Uhm I just came out...

[lachys_mama]

I kinda shocked myself today, I have an ex visiting me today and I told him I think I am gay... At the very least I am bi but prefer women... I think I have always known but never really thought about it, just thought i was meant to get with a man, have babies and live out my life that way, but i really think i need to be true to myself now... But what if no one ever loves me again, i'm now a single mother, i'm not very good looking *sigh* i have all these things going around and around in my head... sorry rant over

[NibbleCurlynBub]

Well, being a single mother I suppose you are in a place where you can be open to whatever relationship you feel ready for.

Women are more tolerant and accepting of people than men are. I honestly feel that a woman would appreciate you much better than many men ever could.

:hugs:

And don't worry. All single Mums worry about being alone forever..

[Angelmist♥]

Firstly, congratulations on being honest :)

secondly, I think we all have those thoughts at times. As PP said, be true to yourself and eventually you will meet the right person for you :hugs:

[lachys_mama]

thanks for the support guys, i just spoke to my dad and he said "i love you no matter what side you bat for" which was surprising... anyways yeah thanks for the kind words they mean more than you know

[SorenLorensen]

cheers for a new life that is true to you :party: (we need a smiley of clinking glasses :laughing:)

and also i just had a quick squiz at you myspace (:o) and lovey you have rocks in your head.

i'm not very good looking
Pfffttt. i only saw a quite attractive natural looking woman....
but i guess we always see ourselves differently to what we actually are and in your case its a beautiful woman:hugs:

[2bunnies]

My sister is gay, so I am around alot of gay women and my perception is that they are FAR less judgemental on looks than men are anyway, i had a look at your myspace and you ARe being totally too modest. I'm sure you will find someone when the time is right and have a great relationship.
Good luck and well done for being honest.

[codswallop]

:yelclap:congrats on coming out!
my little brother likes to throw comming out parties for his friends so here is a little coming out party for you:smiliedance::flowerz::ecomcity::party:
every thing will work its self out wether your gay or straight married or singgle(yep thats right married) we all feel like no one "wants " us at times
but they do dirty sex crazed nation we live in
:p

[Ashleigh<3]

We seem to be our worst critics. :hugs:
I'm sure you're beautiful.

Wishing you all the best.

[Veritas]

Good for you hun.... living your life as your true self is the biggest gift you can give your children and yourself!

And stop being so hard on yourself..... beauty is such a unique thing.... everyone looks at the same canvas and sees a different picture..... You are definitely not unattractive my dear.... and I'm sure you will be the apple of some lovely ladies eye in the years to come!

[Mum&bubs]

Good on you for coming out- I imagine it must have been tough, well I'm guessing, really I have no idea.

I hope you find someone whether it's a man or a woman that makes you happy :thumbsup:

[SassyMummy]

I'm not in love with women, but I am a woman in love... and let me tell you, how someone looks is the least of my concerns!

Once you like the person, the way they look changes anyway. You could have the hottest person ever, but if they're horrible, I see them as unattractive physically as well. And my boyfriend, to me, is the sexiest thing on earth. He's not muscle-clad or any such thing... but to me, he's beautiful.

All the things he sees as flaws, I see as little unique details that make up him.

I imagine I'd feel the same if I was with a girl too. :)

[singlemum]

well good on u. i know what its like when u first come out. It is hard but u will find over time its easier as it goes on.
Women are alot better and will give u all the time in the world. I am Bi and have a gf now and its the best thing that has ever happen to me.

[FishFace]

Oh wow congratulations.

It must be a relief to have ti out there...
and how beautiful is your dads reaction.

I dont think gay women are less into looks, but I do think they see women differently to men.

Goodluck honey. Love is such a special thing and I think the only thing that holds you back is your own insecurity.
xoxoxoxoxo

[Whippet]

thanks for the support guys, i just spoke to my dad and he said "i love you no matter what side you bat for" which was surprising... anyways yeah thanks for the kind words they mean more than you know

:laughing: My Dad said the same thing to me when I came out to him.

So glad you have support from your family, that's important.

When I came out I was single for three and a half years. I found it was one thing to come out - accepting it was a little harder for me so I needed to 'find myself' before I was ready to share my life with someone else.
So take all the time you need now to really find your true self. Be very proud of yourself for being brave enough to take this step because it can be a hard one to make.

Please don't worry about your looks. I had a peek at your homepage and feel you have nothing to worry about :)

[2mums]

Congratulations on taking a huge life altering step - FOR THE BETTER - when we are true to ourselves we have the potential for immense happiness. I know lots of lesbians with children and they have had no difficulty finding partners - just be honest that u r a Mum

[Izy]

YAY for accepting your sexuality! And super YAY for doing it now rather than fighting it for years and years.

[sam's mum]

:hugs: for you and :yelclap: for your dad.

I won't say that life as a single mum is easy, straight or gay it sucks.

Good luck, you will find support here when you need it.