why am i feeling like this.

[mybabyandew]

This is my 2nd pregnacy im about 8 weeks pregnant,my baby boy is 14 months old im not with his father he wasnt there at all for my frist pregnacy he saw his son last when he was a week old,and came back into our lives again when he was 9 months old and has left again.He hasnt of texted me all week and last night he texted me said whats doing thats all no hows andrew how are u,no im sorry for hurting you and being so mean to me,and i wrote back whos this cuz delted his number and i thought he would of texted saying hows andrew at least.He wrote back ur a dog so i knew it was him hes always calling me names and i said what do u want u runied my life and he said why dont u have my number and i said becuase i didnt want to text u and he writes bak ok and i say yes so what do u want do u want to come bak with me again for like 10th time,he was with me for 4 months,and lefted me about 10 times saying he didnt love me and coming back,and he wrote back no im happy.i dont know why im having his baby again i know i shouldnt be but i just cant get rid of it im having so many different feelings.and he is just making it so much worse he told me he would be there for me this time and wouldnt leave me but of course he did.Im just so scard how am i going to find someone with 2 kids now im only 17 and i have one kid and im pregnant. :crying:

[Whippet]

From reading your post, I can see why you'd be 'feeling like that'. You're going through a lot at the moment hun. :hugs:

The people around us will always make their own choices in life. Sometimes the choices they make hurt us, sometimes they're not the choices we hope for - but we have no control over that.

The best thing for you right now is to focus on YOUR choices because that's what you have control over. Choose to step away from this toxic person. Choose to accept that although he is the father of your children, he is not worthy of you right now.

Don't focus on finding someone else right now - that will come when it comes. This is the perfect opportunity for you to learn about yourself. Spend some time just with you.

Be brave, be strong and don't respond to any more of his messages until YOU feel ready!

Good luck hun. :hugs:

[toni796]

I totally agree with what whippet has said. It may also help you if you went and talked to someone about your situation to help you move on. You need to move on with your life and be happy and not let this man drag you down. Think of yourself, your son and your unborn bub. You and your children deserve to lead a happy and healthy life and by what you have said with him in it then things will not be happy.

[mybabyandew]

thanks for ur advices im going to try just to be happy and move on.

[MyFourCubs]

Do you have any family or friends around you? You need the support.:hugs:

[inertia]

Aw hun, :hugs:. I know how hard it is to go through a pregnancy alone, especially with the FOB messing with your emotions, wanting you one minute and discarding you the next. You are so better off without him at the moment. Try and focus on staying strong for your babies.

I don't know how I would have gotten this far through my pregnancy without additional support. The midwives at the hospital actually organised for me to speak to one of their psychologists every few weeks. She has been fantastic with supporting me and helping me to make the right decisions and do whats best for my baby. If you ever feel like it's all too much don't be afraid to speak to the midwives or your GP, they are there to help too. Or if you ever just need a sympathetic ear, feel free to PM me. Good luck hun, I wish you all the best!
:hugs:

[pavlova123]

Hi honey, u poor thing , u must be going through alot, i literally praise you , doing it on your own. I have to say to you, do you really want to put the second baby through this, not seeing his dad? But also i am aaginst abortion, i guess all us mums are as we see what beautiful things come into our life. Its so hard and would be harder being the single mum. BUT you get alot of support from the government and im sure you would get alot of support. do you have any support, family members, id hate that you would be doing this alone? I think i saw ur photo, you live in gc area hey? I live in coolangatta, qld. we should go out for coffee or sumthing, i am pregnant with second child 24 weeks and im suffereing from depression, cant go on meds and i dont want this baby. But im feeling for you. i am a young mum too , i am 20 years old. pm me when ever. we can go through our pregnancy together.