People complaining about long pregnancys

[naiwen]

As a premmie mum does it ever annoy you when people complain about being 40 weeks +, I realise they are probably over it but sometimes I feel like saying, be gratefull your bub will weigh more than a kilo!

Of course that is silly because you cannot expect people to feel gratefull for having a normal full term pregnancy but... I don't know it just gets on my nerves sometimes.

Just like when I knew mums complaining that their newborn wouldnt sleep and I wanted to say, be gratefull they can breath by themselves. But to them it's a very valid and real issue, just different perspectives I suppose.

Anyone KWIM LOL

[girly]

Truthfully, I was taken aback when I started reading your post, But then understood what you meant.

I think because you have had some scary problems, listening to a women who has none complain about her pregnancy reminds you of your traumatic experiences with your own bub. I would get annyoed as well if I was in your situation.

Though those women mean no harm, & im sure they would 'complain' in a different more softer way if they all new your situtaion..

[Grace3]

I agree 100% and some. I felt robbed when DS came early.

I agree, I agree, I agreeeeeeeee:yes:

Its similar to pregnant when complaining about being pregnant. When there are women out there that would do anything to have a child.

[DoubleDelight]

I have a hard time listening to it and tend to avoid any conversations like that.

It's funny my first two pregnancies were 39 weeks and 37 weeks and I never realised how precious those last months were until I had the twins.

I would have given anything to have swollen ankles and every other symptom going if it meant that the day I left hospital I actually took my babies home with me.

For a long time I struggled with all the things I missed but I finally realised that for all the things I missed I gained so much more. Empathy, understanding and a total appreciation of every minute with my children. That's priceless.

[KatiesMum]

Yeah it is hard.

Your own experiences shape so much of how you feel about things.

Things that other people take so much for granted, are the things you can only hope and dream about.

:hugs:

[naiwen]

I agree 100% and some. I felt robbed when DS came early.

I agree, I agree, I agreeeeeeeee:yes:

Its similar to pregnant when complaining about being pregnant. When there are women out there that would do anything to have a child.


:hugs:So true.


I have a hard time listening to it and tend to avoid any conversations like that.

It's funny my first two pregnancies were 39 weeks and 37 weeks and I never realised how precious those last months were until I had the twins.

I would have given anything to have swollen ankles and every other symptom going if it meant that the day I left hospital I actually took my babies home with me.

For a long time I struggled with all the things I missed but I finally realised that for all the things I missed I gained so much more. Empathy, understanding and a total appreciation of every minute with my children. That's priceless.

:hugs:You are right, you do gain a real sense of how precious they are.




Yeah it is hard.

Your own experiences shape so much of how you feel about things.

Things that other people take so much for granted, are the things you can only hope and dream about.

:hugs:

:hugs:We might only have one precious child but we know how lucky we are to have them :)

[pennylane]

I hear ya Naiwen!

It really irritates me.I try not to let it.But I want to throttle people that say things like "oh your so lucky you got to go early,im hoping to go early with this one,im over it,and your baby would have been so small and cute!"

yes im SOOO lucky I had a tiny 1152 gram baby that I couldnt hold for days who had to stay in hospital for weeks and weeks.

Yeh,that was awsome :)

[KatiesMum]

my pet :hair: right at this point is birth trauma ...

Now please dont get me wrong - I do sympathise with anyone who has had major emotional and physical trauma from the birth of their child........ but I cant help but keep thinking 'I would go through ANY and EVERY kind of trauma there is just to be able to have another bub'.

Then I beat myself up for being such a b!tch when the poor person is coping with something that has deeply affected them.

:gloomy:

[Mahjong]

I do get from where you are coming from. Especially when I have a few friends with premmies.

What ****es me off is people whinging about their pregnancies and how over it they are and want the baby out just so they can have a wine and go out for a night on the town :rolleyes: That ****es me off. Considering that I know a few people who have lost babies at 20weeks gestation and also had premmie babies.

I was completely over my two pregnancies from 36 weeks, DS1 I had kidney stones related to be pregnant and couldn't have drugs due to the ill affects it could have on DS1 and DS2 my blood pressure was so dangerously low (88/40) that I would stand up and faint. Wasn't good when you have a 3 yr old. I did though just wait it out and was lucky enough to have wonderful family and friend support. DS1 came at his own accord at 37 weeks and DS2 at 38 weeks (although Bding possibly evicted him!)

[supergeek]

I agree 150%.

I had a friend who was only 34 weeks and complaning and that was hard to listen to as someone who has 4 kids and not 1 was born at full term. It got to the point where I flat out told her that she is lucky that she didnt as i had dd1 at 33 weeks and she was tiny.

Man I would love to have a baby at full term

[NibbleCurlynBub]

Guess I can rub it in everyone's faces and say I didn't complain. :no:

I was happy to wait till bub was ready. :) I was a week late and then smack bang on the due date..

[SorenLorensen]

im not a premmie mum so i hope you don't mind me commenting :o.

i am on the other end of the scale.
DD1 was born at 42 weeks and 2 days (if you go by my LMP it was something like 43 weeks 4 days).
DD2 i had an elective C/S at 40 weeks and 4 days.
i chose to have DD2 after my EDD becuase i am not going to take for granted the fact that my bubs want to stick around.

i have gotten so many comments like, i bet your over it, wow thats way too long, why did they let you go that far, it must have been terrible to be pregnant for that long.....

my neice and nephew were both premmie, my niece developed complications due to being premmie (pneumonia for one).
people look at me and feel sorry for the fact that i went so long but i how i see it is i have been lucky to have long healthy pregnancies and never do i want to complain about it. i have made the comments like i wish it was over already but that is wishing time would hurry not bub would come early.

[AM]

I'm not a premmie mum, but I'm with you one million percent on this...I am a huge advocate of bubs coming on their OWN birthdays, I think it is our job to just put up with it until baby is ready!!!

[TrulyBlessed]

I'm with you. I had my DS on his due date but my DD was 5 weeks early I am glad to have her here safe & sound but wish I could of gone to term as she was in SCN & needed constant jabs to check blood sugar & jaundice levels & not getting to hold her straight after birth as she needed oxygen.

[MyFourCubs]

I Have been in both places... my ist dd was late- 41 weeks and I was OVER it. I was a whinger. :o

my 3rd dd of coarse was a 36 weeker, 4 pounder. well I learnt my lesson, hey?:shame:

[Nowhere]

Im not a premmie mum as such as miki was a 35 weeker, but she still had a lot of hurdels to over come, I can totaly understand where you guys are coming from and I know what you mean its taken me along time however to realise that when people make coments like that they not directed at you KWIM, They are not thinking of premies when they complain of being sick of being pregie at 40 weeks kwim, I know its hard not to get hurt but im sure they dont mean it KWIM

I get told all the time your so lucky not to have to cook for miki
Im so over having to cook
your so lucky that you dont have to argue about sweets
I wish my child would sit still all day

the list goes on, but i just let it go over my head as they dont mean it nastily just dont have a clue

[MyFourCubs]

:hugs: I think you are absolutely right!