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Rhodesy
08-10-2008, 19:11
http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/images/icons/icon1.gif pregnant Girlfriend hormones
Me and my girlfriend of 8 months found out we were having a baby about a month and a half ago. Before we found out she was pregnant we were the most happiest couple, alot of people were jelious cause we were happy and in love. When we found out we were having a baby the excitement was raging and we were over the moon, i was always there for her (doctors, ultrasounds) We decided that we would get married before the baby was born. We picked the ring and started thinking about venues. I started seeing a change in her around the 3 week mark of knowing was accually (2 months preg) I still visited her and offered my company all the time. Then one day she told me she wanted to talk. We sat down and she told me that she has been thinking about us, and decided she dosnt want to be with me, cause she dosnt love me like when we first met. I took this hard and was very confuised, but i wanted her to be happy and if this is what she wants. So we broke up on good terms! Then we had a fight because she heard that i was tell people nasty things which wasnt true. I tryed calling her and she told me she never wanted to see me or hear from me again. She then sent me a email saying she never loved me from the start and i was just a way to get over her ex. She disconnected her phone and i ve lost all contact with her. i sent her cards saying that i love her and will always give her support. I sent her mum a msg the other day asking how she was. And she rang me back and abused me and said she was calling the police cause i was stalking her. I dont know what to do cause i ve done nothing wrong and everything i try to do ends up making things worse. I just want to be apart of this baby and want my girlfriend back....

Has anyone been in this situation, what should i do???

Its really hurt me and everyday feels like i am about to burst and go crazy!!

bigbadbrad
09-10-2008, 10:53
Hi Rhodsey,

I can't really say I have been in this situation but I did want to comment on your last line.

It is really important to understand that you cannot control everything. If you work yourself up you are are doing no good for you or your child. You need to be calm to make good decisions.

I understand that your ex seems to be acting a little crazy but I suggest you give her some space. You have made your feelings clear & offered to help so now it is up to her. If you keep chasing her you will just make the situation worse.

You need to think about what you need to do to be there for your child as well as looking after yourself.

Good luck

BBB

peanutbutter&jelly
09-10-2008, 23:33
Trust me when I say you have nooo idea :laughing:
But, while I didn't throw my DF out (well, not that stuck anyway) and we didn't get engaged (we already were before I fell pregnant)... I certainly had a rough pregnancy. I went off like a nut more than a couple of times, as my playstation could have attested for (I had myself a temper tantrum and smashed it on our tiled floor... I also broke a phone and a few other things. I'm not a nice pregnant woman for about 6 months :o)
You aren't the only one who feels this way - totally out of control and stressed out, not knowing whats going on. Maybe try and wait a few months - while it seems like forever, maybe she needs a while to get her head together and know what place she's in with you, with this baby and with life in general. Life is hard, and being pregnant for some, is dreadful!
Good luck :hugs:

Rating
09-10-2008, 23:51
She has hormones racing through her riht now.. So yes maybe som space..

Perhaps over the next month or so buy a few baby items maybe a basinette and a few clothes and toys etc.. To show her you are excited and committed to making this work with he and your baby as a family and that you love her and the baby alot!

Perhaps buy her some pregnancy magazines so she can become well informed about what is going tohappen to her and her body..

Also mayb buy yourself the becoming dad dvd.. ( not 100% on the name)...

Put yourself in a position to when she does regain some pre pregnancy brain she realises yoiu will not hold it against her and you are preparing for your life as a daddy..

HTH