1st pregnancy M/C

[kyliev]

Hi everyone.:gloomy:
I am new to this web site and to chat rooms- but felt needed to talk to someone. Found out last Fri that had a missed M/C- no symptoms, adn only discovered at 12 week U/S. Admitted to hospital Sat for D&C. Now am feeling lost and angry. Was 1st pregnancy, and had "done all the right things" in prep. AM keen to start rying agian but getting inconsistent info re when it is safe- have GP review tomorrow- dos anyone know what I should expect??
Thanks
Kylie

[MumsieMel]

Hi kylie,

Sorry i dont have any info, but just wanted to say welcome :wave: and send you some hugs :hugs:

[Mum&bubs]

Hey! Sorry to hear about ur loss. I had a miscarriage & then after that i found out i was pregnant again with my second just a few weeks later so im thinking it is safe! No matter what you do some things just dont work out & its not you to blame. I say try again :thumbsup: and hopefully things go better for you. Good luck pm me if you would like to chat :kiss:

[mumslilspunks]

First of all Kylie :hugs: and welcome!!
I had my first M/C on sat night so i know how you feel.:crying: Just remember that it was nothing you did and we really cant help these things. Sometimes our bodies just know when things arent right and correct it, even if its not what we want! Hope you start to feel better soon. If you need a chat feel free to PM me.:yes:

[Kayte]

:hugs: my thoughts are with you.. i miscarried 3 weeks ago today.. and am very keen 2 start trying again... not sure if i should wait for af or not... Chin Up Chick - sending lots of hugs your way !

[Bron]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. :hugs:

I too lost a baby to a missed miscarriage, it was also my first pregnancy, no signs, no suggestion that anything was wrong, just heartbreaking news at the 13 week scan. It is a very trying time. Take your time to heal, lean on your partner and let him lean on you.

Your GP will probably do what mine did - make a whole lot of very reassuring noises about how sad it is, but also how common, and tell you that you can try again when you've had a complete cycle and when you feel emotionally ready.

We waited two cycles the first time to try again, my body was ready, but I wasn't.

Welcome to bubhub, many of us have been there, and we're ready to support you.

I'm thinking of you at this difficult time. :hugs:

[OscarTheGrouch]

I am also sorry to hear of your loss. Another here who also had a missed miscarriage. I was 12 weeks when I had a scan and found out the sad news, my heart just sunk. It's a very emotionally trying time. Take care of yourself. Lots of :hugs: coming your way.

[AnnaT]

Your supposed to wait until you have 1 normal period.
I had a missed m/c in December and conceived in the first week of Jan without ever getting a period back. Completely unintentional, esp as we were being treated for unexplained infertility. Im now 20wks pregnant and our baby boy is perfect in every way. I say give yourself the one cycle rest to help you emotionally and physically, it was really hard the first 12wks of this pregnancy worrying ten fold if we had stuffed up getting pregnant again so quickly.

[Fairyfloss]

I am so sorry this has happened to you. I was told to wait for three months, after both my M/C, it is hard, but give yourself to moarn the loss of your baby, and heal, lots of hug to you:hugs: , good luck:thumbsup:

[onkybear]

:hugs: As all the girls have said, please try not to blame yourself. As you said, you did everything right.

I had a natural m/c on nov 1st 05. We were told that it was best to wait one cycle. We decided to wait til we were both emotionally ready. We ended up falling preg again in feb and our bub is due the 11 nov. I am now nearly nine weeks past when lost our first bub and everything is going great.

:hugs: :kiss: :hugs:

[Tea Lady]

Hi Kylie. So sorry to hear about your m/c :( As you can see from my sig I miscarried in March and it was horrible. The others are right that it's not your fault - unfortunately m/c happens and you can't do anything about it, not that that makes it any easier for you.

I read a bit about how long to wait before trying again, and talked to my doc about it and the general consensus was that your body won't get pg if it's not ready to (I'm talking physically, not emotionally). We decided to let nature take its course, and it turns out I'm pg again without getting AF and we had a scan the other day and everything is looking good. I'm not saying you should try straight away, just that there's no reason not to if you feel ready.


I hope you feel a bit better soon. At least there are quite a few women here who know how you feel.
:hugs:

[hoping4another]

Hi,

I am very sorry for your loss, I have lost two babies to missed m/c with no signs but i did think sometihng was wrong with the 2 PG as my symptoms weren't getting any stronger or as bad as 1st PG.
Please feel free to chat here as the forum has really helped me in the healing of my losses..
Cry as much as yon needed to...
After my 1st M/C i waited 6 months but this time i am planning to TTC after 1st cycle if my last test is back...
:kiss: :hugs: :hugs: :kiss: Please take care...

Wendy

[SammyG]

Hi,
I'm another in the miscarriage department. I got a lot of conflicting info on when to TTC. Registrar at hospital said 3 cycles, GP said 1 cycle. After reading all your responses I feel better about trying now after 1. We fell PG 1st go with Ben but it took 4months last time. I don't know how women cope when it takes longer cos I was getting a bit obsessed. I'm a bit more relaxed so far. I felt heaps better after resuming cycle and it only took 5 weeks after emergency D&C.
Good luck when you are ready and keep us posted, I love it here hearing from others going thru exactly the same thing (makes me feel less alone)
:hugs:

[Percy]

Hello

Sorry to hear about your loss. I m/c at 15 weeks, and felt very angry as well, as i had done all the right things as well. I dont think the pain of it ever goes away. we later found out it was a little boy who we called thomas.

I got pregnant a month later and now have a healthy 11 month old, so i would say start trying when you are ready, although do check with your gp that you are okay to. Just make sure you are emotionally ready as well.

Good luck

[kyliev]

:wave:
Hi everyone,
Thanks so much for all of your replies-very therapuetic and comforting to know I am not the only one out there, I have never felt so isolated before. Apologies for late response- went back to work this week, and have been a bit short of time. Going back to work was an experience- people had been told becasue of the nature of the work I do, and boy did I feel like a leper. People seem to be avoiding me, and I know it is becsaue they dont know what to say- but hey a simple hello would be great at this point. Have had some more bleeding since m/c and went to GP again yesterday as was concerned infection might be setting in- she did not confirm either way, so am in limbo land a bit, adn hoping that this bleeding which I am pretty sure is not AF stops soon. DH and I are considering some counselling, because I think the emotional side is going to be hardest for us, Feel very confused about TTC again, at the moment am still waiting to be able to be intimate again post surgery. If anyone wants to read some interesting info on natural conception Judy Ford- based in Adelaide has an interesting website
I am so glad I came to this site- I will stay in touch even when pg
Thanks again everyone
:hugs: :hugs:

[tyhleigha & izaiah's mum]

:wave: hi and welcome:wave:
im sorry to hear about your terrible loss
:hugs: :hugs: