No longer a homeschooler :( (For now...)

[Ffrenchknickers]

Hey all,

I have been avoiding this section for awhile....but wanted to let you know that we have sent DS1 to school as of this week.

I always said that if it got to the point where I felt like I wasn't giving him what he needed then we would give school a go for a bit. I haven't shared much but I have really been struggling health wise with this pregnancy lately...and emotionally too....moving to a tiny, isolated town, etc etc....and I feel like I have been letting him own - bring short tempered etc. SO we found a little private school 16ks away (state schools around here are not an option....) that we are quite happy with and he started this week.

I haven't really told anyone - even family - yet....as I wasn't sure how it would all go and I felt like a bit of a failure. Today though, I am feeling on top of the world!

I went and spoke to his teacher this morning to get an update after his first week and she was so enthusiastic. She said that kids don't normally fit in socially as fast as Toby has:thumbsup:....she said he has just fit right in...and that also academically he is at a wonderful level (he says he is finding the work a bit easy...) So, today, I have gone from feeling like a failure to actually feeling proud of myself and of him....we have really achieved alot over the last two years :smiliedance:

He says that school is much easier than homeschool hahaha. Aww, I miss him....

I still firmly believe homeschooling is the BEST, I really do...I just can't give him my all at the moment which isn't ok with me. We will probably do it again one day and for our other kids....although now DS2 wants to go to school......

So...there we go...just thought I would share.:o

[FishFace]

Katie I think you are amazing.

To be able to put your childs needs first and be honest about a situation, takes courage and sensitivity.

You are an amazing mum and I hope you realise that Toby is so wondefful because you put in so much love.


xoxoxoxox

[Ffrenchknickers]

:crying:Awwww, don't make me cry.

Thanks:hugs: It has been a very emotional few weeks trying to make the decision.

[poshBecks]

Good on you Katie!

That must have been a hard decision to make. I am sure Toby will enjoy himself & will make some great friends aswell.

You are a great mum no matter what! :hugs:

[Ffrenchknickers]

Thanks Becks:hugs:

[Fuchsia!]

Katie I think you are amazing.

To be able to put your childs needs first and be honest about a situation, takes courage and sensitivity.

You are an amazing mum and I hope you realise that Toby is so wondefful because you put in so much love.


xoxoxoxox
:iagree:

I don't think you are a failure at all! If anything the opposite. I hope it all works out :hugs:

[Ffrenchknickers]

Thanks lovely.....it's all good so far....one week in hehehe!

[veve]

Katie .. I am truly impressed with your post ..

to have put that much thought into what is best for your child is wonderful... to acknowledge that what you originally dreamt is not perfectly working- and to adapt to fix it,.. :hugs:

I'm really glad you have found a small school and teacher you are happy with ..

xx
Jen

[lukaelmo]

Aww Katie, I had no idea you were struggling... I have always thought of you as so together, you make it all seem effortless... I am really sorry that things haven't been brilliant.

As for the homeschooling. I think it just reflects your maturity and intelligence to realise that you can't do it the way you want to right now. Sticking to it for stubborn reasons would but much more of a "failure" than anything.

And you are very brave to come out here and let everyone know... and hey, who knows, there are probably lots of people on here who feel the way you do, but are a little scared to say... I think that you've probably come into a little opposition when it comes to homeschooling (from the real world I mean) and it takes a brave person to do what you have done.

Lol, can I blather on anymore?

I hope your health is okay too... nothing serious I hope.

[Ffrenchknickers]

Aww, thanks so much you guys...you have made me cry all over again:o I didn't expect such supportive and lovely responses.

Ali, no nothing too serious with me, just a few things....have been extremely tired too this time which isnt like me...have been mainly worried about bubs (I think I mentioned his possible kidney probs and the possibility of him having to have an operation etc....) Haven't handled the thought of having a sick bub too well and it sent me a little loopy for awhile I think....much better now.

Oh, and I'm glad you think I have it all together ;) I do....really.....:dizzy::doh:

[NibbleCurlynBub]

Don't feel like you have failed.

Pregnancy puts a lot of pressure on you. Physically and emotionally.

It is okay.

:hugs: :hugs: Things will improve. You don't have to tell anyone if you don't want to, its only your business.

[Ffrenchknickers]

Thanks....I no longer feel like I have failed....seeing how confident he is and how much he has learnt has made me really proud....we really have achieved alot over the last 2 years....it was the right thing to do for him...and I wont hesitate to do it again either for him or any of the others")

[subaruforestermum]

I agree with what Sass has said....totally....

I felt like cr@p when sending DS to kindy one day a week, but when they tell me how well he is doing and I see how much more advanced he is, it makes me realise how good I have been for him...

You've given your son a great start to life and that is showing....

Take care....:hugs:

[Ffrenchknickers]

Thanks so much H:) It is a nice realisation isn't it....that we are doing something right!:hugs:

[neostudded]

I agree full-heartedly with what everyone else has said!
You did not fail him at all, you have done an amazing job teaching him. I am pleased to hear he is "ahead" so to speak.

[reAllytee]

You are an amazing mum Katie & seriously if I can even ever be one quarter as wonderful as you then I will be cheering !

Well done to Master T !!!!!

[Ffrenchknickers]

Awww, neo and Ally, so lovely....thankyou....this means alot all you guys who have replied, it really does:crying::goodvibes::hugs:

[Moorish]

Katie you're an amazing mum who's done the very best for Toby. You've obviously thought a lot about your decision and have found a wonderful school that Toby seems to be doing very well at - you should be damn proud of yourself!

Take comfort in the fact that he's doing so well - and take pride, after all - you helped him to get there! His teacher should be able to extend him where he needs it, and you can take the time you need to rest up for these last couple of weeks. You'll need your strength, so sit back and relax a bit and enjoy talking to your darling boy about the new and exciting things he's learned and the friends he's made! :hugs:

Oh and I'm sooo excited and can't wait to hear that bubby #4 has arrived!

[Ffrenchknickers]

Awww thankyou A:hugs: This has all made me feel really great. I am feeling good about the school thing and yeah, I feel like we definately did the right thing over the last couple of years...I just thought I would be doing it for longer...but anyway, life is interesting:)

yes, not long to go with #4 now! Congrats on #5 btw!! I just noticed!!:goodvibes:

[~J'dore~]

Don't feel bad hun, good on you for making the brave decision to do what you feel is right for your family and children.

I hope that school goes well for DS, it sounds like you've found a really good one and his teacher sounds lovely!

Take care hun and I still appreciate your advice on homeschooling.

xx

[westerner]

(I think I mentioned his possible kidney probs and the possibility of him having to have an operation etc....) Haven't handled the thought of having a sick bub too well and it sent me a little loopy for awhile I think....much better now.

Just wanted to mention that my son had kidney problems that were picked up during my pregnancy and he has undergone several operations his first being at 3 days old..

Not sure if you wanted to talk or not or if its even the same problem but im here if you need someone to chat to or have any questions.

I know exactly how you feel.. :hugs:

If it helps my little boy is now 3 and is 100% healthy.. :goodvibes:

Anyway just thought id reach out to you if you want it that is..

Kristy

[Squeegee]

Ah hah...now I understand a couple of comments you have made recently. I will happily be part of your cheer squad:smiliedance:....you are once again doing the best thing you can for all of your children and using wisdom along with your trust in God to help you make the best decision.:shakehands: Good for you:yelclap:

[thekellygang]

I think that you have made a correct choice if it sits well with your family and is working well for all involved.

You should take stock in the fact that he has settled in well, is further along than expected of him and socially is able to handle a new environment - after all they are often the trade marks of homeschooled kids.

Why wouldn't he rise to the challenge of a new environment and pop out on top. Good for him - hope he continues that way - it will put him in good stead for the future.

Kind regards

[AM]

You're doing great katie :) :thumbsup: