Ask and you shall recieve!!

[WeThree]

Well here it is, I asked Hilary for a step parents/Blended families section, and we got it!! Thanks Hilary! :hugs:
I know I am not the only one here who has a bit of a Brady Bunch (his, hers and ours) and there are lots more of you out there who may have a partner who is a step parent, or you may be, or your child/ren may go to your ex's regulary and have a step parent there.
Whatever your situation, if you have issues to discuss regarding blended families, this section is for you!!! :smiliedance:

[Blessed Mum]

Great minds think alike Erin ;) . I actually was thinking of requesting the same section. :thumbsup: yay!

[WeThree]

Hey Tara, do you have step children? :)

[Blessed Mum]

Sure do, they are almost 15 & 17 years old & raised my stepson since he was 9. New to the stepmum/stepdaughter thing but hoping to be just friends. DSS can cause copious amounts of grief but love him all the same :)

[Starlet]

Great idea!! :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

[caz]

Thanks Erin, what a great idea.

I have a feeling I may use this area often in the future, My DSD is 10 going on 21 :eek:

[WeThree]

I thought there was a few of us out there!!
Caz, I have a step daughter around the same age, I can totally relate!! :)
Tara, do you find it easier to get on with your ss or sd? I always imagine it would be easier to have a ss for some reason..............
Starlet, it looks like you have a pretty big blended family like me, lol!!

[Starlet]

Lol, yep, a pretty unusual one actually.

I have 2 sons from a previous relationship.

I have a DSD that isn't my DPs biological daughter.

I have a DSD that is DPs daughter.

And now we are TTC a bubby of our own hehe.

[Blessed Mum]

I would have to say my ss. We just seem to get along better, always have. As I said before we haven't had that much opportunity until recently to have much contact with sd & I spose she is close to her mum whereas ss has always had issues with his mum & has always wanted to be with his dad. I find it hard to know my place with the sd in terms of what role & how intrested she wants me to be in her or if she is just wanting her dad & half sister & half brother around. Intrested to hear anyones experiences with their relationships with sd's.

[munchkin05]

yay for us step mummies :wave:

i have 2 dss adam is 15 and live with me and dp

jake is 7 and comes to us on weekends

then we have our bubba ben



how does everyone get on with there dps ex ??

[pegasus]

Just wanted to say thanks for asking for the section Erin.:thumbsup:

As you probably know from my other posts, I've got a 13year old DSD and an 11year old DSS. I've been with their father since they were 4 and 2 (their parents had been split up for a year), so I've seen them through a lot of stages. I'm sure I'll add more as we get convos happening:D

[Starlet]

I don't.

But that was her choice, she is a nasty piece of work though :(

I won't go into that now but yeah, we have the girls 3 days a week, they only get healthy meals and bathes at our house :( DSD1 doesn't know her father as he doesn't even know she exists. Very very sad.

She is very manipulative.

We have very little contact and we pick them up and drop them off to her and that's all we have to do with her.

DP and I have been together for just over a year now but we have been best mates for 6 years so I guess that is why she has ill feelings towards me. She has only JUST started talking to me, but only to ask me questions.

She wants to know everything that DP and I are doing. Very annoying! lol.

[munchkin05]

dss1 me and his mother get along great i go to her house for dinner by myself we go shopping have her over to ours for dinner we all go away with each other for 2 weeks at xmas and its all good


dss2 i cant say anything about his mother cause my mum always said if you cant say anything nice dont say anything at all :rolleyes:
but b itch is a mild word to use for her

dp and i have been together 5 1/2 years they broke up only a few months before dp and i got together so she think i was seeing him while he was still married but i wasnt but she hates me and well the feeling is right back at her
shes totally banned from my house shes not even allowed her to drop or pick up dss we always take him home

[pegasus]

Short answer - No.

I wondered if my problem before I met her was that I was getting too much of hubby's side of the story about what a nasty piece of work she was and tried to withold my judgement until I met her.

Well - first time I met her I put an assault charge on her. Maybe I'll post the rest of the details about this one day, but the short story is that I would have been tempted to get nasty back, but the kids were in the car watching and screaming - that showed me what sort of mum she was and why I could never allow any violence in my home (these kids have obviously witnessed too much).

[Blessed Mum]

Well the getting along thing is a hard one for me. For many years there was a lot of *@#! & I was the one who had to DSS through all of it as he needed a mother figure. We are only just starting to know DSD because DH wasn't allowed basically - lots of reasons. After many years of no contact we are all back in contact & she seems a lot better but my guard is still way up. I really don't believe people can change that much but she is doing the right thing by DSS at the moment & that makes me happy - it is hurtful in a way also. DH is a little annoyed that I'm still quite stand offish but that's the way it is. And after so many years of them not speaking at all they now speak on the phone for 1hr or longer at a time & get along. I think this is great as far as the kids are concerned but I get a little annoyed - oh well:rolleyes:

[WeThree]

Hey Tara, I struggle with forming a good relationship with my DSD as well, she seems to be resentful of me and the other kids, I think alot of it has to do with her mum. Rather than explaining to her and helping her understand that she is still loved by her dad even though he has a new family etc she seems to feed her insecurities, which I think is really sad.
So I guess that partly answers the other thing I wanted to answer, no, I dont like DH ex, although I always try and try to put a smile on and be nice to her, no matter what she does to me. (not always easy!)
On the other hand I get on really well with my ex's new partner, she is lovely and takes care of my son really well when he is there. Actually I feel more secure knowing she is there than I did when it was just his dad, he is not the most reliable of people. :rolleyes: