ignoring bad behaviour

[jessica]

I've been trying to IGNORE 21mth old's tanties - the tanties are 99% of the time because she wants to be carried but mummy just can't right now!! So I try to ignore the whinging/whining/SCREAMING - BUT how long can you ignore a screaming child - the tears, the yelling, the running to her room and getting up onto the rocking chair to rock and SCREAM (how cute!!:o ) it breaks my heart to hear/watch the dramatic little show she puts on DAILY!! As soon as I cave (and yes I generally do after about 10minutes of 'help I'm dying here' type screaming!) and give her a cuddle she is fine - but is she learning to pull mummys strings!! Aaaahhhhhhh:confused:

[kymmy]

it takes practice
it is too easy to be sucked
in by toddler

make it clear that you prefer
her positive behaviour
by paying more attention
when she behaves appropiately:smiliedance:

[Mum&bubs]

I am really good at ignoring my little one...I think maybe coz im used to it as she has been really sooky since birth. Just dont give in too easily & she might start to learn. :hugs:

[thirdtimeround]

Know how you feel. I have a 13 month old who learnt the art of tantrums at 8 months. Ignorance is the best policy believe me. I just walk away and if I cant stand the noise level any longer I start a very interesting game with ds who is 3 until ds2 gets so sick of everyone else having fun he joins in too. And by the way it would make her very happy to hear she is breaking mummys heart thats the whole point.:D Hang in there, or call SuperNanny !!!

[aggero]

With my DSD I found it very difficult to ignore the temper tantrums at first then I discovered music. Wheneva her screaming would start to guilt me or I felt like I was going to cave just to get some peace and quiet, I would find a CD I loved and turn it up real loud. She used to hate being drowned out and stopped almost imediately when she realised I was signing and dancing around happily and her behaviour was not having the effect on me she wanted.

[jessica]

great idea! I think I'll try the music thing - I don't like the idea of distraction by playing with her because I feel like she won and has got her way! Maybe if I dance and sing to myself she might feel defeated!!! Anything is worth a try! Thanks, will let you know how it works very soon - I can almost guarantee a tanty EVERY DAY!!

P.S Do other MOW's (Mums of Whingers) find that their little bundles of joy only tanty with them? DD is great with Daddy and apparently a dream with her carer!! They learn to play mummy so young!!:eek:

[jessica]

WOW - 2 out of 2 tanties solved by drowning out with music!!! :smiliedance:

She seems distracted by the music and tends to forget the reason for the whining!!

DH has suggested we attach an Ipod to her so we can stop out and about tanties too!!

Thanks Aggero - Of course I know that soon she will work out to ignore the music but it works for now and I'm grateful while it lasts!!!:D

[kymmy]

Just to let you know you are not alone....

the other day we went shopping and my angel
who has just turned three decided to have a tantrum
Hubby and I ignored it as much as possible
he just kept on crying
he was so tired from it all
he fell asleep in the car!

i didn't have any terrible twos with my older two
it seems they are just waiting to turn 3 to have that stage
I really enjoy the toddler stage (18m-3y)
They are always learning and they still need you