Shared care arrangements

[oceanblue]

Hi Everyone

I was just wondering about your shared care arrangements with your exs.

My daughter is 20 months old and goes to her dads 1 night a week alternating friday and saturday. Her dad wants to change it so he has her ever second weekend for the whole weekend. Im not sure yet how i feel about this one one side she is a little bit young to be away from me for 2 nights and i dont know if i could go 2 weeks with out a break but it would be nice to get away for the weekend.

I was just curious about everyone elses arrangements.

Cheers Shae

[InSaneOne]

i have 3 step kids who are all nearly teenagers. they currently live with their biomum so they can go to beenleigh high school. we generally see the girls every weekend and adam is every second weekend but sometimes more if he wants to. we have them most of the holidays and for 1/2 days on their birthdays. now we will be having natasha more as she is turning 13 soon and is allowed to choose where she wants to live. she has decided to trial living with us for a week to see if she likes catching the train to school. that should be interesting to see how much she changes away from her mother. they all change dramatically and are totally different kids after spendind a week full time here during holidays.

[SweetSerenity]

Hi There
My ex has peter every sunday for the day and wed evening after he finishes work....
I sometimes wish he would have him every second weekend as it would be nice to have a break, but i dont feel somfortable him having peter for that long without me there!
Love nat xx

[lilblakduk]

Im not sure yet how i feel about this one one side she is a little bit young to be away from me for 2 nights

Hi Shae
I have just started a similar thread
http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=134443

my partner has been seperated from his sons mum since his son was 18mths old. The ex was like you and not comfortable being away from her son for so long but the lil man copes very well.

It is a personal thing i know but after seeing and hearing stories about dads that dont see their kids i think if they are willing to help, take it with open arms. They love those kids as much as you.

As it is now, the ex doesnt want every weekend as bub is now a toddler and likes to do things himself. So we make the most of the weekends, he is now 2 and a half and knows that mummy lives somewhere else and we have a bag that goes between homes with a security blanket and a communciation book.

Hope this helps although a late reply.

[Ana Gram]

DD is at her father's house from Friday evening to Sunday evening every week. Works brilliantly for us.

[Chanelc]

My ex wanted Chanel every fortnight for a whole weekend we did it for a short period and then he realised it was 12 long days between visits. So we agreed once a week on Saturday night.
I think weekly visits ensures a routine bond and if that is what you have been doing I wouldn't recommend changing it. Maybe agree one weekend once a month and see how your little goes.

[Ekoorb]

My son goes to his dads 2-3 times a week for an hour, hour and a half.

[supa_star323]

DS spends wednesday afternoons with his dad for 6 hours. One weekend he spends either saturday or sunday, and the other weekend he spends saturday night. We have only been doing this for a month, but so far it has worked out fine...
I also let my ex see DS if he calls up and wants to drop around, but today he started an argument so I might put a stop to that...