HELP The wheels have fallen off our NCSS

[Velouria]

I am desperate for any advice or words of wisdom as our very successful move to using the NCSS has been seriously derailed.

Owen took to self settling really well (see my posts in the thread "what is a no cry sleep solution"), however now he gets hysterical when we put him in his cot.

I don't know what has happened but I have reverted back to feeding him to sleep and then very gently putting him in his cot. That doesn't always work and some days I have had to have him sleep on my lap just so I know he is getting some sleep. It is just awful as we have resorted to having him in our bed (he has been waking up every two hours at night - no idea why) and by the early hours of the morning I am so fed up I bring him into bed. He sleeps better but we don't. I like to sleep on my back which I can't do as he is feeding - consequently my hip and back ache when I wake in the morning.

For some reason he has regressed back to worse than before, as now he also only seems to sleep for about 20 minutes before needing to be resettled. He just wants to be held to sleep.

Does anyone have any answers for me or have they had a similar experience. it is so depressing as I fear we have lost our "good sleeper" and we will have to deal with this for a longtime. Its frustrating too as I don't know why it has all fallen apart and he feels so insecure now.

Jill

[TuesdaysPrincess]

Do you think that there may have been a time when being in his cot scared him? Or has he associated something bad with his cot?

Can you spend time with him in his room where he can play in his cot, and you are there with him?? Then he can see that his cot is not a bad place, it's a safe place where he can play and be with his mum, etc.

We had to do with with DS when he was learning to self settle. We would just put his favourite silky blanket and stuffed toys in his cot, and sit on the rocking chair next to the cot, reading stories and playing through the bars, so that he knew that the cot was a safe place.

It took a while, but it did work and now he sleeps 2.5 hours in a lovely long stretch during the day and :fingerscrossed: sleeps through the night 6 nights out of 7!

[misskittyfantastico]

In my experience (don't I sound like a know-it-all?:p) babies - or at least my two - change their patterns really regularly. DS is waking again frequently throught the night where as we WAS only waking once (bliss). I know it'll change again, I'm just trying to get through it as best I can.
In terms of cot-ness. I have a cot side-car style next to the bed - I've always patted or fed or both him to sleep (lying next to him) then just been able to get up - putting him into a cot always woke him up. I don't know if that's something you would consider? I know that it helps alot atm, because I can comfort him and still get a little bit of bed to myself to sleep the way I wish (I SOO hear you on the sore back)

[peanutbutter&jelly]

Maybe go back to page 114 and try the 'my bed is a nice place' thing... and definately do a log and see if you can pick up on any changes! I'm sure you'll be back to sleeping well soon :hugs: