point you in the right direction? places such as anglicare offer grief counselling and can also offer assistance for other hardships one can suffer when a partner dies, such as financial problems. i hope this helps a bit and i also hope that you have many understanding people around you to support you during this sad time.
blessings, erin

[WeThree]

i also wanted to say hi and welcome to joshismum, im from wollongong as well, i look forward to getting to know you :)