I have found her

[cocobambino]

OMG I cannot believe how happy I am to be writing this, I always thought Doula's were a hippy thing but once I researched I realise that this could mean the difference between a succesful VBAC or a repeat ceaser, this could mean the birth ive never had this could mean so much more that just some hippy fad, I found a Doula Im yet to meet with her face to face and im having our first phone chat today and im over the moon.

I found a Doula:smiliedance:

Please tell me you have had nothing but positive experiences from a doula

[demeter]

:smiliedance: I am thrilled for you! You're right a doula can make the difference between vaginal or caesarean outcome!

I love love love my doulas. They have become great friends, more like extended relatives. They were everything I needed! One of them brought flowers to the birthspace for me. They hand fed me grapes like a I was a queen! The massaged for hours on end and came up with brilliant ideas when I was too uncomfortable to think straight. I have nothing but fond memories of my birth experience and my doulas. I'm sure you'll feel the same if your doula is the right fit for you :thumbsup:

[AM]

Awesome news!! I had a trainee doula at my last homebirth, and she was just wonderful, she added to the lovely atmosphere, and it was a beautiful birth.

This time around I am also having a doula, I cannot say enough good things about them actually :)

[MelissafromSyd]

I have deleted my post as it has offended some readers. I thought this forum was about free speech where we were able to our personal opinion on what we would do in a given situation.

[BreithCuidiu]

Personally, if i needed a doula, I'd employ a private midwife in the role of doula. They're qualified to give the advice that they give, they've assisted women during birth as the primary care giver, they're aware of all the professional and legal issues and there's no potential problem with acting as midwives without the quals (it can be seen that way if it's a freebirth). All that said, I know some amazing doulas and have the highest respect for them - they do a great job. I think what's important is that you're happy with your decision, and it sounds like you are :)

The problem that I see with this is that Doulas shouldn't be giving medical advice. So why should they need a "qualification" to be a "primary caregiver". I'm not sure that you understand the role of a Doula. We are not, and do not wish to be, a medical caregiver. We are providers of support. We talk to our clients like they are sisters or friends. We rub their backs for hours. We move their cars out of 4 hour parking zones.We look after their other kids, do their washing, take meals o the shopping, run errands. We withold carkeys from a Dad who is too tired to drive. We stay until the woman is ready for us to go and that may be 5 minutes after the birth, or 5 hours.

What course covers modules that qualifies a Doula for any of that? Experience as a Birth Worker AND a Mother.

How utterly offensive. :mad:

[cocobambino]

Personally, if i needed a doula, I'd employ a private midwife in the role of doula. They're qualified to give the advice that they give, they've assisted women during birth as the primary care giver, they're aware of all the professional and legal issues and there's no potential problem with acting as midwives without the quals (it can be seen that way if it's a freebirth). All that said, I know some amazing doulas and have the highest respect for them - they do a great job. I think what's important is that you're happy with your decision, and it sounds like you are :)

If I wanted a midwife then I wouldnt have looked for a doula as there are midwives at the hospital, but they dont stay there, they wont get me through the pain naturally they cant speak up for me and know what I want they wont overstay their shift to keep me going will they, nope they will change over to someone else, I am having a VBAC and me and my hubby need the support well I DO anyway and thats all that matters.

[AM]

If you hired a midwife to take with you into hospital, you'd pretty much be getting a very over paid doula, as usually even a private mw will have little say over your care in a hospy setting. (It can sometimes be a little different, but it is rare)

[Shanaynay]

Please tell me you have had nothing but positive experiences from a doula
I had nothing but positive experiences from both my doulas :yes:
I had two doulas for my recent second hospital VBAC and they were fantastic, I wouldn't recommend anyone have a hospital VBAC without one!
Best wishes :thumbsup:

[BreithCuidiu]

If you hired a midwife to take with you into hospital, you'd pretty much be getting a very over paid doula, as usually even a private mw will have little say over your care in a hospy setting. (It can sometimes be a little different, but it is rare)

And your Private Midwife Doula surely couldn't put aside the medical side of things. I just couldn't see he point... Even those who hire a Private Midwife for a homebirth need to hire a Doula as well because the Mw cannot give all that is needed in terms of support.

Cocobambino, I'm so glad that you have "found" Doulas. We're not at all scary are we?

[cocobambino]

Cocobambino, I'm so glad that you have "found" Doulas. We're not at all scary are we?

No way, I havnt even met her yet but when i spoke to her over the phone for half an hour yesterday it was like old friends we spoke about our kids we spoke about my births, her births and i CANNOT wait till I meet her next thursday

[MelissafromSyd]

Even those who hire a Private Midwife for a homebirth need to hire a Doula as well because the Mw cannot give all that is needed in terms of support.

Not sure that I agree with this as there are plenty of homebirths without doulas, but we're all allowed to have our opinions :)

[SilverStarfish]

I have deleted my post as it has offended some readers. I thought this forum was about free speech where we were able to our personal opinion on what we would do in a given situation.




How utterly offensive. :mad:


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[Roopee]

OMG I cannot believe how happy I am to be writing this, I always thought Doula's were a hippy thing but once I researched I realise that this could mean the difference between a succesful VBAC or a repeat ceaser, this could mean the birth ive never had this could mean so much more that just some hippy fad, I found a Doula Im yet to meet with her face to face and im having our first phone chat today and im over the moon.

I found a Doula:smiliedance:

Please tell me you have had nothing but positive experiences from a doula

Sorry but this comment had me wetting my pants. You would be surprised at the amount of midwives and OB and even clients who expect me to walk in with bells on my skirts or something. The obvious shock on their face is quite funny:laughing:.
I'm not sure where the correlation between hippy's and Doula's came from but to me it's quite funny because I am far from it:laughing:.

Anyways...just wanted to say you sound over the moon with your choice of Doula, your choice of birth and your pregnancy- congratulations on all of it.:D

[cocobambino]

Sorry but this comment had me wetting my pants. You would be surprised at the amount of midwives and OB and even clients who expect me to walk in with bells on my skirts or something. The obvious shock on their face is quite funny:laughing:.
I'm not sure where the correlation between hippy's and Doula's came from but to me it's quite funny because I am far from it:laughing:.

Anyways...just wanted to say you sound over the moon with your choice of Doula, your choice of birth and your pregnancy- congratulations on all of it.:D

ROFL sorry it just came across as something that um hippyish people did:o

[Roopee]

ROFL sorry it just came across as something that um hippyish people did:o

Dont apologise- it's all good and a very common perception!! Just dont be alarmed when she turns up to your meeting in jeans:laughing: (and not the flared type either:laughing:)

[JJJ&D'sMum]

I had a trainee doula for my recent pg/birth and it was all new to me. I had no idea what to expect at first but after going through the journey with her, I would have to say that I would highly recommend a doula to anyone. She was there for me throughout the pg, she was a huge support during labour and she is still around even now. I had some decisions to make during labour that I don't think I would have been able to make without her being there....she explained a lot more than the OB/Midwives did which enabled me to be stronger and make my decision without the usual pressure from medical staff. All in all, having a doula is a wonderful experience that I would highly recommend to anyone.

Good luck with your pg and enjoy everything to the max!

BTW - my doula is no hippy but she does have a few piercings. :laughing:

[cocobambino]

Dont apologise- it's all good and a very common perception!! Just dont be alarmed when she turns up to your meeting in jeans:laughing: (and not the flared type either:laughing:)

:laughing: Ive seen a picture of her, she is beautiful doesnt look like a hippy lmao

[fai firinne]

ROFL here. That does it. I'm definitely getting out my socks and sandles and my macrame armpit hair. I *ahem* actually do have muslin skirts with bells etc but my 'inner hippie' has to settle for track panst and polo shirts when I'm attending births!

So glad you found a doula you like, C! Excellent. That 'click' is vital. I have loved the couples I've worked with, I think it's mutual!



We are providers of support. We talk to our clients like they are sisters or friends. We rub their backs for hours. We move their cars out of 4 hour parking zones.We look after their other kids, do their washing, take meals o the shopping, run errands. We withold car-keys from a Dad who is too tired to drive. We stay until the woman is ready for us to go and that may be 5 minutes after the birth, or 5 hours.



Yeh that. I once moved a car for my clients. But the birth intensified and we all totally forgot to move the car AGAIN afte 7am. They got a ticket. Bummer.