omg i'm a bad mum

[Hokey Pokey]

I feel so awful... I feel like I'm loosing it.
My girls have just been so badly behaved today, not listening to me and pushing my buttons all day.
I very very rarely smack my girls and just then I lost it.
Olivia persuaded to not do as she was told and then spoke rudely to me and yelled and I got up and smacked her quite hard it stung my hand. I feel soooo bad I just want to take it all back but i can't.
Why can'ty I control my girls today :crying: :crying:

[MumsieMel]

:hugs: honey,

its just a bad day, take it easy and start a fresh tomorrow.

Im sure the girls are just fine. :yes:

[kymmy]

they are testing you
my daughter does it on a regular basis
do you think that is what it is
i think it might be just one of those days
You ARE still a GOOD mum!:yes:

[Kells]

Kristy if it makes you feel any better - I have just sat down after chasing my son around with mustard on a spoon cos he swore!!! And I chased him down like a madman I tell ya!! :o

Dont stress too much over it. We all 'lose it' sometimes, especially after a day of naughty kids!

Here, have some of these :hugs: :hugs:

[MumsieMel]

Kristy if it makes you feel any better - I have just sat down after chasing my son around with mustard on a spoon cos he swore!!! And I chased him down like a madman I tell ya!! :o



LOL Kell, ive done that but with the bar of soap!!! :laughing:

[Hokey Pokey]

Thanks guys.
Yeah they have been at it ALL day. Talking back, my 3 year old swore and everytime i told her off, did time out etc she still did not learn.:mad:
And my eldest was speaking to me like I am a schoolyard kid!!
Think it is one of those days hey, and it just got to me.
Just gave Olivia a hug and asked her to please listen to me and do as I ask, show me some respect. She is now sitting on the lounge quietly watching tv before bedtime.
I still feel quilty and bad tho, I hate smacking my girls and yelling at them all day, makes me feel like a failure.. :crying:

[Tam-I-Am]

No way, you're not a bad mummy - just a human one!

We all have our bad days, and we all do things we regret. Don't sweat the small stuff - it's not like you broke her butt did you? Your hand probably hurts more than her butt! LOL:hugs: (Not that I'm suggesting you do this all the time, just give yourself a break that it happened today!)

Don't worry, tomorrow will be a new day, and you can start again.

[Hokey Pokey]

Yeah it was her butt, I usually tap them on the hand as I worry of their back if I smack their butts but I just did it so quickly without thinking.. :(

[Hokey Pokey]

OHHH that was my 1,000 post! hehe

[CJJHRA]

:hugs:

we all have bad days.

[catalicious]

I agree with everybody except Olivia and Bellas mum.

You are NOT a failure and you are NOT a bad Mum!

Dont feel down after all tomorrow is a new day.

Smile because I am certain you are a great MUM :yes:

:hugs: :kiss: :hugs: From ME Lochie and Jackson!!

[SamanthaJane]

When it comes to children it is so easy to lose your temper. I know from working with children and constantly being around young relatives that i get frustrated with them misbehaving. Its only natural in my opinion- no human can honestly say they are built with enough patience to never get frustrated with their child. Whilst i am against smacking on any place but the hand, it does not mean it will not happen when my "bundle of joy:devil6:" comes into the world.

Children do not fully understand the aspect of right and wrong. They think its a great game to say naughty words and act like brats. They love the attention of mummy/daddy getting mad- god knows why?! I know i did it when i was little, and so did my 3 brothers and sisters- all i can say is poor mum lol.

You are a great mother and your girls know that too. They love you and they always will. You are not a bad mother so please dont ever doubt yourself:hugs:

No child is a perfect little angel 100% of the time. I mean watch Super Nanny... lol a fine example of children behaving badly:laughing:

Speaking of Super Nanny- have u tried the "naughty mat"?? A friend of the family does this and she thinks it works so well... the kids fully understand that the naughty mat = naughty children. They know what happens when they get sent there, so when they are given warning they usually stop and listen to their mum lol.

[Angelmist♥]

Oh Olivia&Bella'sMummy sounds to me like your a BRILLIANT mum:hugs:

It does make you feel terrible BUT I also think sometimes(and only rarely) it doesn't hurt to give the kiddie's a little wake up call!

My boys test and test and test me and after trying EVERYTHING else, I will give them a smack on the butt.Hmm usually they are perfect angels for ages then:o!

[Hokey Pokey]

I tried EVERYTHING today hey and nothing worked....
Thanks for all your lovely replies I am feeling alot better now.
Fingers crossed tomorrow it is all forgotten and they are back to normal :fingerscrossed:

[Funkychicken]

Hey Kristy, my seven year old is doing quite a bit of this stuff too. Beyond seven is a whole new world to a child and they are going through a whole new awakening to the world. Not that they understand this, but most 7 yo's test the waters about here. If there is a younger sibling, they tend to want in on the action. I have a friend with a 13yo, 11yo, 6yo and a 3yo. They are pretty conservative andthe mum does an awesome job (as all mums do!) with four but her 3yo has started saying the F*%$ word in context at other people! She is mortified but hey, what can you do. We are human beings before we are mother's!
Also, I was told years ago that children save their absolute worst behaviour for those they love and trust most-if they are showing the worst stuff it is because they love and trust you unconditionally. :D

[becca74]

Also, I was told years ago that children save their absolute worst behaviour for those they love and trust most-if they are showing the worst stuff it is because they love and trust you unconditionally. :D

Totally!!

Children who are being abused are usually cowering and hiding from their parents for fear of more senseless abuse....they are too afraid to test limits....

I think a sign that kids are in a healthy family is when they do try to stand up to you, as they dont fear you....

Worry if your kids fear you, I reckon! But yours sound like mine, and I shout and rant and rave probably waaaayyyyy to much (probably daily, usually at 3.30 when they are home from school and the whinging hits its peak!)......but none of them fear me (even my 2 year old is a cunning little guy who gets one over me all the time).....if anything they treat me as a bit of a walk-over and I know I need to be a bit more authoritive!

Sometimes I think there comes a time when you crack, but in these times your kids suddenly go 'wow, she is human, not a super-woman'.....and this is what they need to know......that you do have a limit......

Yep, as the others have said, the day you've just had sounds to be pretty typical to days had in loads of other bub-hubber's households.......yep......totally normal (though we all agree that we dont find such experiences fun, so :hugs: to you! ;) )

[Femme-Fetale]

OMG this site is just so wonderful - so much love and care for any one and everyone. i posted a kind of similar story on another site im a big time member of and i got told some no so nice things.

You are a great mum, and althou i dont know u i can read it in your post, ur a very caring mother, and also HUMAN so dont stress about it. As some of the others said, tomorrow is another day and the kids wont remember either, u can all start fresh and happy!
The fact u also had the guts to write it out here, with the possibility of ppl labeling u a child abuser (like i got :mad: ) shows to me u are a very thoughtful caring mother and things u do, do effect u and u feel alot of emotions and love! Good on you, im right behind you here girl and i want to give u a big hug :hugs: and say Go have a bath n relax, maybe a wine too, your a EXCELLENT mother!

Oh btw, if u think ur bad, how bad am i today - lol - my son goes to daycare once a day for the social side of things and so i get some time to myself to recharge (solo mother) and i always pick him up about 430ish (doesnt shut til 6) and today i went on a mad cleaning spree, OMG so badly, washed everything and moved the furniture around and the lot, u woulda thought i was nesting for some one lol, and then i crashed on the couch and fell asleep :eek: OMG i woke up at 515 and **** myself! RAN to the daycare centre, i was so scared they would think i didnt care about my son - but they were fine! Zeak just missed me hehehe!
The make up hugs make things all better, and if thats not quiet enough, a block of chocolate hahahah :laughing:

[cjb/jbvd]

it's ok, sometimes kids just need a smack. i'm sure your mum smacked you, my mum definately smacked me, and i know for certain that when my DS really deservs it, i will smack him too.

you love your girls enough to discipline them. that doesn't make you a bad mum.

keep up the good work.

:hugs:

[becca74]

it's ok, sometimes kids just need a smack. i'm sure your mum smacked you, my mum definately smacked me, and i know for certain that when my DS really deservs it, i will smack him too.

you love your girls enough to discipline them. that doesn't make you a bad mum.

keep up the good work.

:hugs:

just on a tangent.....I remember the smacks my mum gave me, which were rare, but totally deserved! My dad on the other hand, that's another story altogether :mad: !!


To be honest, with absolute arrogant cheek, where I've been called some obscene name that he has learnt at school, by my 6 year old, just because he wants something like a biscuit, he has had the odd slap on the cheek......

People may say that is a horrid thing to do to a child......but be honest.....isnt it a horrid thing for a child to abuse a parent just because they are not getting a biscuit or something??? We are only human after all, and parenthood should be about developing a human relationship of respect, not be about mummy martyrdom to the child-king that is trying to run the house!.....