Going back to work

[Issey]

I got a call today that a full-time place in childcare has come up in July in a very good centre. I should be happy but I :crying: cried as I know it means being a SAHM is coming to an end and I have to work.

My job is full-time although I don't want to work that many hours. My thoughts are go back and see how it goes and maybe look for part-time if it is too much or request job share. I am also starting doing party plan so was hoping I could work part-time and supplement my income with that as DH could look after DS so he isn't in care so much. I still want to do the partyplan so I can have this as my goal.

I feel so sad about leaving my DS :crying: . I have six weeks left :eek: so I have to wean him from daytime feeds onto the bottle as I don't want to express at work. I am so jealous of SAHM's who can enjoy there little ones as I am no way ready to go back to work. I will miss so much my mothers groups as I really enjoy them.

[Foxy]

Hi Debster, Hugs to you. :hugs: It is such a hard situation, I hope you find the balance you need to make it work for all of you. :)

[fee's]

I got the same call 2 weeks ago and had all the same feelings. I am going back 3 days a week in June but have had to start bub at the centre already to keep the place. He is going 1 day a week and I have been picking him up after lunch, I will stretch it out each time he goes to ease him and me into it but I feel terrible doing it regardless.

:hugs: to you I know exactly how you feel. Good luck with the bottle thing, my boy is 11 mths next week and still isn't interested in any thing except water from a bottle. I am going to bf him morning and night and when I am not at work and see how my milk holds up?? he just wont take expressed milk, formula or cows milk warm or cold, sipper cup or bottle or straw I have tried everything but to no avail. Friends who are more experienced than me have convinced me that he will be ok with that much milk but I see my pediatrician before I go back to work and will check it all out.

again good luck, sorry to go on and on but I can really relate to this at the moment.

[Issey]

I have just had success with bubs having milk from a tommee tippee cup with handles on the side and a spout with one hole, he doesn't have to suck and he is drinking it :yelclap:. So good for all the teats and bottles I bought as now I have to buy more of these cups.

Maybe I will ease bubs into childcare the first week and do half days. Probably for my anxienty not his.

[Briswegian]

I go back to work in a few weeks and my bub will be 14weeks old...for three days a week. I SO don't want to. I love the childcare centre (my 2.5 year old goes there) but I just don't want to leave my baby. Also, paying for childcare x 2 means we'll only be about 3-400 dollars better off a fortnight but we need that money. If I were to SAH then the centrelink wouldn't quite cover that. So off to work I go.

I am comforted, however, by the memory that even though I had to leave my first son, we all coped and there were even positives for me to work and positives for him in terms of socialisation etc in care. My eldest is a chirpy, clever, funny, caring boy so we all survived.

:hugs: Good luck!

[Issey]

Thanks, however I am feeling really sad today after going into work to tell them when I will be coming back :crying:

[nats]

Debster, my heart breaks for you :crying: I will be faced with the same dilemma next year. I dearly hope everything works out!!! What a sad state of affairs we are in when we are forced for economical reasons to return to work so early!!!
Some times i just want to go join the amish but then NO TV!!! Scr*@w that!!!

[iluvmeboyz]

i know how you feel i have to go abck to work on mon 32hrs i do was goign to do 40hrs but dp goes to uni at nites as he works during the day and cause he has uni tues i cant work that day so hopefully he can get soemthing out of this course and that i can stay the hrs i doing now.

[MrsMiggins]

Oh Deb!!! :hugs: I'm so sorry!! It's really hard, I know.

I knew I would really struggle & had hoped I wouldn't have to go back at all, but even worse than I'd feared, I have to go back full time & also way earlier than I thought I'd have to.

I am really lucky though in that I am able to work from home (for now) & that for the most part I have DH & my mum & dad who will do the majority of the care.

While I am extremely grateful for all of this, I still will not be able to spend time with my beautiful baby girl during work hours and it totally breaks my heart! I don't know what I'd do if I had to work in the office full time.