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mumof2brats
17-10-2008, 20:39
hi gals,
just wondering if anyone has had child protection services come to you about a report someone has made?
With my first son seth, we had protection services come to our door (5 people) + (a cop).
they were told that seth was covered from head to toes in bruises.
they checked him all over and even paid for a motel and petrol for us to go to the Adelaide medical center to get internal scans done.
when we got 300m from the hospital we got a phone call informing us that the doc had come down with the flu and that there wasn't going to be a scan done.the whole process was a waste of time im glad we didn't pay for it.
when we got home nothing had been said to us and the case agents us was dropped.
we do know who did it and (she) was our next door neighbor at the time.(she) did it to be nasty,and i no longer talk or have anything to do with(her)
our second report was that we lock seth in his room all day and that the kids get neglected,
(i had only just got out of hospital after having c/s with brock) when they docked on the door.
they too had cecked out the enviroment and the kids and they told us that there was absolutely nothing wrong with our parenting.
i found out that my sis-inlaw made the report and she also can be a very spytfull person.
some people just can't help themself in being spytfull,nasty or vendictive.:mad:
sorry for it being sooooo long.
thanks for reading....:)
Whoa, thats a bit full on!
Never had it happen to me, but I used to feel like the local gp was going to report me at one stage when I seemed to be doing nothing but taking my kids to him as they were constantly banging themselves up there for a few months...
Um, no, never.
But I do feel a bit awful when I've just spent the morning yelling at my boys because they are being defiant little monsters and then hear the next door neighbour playing chasies with her kids in their back yard....
PunkyDiva
17-10-2008, 21:43
Yes :hugs: my mother reported us and although what she reported was very petty and bordering on bizarre they still had to investigate. Lucky for us it was a small village and we had integrated well so people knew us and could back us up.
I hope karme well and truly bites people on the bum who waste a valuable teams time and cause untold stress with false vindictive reports.
We also had a Paed report us early this year when I homebirthed our son, but she lied to get Docs there and her own medical reports backed us up so big fat raspberry right back at her. Was still very distressing.
A positive is that we have been officially documented as caring, nurturing, wonderful parents :-)
mumof2brats
17-10-2008, 22:07
Yes :hugs: my mother reported us and although what she reported was very petty and bordering on bizarre they still had to investigate. Lucky for us it was a small village and we had integrated well so people knew us and could back us up.
I hope karme well and truly bites people on the bum who waste a valuable teams time and cause untold stress with false vindictive reports.
We also had a Paed report us early this year when I homebirthed our son, but she lied to get Docs there and her own medical reports backed us up so big fat raspberry right back at her. Was still very distressing.
A positive is that we have been officially documented as caring, nurturing, wonderful parents :-)
wow,your mother:thumbsdown: WHY???
couldn't she have just spoke to you about it.
yes,i agree about wasting protection services valuable time on petty things, but i guess all cases they have to investigate either the matter be small or big.
PunkyDiva
17-10-2008, 22:14
My mother has an untreated mental illness and had been removed from our house by police because of physical and emotional abuse to my family, and we had a restraining order placed on her. It was one of many ways she tried to get even. :( Contact with my parents has not been made since and I don't regret it at all, although it does make me sad at times.
It's a really long, involved and highly distressing story that very few people except old, close mates know.
mumof2brats
17-10-2008, 23:27
My mother has an untreated mental illness and had been removed from our house by police because of physical and emotional abuse to my family, and we had a restraining order placed on her. It was one of many ways she tried to get even. :( Contact with my parents has not been made since and I don't regret it at all, although it does make me sad at times.
It's a really long, involved and highly distressing story that very few people except old, close mates know.
oh, i'm sorry to that she is sick:(,hope she is getting the treatment that she needs.
i know what it feels like not to have contact with parents. when i was 16 my mum started drinking again and i could not handle it so i ran away from home and went to brissy to live with sis.
it was hard for me not to talk to mum as she is the only thing i have:crying: i don't know my dad never seen him in my 21 yrs of life:crying:
but since moving back to the riverland, mum and i have patched things up and have a great mother daughter relationship:valentine:
its so sad that people have nothing better to do than made false reports and waste the time of DOCS workers when they could be spending that time checking on children that really need help.
cocobambino
18-10-2008, 05:47
No..OMG punky your kids are SO well looked after, EXTREMLEY well mannerd and SO happy.
Every false accusation that DHS investigates is 1 real case they dont get to checko out in time
pinkgingham
18-10-2008, 09:32
no, i never have. if there was anything wrong with my parenting or how i do things, my mother would let me know coz she works for DoCs.
i would hate for anyone to try and put DoCs on me out of spite....especially as it means you are then on their system. :(
no, i never have. if there was anything wrong with my parenting or how i do things, my mother would let me know coz she works for DoCs.
i would hate for anyone to try and put DoCs on me out of spite....especially as it means you are then on their system. :(
Same same.....
It infuriates me when I hear of people who think DOCS is there as their personal means of seeking revenge on someone.... without a real reason to report.... it is hideous thinking of the poor kids who genuinely need help that aren't getting it thanks to spiteful so and so's who report false accusations for their own good..... :shame:
pinkgingham
18-10-2008, 09:53
Same same.....
It infuriates me when I hear of people who think DOCS is there as their personal means of seeking revenge on someone.... without a real reason to report.... it is hideous thinking of the poor kids who genuinely need help that aren't getting it thanks to spiteful so and so's who report false accusations for their own good..... :shame:
i agree
DoCs are understaffed and underfunded as it is, they are having enough problems trying to get to the real cases that need to be dealt with rather than having to investigate bogus calls. people that call child services out of spite need to be charged or made to pay a fine or something. maybe then people will think twice before wasting government resources. :thumbsdown:
Nope, no reason for it and no one in my life would do something like that.
blissfullybonkers
18-10-2008, 10:40
It infuriates me when I hear of people who think DOCS is there as their personal means of seeking revenge on someone.... without a real reason to report.... it is hideous thinking of the poor kids who genuinely need help that aren't getting it thanks to spiteful so and so's who report false accusations for their own good..... :shame:
it makes me sad to think of the kids who were really in need :(
Nope, no reason for it and no one in my life would do something like that.
Same here.
I find it so hard to comprehend someone calling DOCS out of spite:no:.
mumof2brats
18-10-2008, 16:58
Same here.
I find it so hard to comprehend someone calling DOCS out of spite:no:.
well there are people out there that do.
i suppose until it happens to your family,it would be hard to comprehend,on why they did it, or even how it feels.:(
nasty people do exist in this world either it friends or family.
subaruforestermum
18-10-2008, 17:59
Um, no, never.
But I do feel a bit awful when I've just spent the morning yelling at my boys because they are being defiant little monsters and then hear the next door neighbour playing chasies with her kids in their back yard....
Same, makes me feel like the worst parent in the world...
But no I havent and I am very suprosed that I havent yet.. .cos DS constantly yells out "I WANT TO GO HOME!!" when we are at home....
And he is pale so he is covered in lots of bruises, from playing in the yard with a big boofy dog and just being a boy....
ComeBackKid
18-10-2008, 18:12
But no I havent and I am very suprosed that I havent yet.. .cos DS constantly yells out "I WANT TO GO HOME!!" when we are at home....
:laughing:
I had a friend whose son -for some reason- would always scream HELP whenever they stopped at traffic lights in the car.
well there are people out there that do.
i suppose until it happens to your family,it would be hard to comprehend,on why they did it, or even how it feels.:(
nasty people do exist in this world either it friends or family.
It makes me sick to think that there would be people that would stretch the already limited resources of DOCS to make false claims against someone:no::hissy:.
subaruforestermum
18-10-2008, 18:36
:laughing:
I had a friend whose son -for some reason- would always scream HELP whenever they stopped at traffic lights in the car.
lol...oh no.... DS also says "I WANT MY MUMMY" when he gets in trouble at the shops, and I his mum am with him....
People called the cops on my mum at the shop cos he was telling her to let him go, and screaming "NOOOO Dont take me"...and whatever else he was screaming at the time....
PunkyDiva
19-10-2008, 22:12
A friend broke his arm on the monkey bars when a wee fella. When asked by the GP how it happened he told him his mum took a cricket bat to him :eek: Lucky the GP knew them.
fox_girl
20-10-2008, 20:20
i am not a spiteful person but i have questioned myself about the way a person i know is raising her 2 teenage sons.
One was busted smoking and when we asked what she was going to do she said nothing cos she is a smoker so there is nothing i can do. The eldest was busted for shopping lifting and nothing was done, no punishment. The kids do what they want.
The eldest also got accused of taking drugs by his ex girlfriend, she told his mum. we sat down and questioned him and he denied it and she believed him. She did a drug test which came back negative but she did it 3 days after we found out so of course it was going to be negative.
The kids get away with murder, she recently got the eldest into trade school, which is supposed to help turn things around. but it is more of a reward, he should be punished.
But as she keeps saying boys will be boys... Um boys arent all like that, my friends never were and neither was my brother.
What would you do if you were in this situation? We have tried to give her all the advise but it just falls on deaf ears.
mumof2brats
21-10-2008, 11:19
send them to boarding school:shame:
fox_girl
21-10-2008, 18:56
yeah that is a good idea. But they would probably get kicked out cos they are so naughty...
She has no control and it is quiet sad. I refuse to give advise as she never listens and at the end of the day it is her own fault she wont learn.
my poor mum had them turn up when my sis was 15, (i was 16, we were the youngest in the family), she was on a bad road, was 'chroming', drinking, ect, but the way the laws are set up, mum and dad could do nothing, as if they lock her in her room, that is abuse too! and my sis knew that there was nothing that they could do, mum and dad tried to get the police to lock her up on those late nights they would bring her home, but they wouldn't! so there was no consequence!
Mum ended up telling her she could not live at home, yes, it seems harsh, but it was the only thing mum COULD do, (and it was one of the hardest things she had ever had to do) it taught my sister alot, and yes, now, she is 22, a very hard worker, and has left all of that behind her, but if mum had of kept fighting to keep her, i dont think she would be... oh, mum and dad always punished us for doing the wrong thing, i think it is hard these days to blame the parents, when its the child who has no consequaense. mum has 4 other daughters, all have successful familys and careers, all they could do was try.
and she is now close with mum and dad and all us sisters too.
so, alot of the time, they are looking at the ppl who dont need looking at, and not looking under the rocks that need looking under...at least you know who did it, but i know its hard being looked at that way...:goodvibes:
Loopy Linda
21-10-2008, 22:05
i would like to agree with the last posters comments. i myself had the police called on my about my parenting only a week ago.
my 12 yr old son was being his utmost annoying, tormetative teenage self. late in afternoon i sent him to his room, he refused. i asked him 3 times and each time he jsut flat out refused. i got frustrated with him, lost my temper and took my sandal off and gave him a hit on leg. it was not hrad, i didn't leave a mark, shoe was only soft, it was more a shock tactiv, like i am serious here, go to your room. anyway he ignored it. in end he got 3 on these taps from my sandal. i know that i never hurt him once, i scared him a little, but not hurt him. i don't think i did anythign wrong
my 12 yr old son called the police on me!
i thought he was bluffing and i pulled phone cord out before he took his bluff too far.
i was too late, but i didn't know. the police traced my number and about 2 hours later came to my house.
within the 2 hours my son talked to my husband, and then to me. he apologised for his behaviour and admitted the the hit didn't hurt, jsut scared him cause i don't hit. i told him he is pushing me too far lately and i don't like it. he needs to lose his attitude and do as he is told. if he is going to act the same as his 5yr old brother he is going to be treated this way.
anyway point is it was all sorted before police came out.
when they did turn up i was very embarrassed. i got my son out to explain what had happened. one police officer did his best to hide his laughing, the other gave my son a nice lecture!
but kids are taught that parents can't do anything to discipline them physically. even a tap is abuse.
i myself want to do a parenting course, i don't want to be using my sandal too often, but at same time what do you do with a child who refuses the punishment you give them?
mumof2brats
22-10-2008, 21:10
OMG, i cant believe he called the police:shame:
when i was younger my mum told me if i did anything like that- i may as well pack my bags and live else where if did not want to live under her rules.
my mum was a harsh parent,but you always did as she said,the punishments she gave weren't that bad know when i look back on it
the best punishment i ever got was to write line-(i hated it at the time)
itS where you make the child write I MUST LISTEN TO MUM over and over and over etc etc or what ever the child has done wrong.
i used to write alot of pages out-front of page and back.it is boring.
but i learned very quickly to do what i was told.
:laughing:
I had a friend whose son -for some reason- would always scream HELP whenever they stopped at traffic lights in the car.
hehe my uncle(whos now nearing 40 lol) used to stand out the front of my nan and pops place when he was like 5 and scream 'stop hitting me' 'ouch' and all the rest.. little turd! how would you be!!
warriorPRINCESSdaughter
24-10-2008, 19:11
Mrs Green 663,
You are so brave, keep fighting for your rights but use the children's ombudsman to help you they will tell you your rights as well as help you exercise them. Child safety are not in my opinion too the best to help in some situations. I will help you by praying for the situation to be changed around, be strong as one day you can be of help to others in your very situation. Sometimes our path in life takes us to painful places but if we channel that pain by using it for good we win.
keep strong,
Jodie:hugs:
Myztiks#1Fan
24-10-2008, 19:31
yeap i have had them come and take coop away. very very hard time. we are still in touch with the ppl who looked after him and we got carolines 40th tomorrow night but prolly wont be going as we got no way to get there and back:thumbsdown:.
bronny-jane
25-10-2008, 16:58
cassie what was it they found in the scans ... it was obviously something serious for them to do this. and investigate further,,, they wouldnt have wasted there time other wise right..
Mrs Green 663 :hugs::hugs::(.
How horrible. I will pray for you and your family too:goodvibes:.
I had Child Protection called on me. I don't like talking about it because everyone just assumes you're a bad mother half the time. My neighbour came out with ridiculous lies about me. Well, they let us go after the interview pretty much -- EXCEPT for that we still end up being on their SYSTEM:mad:. Wonderful.
The trauma caused was pretty bad, even just because they turned up and didn't do anything else. I had JUST come out of hospital too and I was feeling suicidal -- and here we go, child services at your door. Certainly makes you feel so much better. I can't believe some idiots call CPS on people just for revenge, or when they have other options:thumbsdown:.
PunkyDiva
25-10-2008, 22:05
I know you prob just want this over and your family reunited and life back on track but will you get financial compensation to help this reunification eg counselling, if they caused the probs in the first place ?? :hugs:
our little treasures
25-10-2008, 22:29
Same same.....
It infuriates me when I hear of people who think DOCS is there as their personal means of seeking revenge on someone.... without a real reason to report.... it is hideous thinking of the poor kids who genuinely need help that aren't getting it thanks to spiteful so and so's who report false accusations for their own good..... :shame:
:iagree: I know some things about others that could get them in trouble with DHS but I would NEVER report them just to get at them. If I was to report someone it would be because they were abusing their children.
But as she keeps saying boys will be boys... Um boys arent all like that, my friends never were and neither was my brother.
What would you do if you were in this situation? We have tried to give her all the advise but it just falls on deaf ears.
I think I would stay out of it!! She is not abusing them and I think let her raise her children the way she see's fit.
my 12 yr old son called the police on me!
i thought he was bluffing and i pulled phone cord out before he took his bluff too far.
i was too late, but i didn't know. the police traced my number and about 2 hours later came to my house.
within the 2 hours my son talked to my husband, and then to me. he apologised for his behaviour and admitted the the hit didn't hurt, jsut scared him cause i don't hit. i told him he is pushing me too far lately and i don't like it. he needs to lose his attitude and do as he is told. if he is going to act the same as his 5yr old brother he is going to be treated this way.
anyway point is it was all sorted before police came out.
when they did turn up i was very embarrassed. i got my son out to explain what had happened. one police officer did his best to hide his laughing, the other gave my son a nice lecture!
but kids are taught that parents can't do anything to discipline them physically. even a tap is abuse.
i myself want to do a parenting course, i don't want to be using my sandal too often, but at same time what do you do with a child who refuses the punishment you give them?
WOW and to think he actually rang for help but it took 2 hrs:shame: for them to respond. I know it was him over reacting but what if it wasn't??
It would never happen to me... Everyone thinks I am a big softie and I am the only NON smacker that I know.
lachys_mama
26-10-2008, 14:15
i called DOCS on my ex when he had lachy as he was doing drugs and also leaving him upstairs unsupervised etc, anyways they investigated and so he wouldn't have to deal with it he gave lachy to his mum... when we found out that lachy wasn't ex dps son i told DOCS that since i wasn't unwell anymore that i could care for him. long story short ex monster in law called DOCS and tried to report me for being a mental case and i was investigated, luckily for me i was seeking treatment at the time for my illness and the hospital told them there was absolutely no reason why i couldn't care for lachy, however because of my own admission to my mental health being a problem at times i had to agree to be referred to an active intervention program so that DOCS wouldn't have to pop up unannounced to surprise me every so often... It can be so frustrating, I guess in my case I probably did need them involved and they did help me get lachlan out of the abusive situation he was in, but it was pretty upsetting to have them investigating me as i was just trying to get my life sorted out to be a better mum in the first place
our little treasures
27-10-2008, 13:14
Never say never. If you ever had to take one of your children to hospital, say just with a fever, if they so much as have a bruise, it is protocol for investigation before you leave the hospital and full body xrays, which can then lead to a nuclear bone scan. Happens all the time... of course they usually don't lead anyway, but they do them anyway for insurance reasons to cover their backsides if anything ever were going on, and the media got hold of it.
That is actually the one reason they are being so difficult with us, because now they HAVE been involved, if something ever were to happen without them having done as much as they could to stop us being with our children, the carers of the children can turn around and sue DCP.
I think it's important for Dr's and hospitals to step in if they believe the child could be at risk. The reason they do this is because of a young boy who died as a result of child abuse and the Dr's suspected but never reported it.
I don't doubt you but I know for a fact they are not that strict with bruises. My children have gone to the hospital with a bruise and they just ask the child briefly how it happened. Also my friends children have had so many accidents she is worried they will think the worse but they never have!! Perhaps the bruise was maybe a bit larger than a normal bruise.:confused:
stellarella
27-10-2008, 15:37
No I've never had any dealings with DOCS.
It's a difficult situtation deciding when to act and when not to act. On the one hand I have no doubt DOCS is utilised in personal vendettas which is a waste of resources, however at the same time there are situations where you wonder why on earth DOCS hadn't intervened. I don't envy their position.
I wonder if our neighbours will make a call to DOCS today. Oscar has been screaming blue murder all day :hair:
secondtimearound2
27-10-2008, 15:51
No, we have never had anything to do with them. It's a wonder though, Mr 2 decided to jump off the table just before his second birthday and fractured his collar bone! Then he was back 2 weeks later cause his darling sister decided to pull him off the bean bag, he had dislocated his elbow that time. Sibling rivalry hey!!!
i have never had DOC's come to me.
i have a "friend" and DOCs came and took her little boy (she has him back now), she asked if when she went to court if i would come and tell them how she is a good mother. I couldnt do it.
She treats her little boy like a thing. when i see them i feel sorry for him. She has done some nasty things to this little boy, that i had to try very hard not to cry.
mumof2brats
28-10-2008, 09:59
i have never had DOC's come to me.
i have a "friend" and DOCs came and took her little boy (she has him back now), she asked if when she went to court if i would come and tell them how she is a good mother. I couldnt do it.
She treats her little boy like a thing. when i see them i feel sorry for him. She has done some nasty things to this little boy, that i had to try very hard not to cry.
it would be hard to see a parent miss treat a child.
why cant parents just be so blessed with having children? i think im blessed with my baby's,even if ds1 does get told off,i always feel guilty for telling him off.
some parents just dont deserve precious gift's like children if they are going to miss treat them.
MAKE ME CRY TOO,hearing about miss treated children.
shaniaap8jh
29-10-2008, 22:43
:yes:You both know the truth about your children / family. DOCs can see past the :no:.
Love your children well & do your best with all those :ecomcity: individuals. All issues can be resolved if someone takes the first step to get it done. At the end of the day just be respectful to each other & let that be it (Dr. Phil.com.).
Yes, I had the law rock up to my ex pad. He stole my kids - long story.
:fingerscrossed:
Rabbity Babbity
13-11-2008, 13:42
My mother said she was going to report us. I asked why, and then told her to go ahead. We have nothing to hide. I think it's because she has a cleaning OCD and because we clean out house like normal people- a couple time a week, and she cleans her's a couple times a day might be the reason...:yes:
wow,your mother:thumbsdown: WHY???
couldn't she have just spoke to you about it.
yes,i agree about wasting protection services valuable time on petty things, but i guess all cases they have to investigate either the matter be small or big.
Um, no, never.
But I do feel a bit awful when I've just spent the morning yelling at my boys because they are being defiant little monsters and then hear the next door neighbour playing chasies with her kids in their back yard....
Absolutely know what you mean. My two boys are as you described and I feel like I am constantly yelling at them... :o
:laughing:
I had a friend whose son -for some reason- would always scream HELP whenever they stopped at traffic lights in the car.
Kids say the darndest things..... Thats so funny.
BOSS302WMOM
13-12-2008, 22:49
I would die if docs showed up. I would NEVER forgive the person who did if done in spite NEVER!!!! Your a bigger person than most
SomewhereOverTheRainbow
14-12-2008, 18:50
I think it's important for Dr's and hospitals to step in if they believe the child could be at risk. The reason they do this is because of a young boy who died as a result of child abuse and the Dr's suspected but never reported it.
I don't doubt you but I know for a fact they are not that strict with bruises. My children have gone to the hospital with a bruise and they just ask the child briefly how it happened. Also my friends children have had so many accidents she is worried they will think the worse but they never have!! Perhaps the bruise was maybe a bit larger than a normal bruise.:confused:
You are absolutely right. I'm a nurse myself and although I don't work in paeds, I know that all nurses are obliged to mandatory reporting of any suspected abuse against children. I think teachers are the same.
So if you get asked the same questions over and over and feel like noone believes you, don't take it personally. I have heard the most horrible stories from my friends who are paediatric nurses and sometimes the most normal and nice looking parents can be the worst culprits. You just never know and although I'm sure most injuries are just 'kids being kids', child abuse is rampant out there so there is definitely cause to be suspicious of everything. :yes:
shockinamillion
14-12-2008, 20:46
nic, child care workers have a mandatory reporting system too. That goes all the way through to all teachers too I think.
It bugs me to think that DoCS have come to visit people of such tiny tiny reports, when I made a 4 page report on a truelly abusive man and they told me they couldn't do anything about it. He was a ward of the state, so they treat him like a saint even though he is an evil despicable beast.
My mum was reported once by our next door neighbour for letting us stay outside late with smokers and druggos, and apparently we would be allowed drinks (at 7 and 3 yrs of age HAHAHA). I don't know if they turned up or not, I was too little but mum told me about it. The worst thing is the neighbour was mad because mum wouldn't talk to her, she had almost killed my little brother after thinking mums warning about his peanut allergy was not a big deal. A head the size of a basketball soon taught her otherwise.
Skittles
14-12-2008, 21:07
I recently had a neighbour who was threatening to call DOCs on me fo r"beating the cr** out of DD". Well DD wasnt even home on the day she said it all happened and i knew i was finr. Welcomed her to call them as i have nothing hide. All of this was in site. I had asked her to turn down her music (blarring at 11pm) and she hated me from that minute onwards. In the end her three kids got taken away by the police for some reason and she got evicted..
JabberJaw
14-12-2008, 21:27
Yes i have been reported when i took my son to hospital a couple of years back for bad bruises.
He had a few terrible bruises and i asked daycare if he had done anything there as he seemed to be getting alot of them, they said no, it was because he is a rough nut and they seemed to think they where normal 'boy' bruises. About a week later i decided to take him to our GP anyway because i myself am anemic and i bruise easily, but his where pretty bad, and had started going really unusually black. GP sent us for blood tests, i too had mastitis at the time so i took him for his tests and went home to get my hospi bag as i was being admitted for IV antibiotics (stress!) anyway GP rang me at home while i was packing and said Jyett had to go to hospi urgently should he call an Amulance or was i ok to get him thee, which yes i was, so i stopped by the surgery on the way to taking him to hospi ( and myself) and picked up the referral he had written, he told me Jyett had a blood disorder and it was VERY serious, one bump to his head could be fatal, i parked the car at the surgery and walked the block to hospi nervous of Jyett bumping his head.
When i arrived at hospi, i went to the triage nurse before seeing the doc and Jyett was admitted, when we finally got to kids ward, he had to have urgent blood transfusions for Thrombocytopenia (idiopathic thrombocytopenic pupia, its full name) they also set me up with IV antibiotics in kids ward as i refused to leave his side, so we both got treated in kids ward! Anyway next morning the police and someone from Docs turn up to the kids ward to say i have been cleared of the report they received as they now know my son has a medical condition ...... I was like WHAT THE :confused: had no idea there had been a report. Anyway i now believe it was the triage nurse who reported it, although i still have no idea why when i had a referral from my GP to state that Jyetts white blood levels where dangerously low, i suppose she was doing her job, but it did P!ss me right off since i had done all my GP had asked, while suffereing severe mastitis and i had just lost my bub 5 days earlier, so it truely was the icing on the cake.
Other than that, no incidents. I cant believe sometime that people report silly things when there are so many children out there that truly need help from Docs.
MummySharna
16-12-2008, 15:51
I too have had Child Safety on my doorstep and a police officer to try to take my 6 month old away. The night before my partner was dragged from work by the police and charged with 'touching' his sister even though he denied the claims they didnt belive him. My parents took my daughter that night so we could work out what we were going to do. The next morning Child Safety were knocking on my door and had claimed that he was also 'touching' our daughter. I rang my dad in tears, thankfully he is a pretty wealthy man, and he came over with him lawyer and said that they are not takin our daughter and that he would take full custody of her until the situation was resolved.
Turns out my partners parents had rang Child Safety told them of this s***. In 2004 they had a baby and sadly lost him a few days after he was born. They have 6 kids already, have full custody of their eldest sons 3 kids and are trying to get his other 2 kids. They are in their 60's and still trying for more kids even though over 10 doctors have told them no its not going to happen they just keep goin to different doctors for 'second' opinions, basically until they are told what they want to hear. They have tried this with their second eldest son to get custody of his son but didnt make up a big story like this one.
My partner has no only lost custody of his daughter, he is only allowed 1hour visitations with her a week and have to be supervised by the department. He is also constantly going to court to defend himself against the claims with his sister.
His parents hated me from the start. Like they keep their kids close, at home and never let them do anything, i mean their 30year old daughter is still living at home sharing a room with her 16 year old sister! I use to go over to his house for dinner and his mum would never speak to me directly he would always ask something through my partner. She would sit at the other side of the table and stare at me and ocasionaly kick me under the table and everytime she would just say 'Oh sorry my foot slipped'. I was never good enough for her son. My partner and I had been friends for over 5 years and only after 3 months of being together i found out i was pregnant. We told them a few weeks after when i could no longer hide my morning sickness and they sat down at the table and said we should have the baby, two days after telling them they rang me telling me to come over so i did, they had gotten adoption papers drawn up to take custody of my baby when she would be born, they kept trying to get me to sign them and told me i could come visit her whenever i wanted but i could never tell her that she was mine.
My partner was sooo estatic he asked my mum if he could move into our house and pay her rent to help support me through this time as i was only 18 and scared ****less. He even had to move his stuff while his whole family was out at work, shopping or at school to avoid them yelling and screaming at us. I was gettin constant annoying and harrassing phone calls from his parents telling me that he would be back and that i was a little **** and that the kid is either made up or not his. I had a complicated pregnancy and the stress didnt help me much and i delivered early. It was funny they yelled at me and my partner cos we told my parents before them that our daughter had been born and that my parents got to see her before they did. But as soon as she was born everything changed.
They were always trying to get us to leave her there overnight or if we would go there for a dinner or a visit they would always take her down the hall and check her over for bruises and stuff. I would never hit or hurt my baby and they didnt belive me. I am not a violent person so i didnt understand why they would think i would.
When my daughter was 4 months old we decided we wanted to live as a family and rent a house but as soon as they found out they were calling and asking us to move in with them. I told them no and a week after moving out my partner asked me to marry him which i accepted. As soon as they found out about that they got aggressive so i stopped going around to their house and refused to let my partner take my daughter there as they were simply nutcases, and he was oblivious to it!
A few weeks later i was sitting at home waiting for my partner to get home from work as i had just finished cooking dinner and sat down to wait i had a phone call from him crying at the police station telling me he had been arrested and that he would fill me in later. I rang my parents to come take our daughter so i could go up there and get him out.
He came home and told me everything, everything his parents had told them that had happened. I was furious but confused and so upset. I couldnt believe someones parents could say something like that about their own child.
The next morning Child Safety comes knocking on my door and i refused to tell them where she was. They finally gave in once my dad and his lawyer turned up and my partner and i had to sign custody over to my parents. That was the hardest thing i have ever had to do in my life. I knew my parents would look after her and i had no doubt about that but once they told me we had to have visitations to see her i couldnt take it anymore.
This has been going on since May last year :'( I now have part custody of her back but my partner has no custody. His parents are still calling them on a regular basis asking for custody of her and for visitations but my parents refuse to let them see her thank god. Then a few weeks ago my partners brother died so we went to his funeral and of course his family was there, they came and spoke to us like nothing was wrong! They hugged us and even asked us up to their place for dinner!!! I was so angry and had to leave.
Then a few weeks ago i got a few txt messages and an email from the 'victim' my partners sister asking what we wanted for christmas and what time we would be coming up there for dinner! I was shocked! I still am! How can a family do this to their own child!
So no your not alone, i am still going through this and probably will for a while. I just think how much time my daughter has lost with her father due to them. I am currently pregnant with our next baby so everytime i go out i wear baggy shirts so if i happen to bump into his family or they see me they will no nothing of it so hopefully one life can be saved from suffering through all of their ****.
Sorry about the novel i wrote, but it felt VERY good to vent :D
Rabbity Babbity
16-12-2008, 16:04
MamaSharna: :hugs::hugs::hugs:
Talk about inlaws from helll. In the end people like that undo themselves...
MummySharna
16-12-2008, 17:00
Yeah i know! I just takin each day as it comes and cherish the time i get to spend with my little girl :D Hope Karma comes back and bites them in the ***!
I forgot to write in the novel LOL That i also moved back home to be with my little girl so i can still have an active roll in her life. Atleast she knows who her mummy is and that she is loved. She sometimes forgets daddy but her eyes light up when she finally recognises who he is :D
Rabbity Babbity
16-12-2008, 18:10
Thats sweet, I really feel sorry for your DP, I hope that someone see's the truth. He is so lucky to have you and your family backing him up. I hate that an innocent man is being accused of thing, and the people whose job is to protect children are wasting their time with him, when there are children that need protection.
I think that when your DP is cleared his parents should cover the cost that the government has paid for this pathetic run around his stupid parents have caused...
shockinamillion
16-12-2008, 18:29
Mummysharna, OMG what a dreadful time you guys are having, I really hope your DP gets through this. What a disgusting bunch of people, how dare they stoop to think themselves 'family'. I hope they get what is coming to them. Just make sure that lovely little girl grows up knowing that she has real family that loves her.
MummySharna
16-12-2008, 19:30
Thanks everyone :D
I just dont know why Child Safety cant see past their lies, but i guess they need to investigate. But i get so angry that they are wasting their time with us when two little twins the same age as my little girl died due to their parents neglecting them a few suburbs away! Where were they then???
I have no idea what to do anymore? I just want to go back to living as a normal family, we were just starting to get on track and financially stable and then this happens. My parents have been wonderful and sooo supportive and call my partner their son. My parents could never believe that they could do this to him, like my parents never liked his from the start but now they just hate them. I think we all do.
If anyone has any help at all with what we can do and what we cant do it would be greatly appreciated, i just want to go back home as a family. We cant get a lawyer as they havent taken us to court yet as we have been co-operative with them from the very beginning.
We plan on suing Child Safety and his family over false allegations and emotional damage after all this is over. My partner spoke to his criminal lawyer about it and they said that yes we could get a fair bit out of them so hopefully that will teach them a lesson.
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