Irregular cycles, only sine TTC

[Bigtum2b]

Hi everyone, just needing some advice.

I am always regular 3o day cycle. Until this Feb when we started trying. Since then, I have been irregular, sometimes missing AF totally.

I have done so many HPT and blood tests to no avail.

I get really frustrated when Dr's say it could be stress causing my AF to be delayed. I feel that this is a cop out because they really don't know what answer is.

I am wondering if we could be fertilising an egg, but its not implanting or something similar. Because that could explain why no AF???

I have read so much about this issue and a lot about the possible causes for late AF, but none of them really make sense to me or to our experience. I just think that something is weird. Is it possible to fertilise but then nothing else happens.

Sorry for :ecomcity: but would just love to hear what you think it could be.

Thanks heaps
Bigtum

[jaimie]

Hi Bibtum2b! So still no af then?

[Bigtum2b]

No nothing Jazzysmum!!

I don't really feel pregnant either. I did have a bout of nausea last week, but this could have been a virus. I have put on a bit of weight, but that could be the chocolate that I keep eating!!!:p

[jaimie]

:laughing: chocolate................ its strange tho because im the same as you. last week i was waiting for af and the week before that i had pms like symptoms so i just assumed af was on the way but now that im a week late im just bloody annoyed!:banghead: and after my BFN yesterday im really confused. not sure if i should go and buy another tset today...have you tested yet?

[tyhleigha & izaiah's mum]

come on ladies test and tell us how you go :smiliedance:

[jaimie]

:laughing: im waiting for jazz to wake up and then we are off to the shops so im sure i will cave and buy a test! shall keep you posted tho:D

[tyhleigha & izaiah's mum]

i have my :fingerscrossed: for you and will be waiting for the results

[Bigtum2b]

Good luck with your test :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed:

I have tested, once on day 33 - BFN, and day 37 - BFN!!!!

So I think from that I am not pg, but still confused about where AF is :banghead:

[MrsMiggins]

Bigtum2b, I really feel for you! I am the same. Can I ask if you were on the pill or any other hormonal birth control before TTC?

I don't know if this was my issue or not. It took us 26 months to fall PG with DD (difficult as it was, she was well worth the wait!!) and my cycles would range anywhere from 26-48 days during this time. Very frustrating!! And yes, I too would feel annoyed at the million people every day who would keep telling me "Oh, it's just the stress of trying to fall PG! Don't try & you'll be right!" I wanted to do these people some serious bodily harm!!:mad:

My Dr is convinced my weight had something to do with it, which may have been true to some extent, but was not the full story, no way. I did lose 17kgs before I fell PG & yes, my cycles did become somewhat more regular after losing the weight & yes, I did fall PG after losing the weight, but there was more to it than that.

Firstly, my cycles were irregular before I became overweight - that happened after we started TTC. My cycles were fairly regular before I went on BCP, but as soon as I came off them - all over the place. I had my hormone levels tested on a few ocassions & every time they came back well within normal ranges. If my weight were having a larger impact on the irregularity of my cycles, then my hormone levels would have been out of whack.

They ended up putting us in the "Unexplained Infertility" category.

I was hoping that TTC #2 would not be as traumatic & lengthy, but have not been on BC since the birth at all & was unable to fully BF from about 3 weeks after Claire was born and nothing yet! My periods started only about 2 months after the birth. They first started out regular - every 25 days (oddly!!) but unfortunately the past 3 or 4 have been all over the place again. :(

I would suggest charting your BBT if you think you can manage it. I found this invaluable in knowing what was going on with my cycles. I can PM you a free online charting website that is wonderful if you are interested. I started charting again as soon as my periods returned, even though we aren't technically TTC yet. I think I will continue to chart as long as I have my cycles - it's the only way I have any idea at all what's going on!

Sorry to waffle on so much! :o Hope I was able to help anyway!

[shelbelbabe]

oh my god, so its normal?? i went off the pill in january, and AF has been every 29 days. then, last month i swear i felt so pregnant. 35-freakin-days... BFN and AF followed (of course, i have to spend money on HPT and tampons,*******)

anyways, mrs miggins, can you send me the BBT thing too please? it would be really helpful, the more i know, the more calmer i feel (control freak)

best of luck ladies :hugs:

[mysonroger]

this is a stupid question but do yu just need a thermometer for charting BBT......and why is it, the minute you start TTC, your otherwise regular cycle suddnely starts to change?

[MrsMiggins]

A thermometer (need to be a basal one - I got mine for about $10 at BigW, but you can get them at chemists. Digital is much, much better. I wouldn't even bother with a mercury one), a small notepad & pen on your bedside table & good charting software. You can do it with just a paper chart, but it's far too difficult I found. I'll PM you the charting website I use if you'd like?

[mysonroger]

yes please.that would be good.

[MilkOnTap]

BigTum2B - sometimes what happens when TTC the stress of conceiving causes our body to delay ovulation... So in a crazy way, saying to relax actually might work!

Also - are you on Vitex? I have found that fantastic in regulating my cycles. You have to be very diligent to take it every day (I take 2 when I wake up and 2 when I go to sleep daily) but it just might work!

Best Wishes :thumbsup:

[Vespera]

Thank you - thought I was very weird and didnt know how to ask anyone :)

Normal 30 day cycles all my life, stopped the pill in Dec, normal AF in Jan and Feb, started TTC in March and no AF. I am definatley not preg - so many wasted tests. Dr doesnt know what is wrong but have started Vitex and think I might try charting for the next month to try and work out what is going on.

Feel better now I know I'm not the only one.....

[Jules16]

Hmm. This thread is interesting. I have always had irregular cycles for as long as I can remember, except of course when taking the bcp. My average cycle length last year was five to six weeks, and then now after having a m/c early in the year, my last two cycles have both been eight weeks long. I even got a bfp in the second cycle and then a bfn two days later. A bt has confirmed a bfn. I've started taking vitex now and am going to have some acupuncture done next week too as I've heard that can help aswell. If I could have a copy of the bbt software too that would be great. Happy ttcing everyone. :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed:

[terrid]

Dear Bigtum2B

I read your post and my heart went out to you. I can totally relate. I started to try for our second baby nearly 2 years ago. I had succesfully had my first child without a hitch and thought this would be a peice of cake. After about 6 months of trying with no result I started to go into panic mode, and it became an obsession to get pregnant. I did about 3 tests a month, absolutely convinced every month that I must be pregnant. I sure felt it. Then my body started playing tricks on me. Since I stopped the pill my cycle was about 31 days. They now ranged between 35 - 55 days. I went to the doctor, my husband and I had fertility tests done, and everything came back fine. I tortured myself for months wondering what on earth was wrong with me, afterall I had already had one child. I got to the point that I had to decided whether this was going to ruin my life, or whether I should just focus on the things I had.

I focused on my darling daughter and my husband and was grateful for all I had, and would you beleive my cycle went back to normal

We decided to plan a family trip. Slowly I started to let go of trying to conceive and focused on other things. This was by no means easy, afterall you all know what that feeling is like when you just want a baby.

We had a fantastic holiday and the day we got back I found out I was pregnant. I couldn't beleive my eyes and I think I was in shock for a few weeks. I'm now 16 weeks and I still can't beleive it.

It just goes to show how our bodies can really stuff us about. The moral of my story is (and I know how difficult this is), that try not to obsess about it. Try not to get stressed, think about all the wonderful things you have in your life. And if there is no medical problems, YOU WILL eventually have a baby.

I hope this has given you some peace of mind and help.

Terri xoxox

[Bigtum2b]

I would just like to say a big thank you to everyone who responded. I just made me feel so much more normal.

Thank you also for sharing your hearfelt stories. Some of them I read and re-read just to capture it all again.

I think maybe our bodies are more amazing than what we think. It sounds as though for many of you, just changing your thought processes a little, in conjuction with charting your cycles, gave you more of a sense of control and also acceptance that what will be will be.

I have decided to try and relax more, as well as charting etc. I had a facial today, which was pure luxuar, and I am going to try and do something nice for me everyday, even if it is just a 10 min relaxation.

A BIG THANK YOU AGAIN. I am glad I started this thread, and so glad others could be comforted by it too.

Bigtum2b