8 weeks pregnant with third child "REALLY SCARED"

[brooke+3]

Hi every one this is my first post i just wanted to see if anyone could give me some advice you see i have got two boys Aiden and Jacob age 2 and 3 and i have just found out that i am 8 weeks pregnant with my third i am reall excited except for the thought of giving birth again :eek: you see i have been induced with both pregnancies due to very high blood presure but labour with aiden was a breeze i came throught it with no problems but with jacob i sort off started panicing right from thr first contraction and it just got worse in the end i needed forceps and jacob was born with breathing difficultys and spent 2 weeks in intensive care i blame my self for how labour went i just could not handle the pain. And so i am so scared that the same thing might happen this time If anyone has any advice i would really appreciate it . Brooke

[MumsieMel]

First of all welcome :wave:

And as for labour i think if you talk to your midwives and birthing parnters and express your concern then you will be better equiped for what might happen, never know it might be an easy birth.

Im pg with number 3 and a little nervous about labour as with my DD i was fully dialated for 1 hr and refused to push her out, 9apparently from remembering the pain of my DS's birth) so what your going thru is normal and your not alone :hugs:

Whats your due date?

[brooke+3]

Hi Thankyou so much for giving me your opinion it's good to know that other people are going through what i am. My due date is the 20th December if i don't get induced and go natually i could still be pregnant on christmas day or the baby could evan be born on christmas day imagine that. Brooke

[sugar n spice]

Hi brooke
i only found out last week that im preg with number three and to say im scared is an understatment. Not so much the labour but the fact that i dont no how i will cope with three little ones plus i had PE with both of mine and so was in and out of hospital from 30 wks. Take a deep breath and talk to your midwives and whatever you do dont read too much info, it only scares you.

Oh and congrats

[Mummy-2-2]

Dont stress about it.

Research everything you can about high blood pressure and strategies to stop panic etc and remember, your body has done this before... twice!

It is perfectly natural to be scared if your labours werent how you wanted them last time, so make sure it is this time! If you are prone to panic, get an aromatherapist to whip you up spomething to help you at that time... maybe a naturopath could help with the high blood pressure during the pg etc.

I too had to births that werent what I wanted.(The 2nd was by far a lot better than the first) and if I ever decide to overcome my fear, I will MAKE SURE that no doctor ever pushes me around again.

It is your birthing experience and it should be the way that you want it.

Good luck to you:kiss:

[elliek]

dear brooke,

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

I totally agree that it is really important that you discuss your concerns with your caregivers and support persons.

Have you considered the use of a doula for your birth? Research has shown that the use of a birth support person significantly reduces anxiety during childbirth and complications since you have a known birth support attendant to help you make decisions for your birth experience.

I know that birth is the journey of the unknown, but with good support, preparation and guidance, your fears can be allayed, as you can have some sense of control over your birth by making decisions with the use of a birth plan. Loss of control greatly contributes to anxiety.

If you have a look at the international college of spiritual midwifery website, they have links to dial a doula - which is where you can search for and ask a bit more about doulas.


Good luck with it all,

Kellie :)

[brooke+3]

Thankyou so much for everyones advice i can totally relate so most of it i think i did lose controll and i just couldn't get it back and i was scared to ask the midwife for help you here a lot of stories about midwifes not liking you to take any sort of pain reliefe well i have anyway. My family and friends are telling me to have a eppidural straight away i am just not sure mum always tells me its better to go natural cause then when its over its over and i commpletley understand what she means i am so confused i guess i had better try to stop paniching so much or my bp will hit the roof if it is ok with u guys i would love to keep writing and giving you updates it's nice to have other peoples opinions and some one to talk to i am only 25 and science i have had kids they just don't come around anymore. Brooke

[kymmy]

Brooke, welcome to Bub hub:wave:

I was frightened when i was due to have my third
My first and second were frantic births
and I had a third degree tear
I didn't want to tear badly again
so I planned to have a more relaxed birth
Because of blood problems I had to have
a higher level of care
but i still read a little about breathing the baby out
rather than pushing
I feel that it was a success
I felt calm and relaxed during labour
and I recovered a lot better


Try and talk to midwives and get their support
I felt that helped me

If I could I would have a water birth at home
but I suggest that any thing that may help you relax
will be helpful to you

[MumsieMel]

Hi Brooke :wave:

You should check out the due in dec group,
http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=16222

Be great to chat with you! :thumbsup: