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k8y
08-10-2008, 13:08
Here it is! It was done as a story to Summer. It is the full uncensored version of which Summer may not likely see as I will edit it to remove some details. I don't want her to know too much of the details as I don't want it to affect her in anyway emotionally or later in life make her feel scared or apprehensive about the labour process. Wow I'm making her birth sound terrible, but while it was traumatic I know there are births that are a lot lot worse and that I'm lucky to have a beautiful healthy baby. It's a very long story so good luck to those who actually manage to read the whole thing!

For those who haven't yet posted their birth story, please feel free to do it here.

IST INSTALMENT:



My Birth Story

Summer, your arrival began on the 18th of June. Your Dad and I had an ultrasound appointment at 7.30am at the Wesley Foetal Medicine Unit. Our obstetrician, Dr Ross Turner, had us arrange the ultrasound after our appointment with him the day before, because you were a wee little bub and the need was there to make sure you were growing properly.
The ultrasound went well. You looked happy and healthy. We took the scan results up to show Ross. He decided that while you were growing, he felt that the sooner you were out the better you would grow. The reasons for you being on the smaller side remained a little unknown at this stage, perhaps my placenta had started to reduce its function which can be common apparently. The decision there and then was made for an induction. Ross immediately rang the maternity ward at the hospital and booked me in for 25 June at 8pm. I was at first excited. I knew the day I would get to meet you and I could also plan accordingly. I was also apprehensive as it’s common to have a difficult birth under an induction. I so wanted to the birth to go smoothly and naturally, to have you arrive into the world with a happy, complication free start to life.
I’d only started maternity leave on the 6th of June, so the next few days were spent planning and organising the last minute things for your room and our hospital stay together. We didn’t tell many people of the induction day as we wanted them to get a nice surprise at your arrival. We’d also kept your name a secret so everyone couldn’t wait to find out it was.
Well, the 25th of June finally came. I packed last minute things into my bags and your Dad finished up at work early. I’d spent the day on my own, feeling more and more anxious about how things would unfold in the night ahead. 7.30pm came and we packed the bags in the car and pulled out of the driveway. I remember feeling scared and excited as we drove down the street, knowing that my life from this point on would never be the same again, that my relationship with your Dad would undertake a deeper meaning and our puppies Rufus and Petie will be welcoming a little sister into the family fold.
We arrived at the hospital and parked the car. I remember getting out of the car thinking this will be the last time I get out of the car without a baby in my life. Silly thoughts, but they felt significant at the time. Then we got to the carpark lift with the bags only to realise the lift was out of order! So back in the car we had to go anyway to drive up to the top level where we could gain access.
They directed us straight into the birthing suite for the induction and said I would sleep in the ward overnight and be monitored and see how things are in the morning. They inserted a gel to begin the labour. For some unexplainable reason, the gel insertion felt severely painful and I was in tears of pain during the process. Eventually it was done and off to the ward I went to go to sleep (with sleeping pill provided). Your Dad stayed for a little while to see how things would go and eventually went home around 10.30pm to come back earlier in the morning. I was woken at 2am for a CTG to check how things were progressing. All good so far, mild contractions had started and felt like slight period pains. I was excited at the thought everything was starting well and went back to sleep. They woke me again at 6am and said they would be sending me over to the birthing suite at 7am where I would stay until you arrived. Today was the day!
I had a shower, rubbing my hands over my tummy, thinking soon you would be on the outside! Your Dad arrived and we went into the birthing suite. Ross came in and checked my cervix to see how far I was dilated. It felt, once again, severely painful and Ross seemed concerned at my pain. 9am came by and contractions were feeling stronger and you could see them on the CTG. Ross checked my cervix again, terrible pain, so he asked me if I wanted to get an epidural. I didn’t want one so soon, but it seemed best. I look back now and wonder if I should have tried the gas first, but was worried it would make me feel sick, so I didn’t. Anyway, half an hour later, in went the epidural, a fairly smooth procedure. There was a pocket on the lower right side of my abdomen where it just didn’t seem to work. The contractions were stronger now and more painful so they called the anaesthesiologist back to re-do the epidural. He did this, but still no luck so it was left as is.
Not too much progression by 12pm Ross broke my waters. Epidural working well I didn’t feel it at all (apparently this can be painful). At this stage the CTG was showing your heart rate would drop every time I was having a contraction. Not a good sign and it kept continuing. You were distressed and it wasn’t known why. With only 2cm dilated, Ross was under the impression I would labour into the night. We couldn’t leave you in such distress for long, so the decision for a caesarean was made. I was distraught. My longing for a natural labour was over, it was all now about just getting you out quickly and safely. Ross said it can usually be determined once the caesarean is completed, the reasons for your distress.
They came in around 1.45pm (I think) to put in my IV for the caesarean. They had trouble getting a vein and they kept sticking needles into both my arms all over the place. It was wearying and painful and I was in tears. Your Dad was having trouble watching the pain I was in and had to keep holding a bowl under my mouth during my distress as the epidural had now caused me to start vomiting.
After 45 – 50 mins it finally worked and they got the IV in. I was very thankful as by this time I was ready to yell at them to all get out and just leave me in peace. Your Dad had tears in his eyes. I remember it so clearly as your Dad never cries. He said he was concerned for his girls.
Wheeled into theatre, your Dad was standing beside me still holding the bowl as I kept vomiting. It seemed like 5 minutes had passed and they pulled you out at 2.59pm. You started crying the instant you were out. My first thought was such relief to hear your cry. Then they held you up over the screen so I could see you and instantly I felt choked with emotion and began to cry at the immediate love I felt for you. They took you over to a table where I couldn’t see, where your Dad cut the umbilical cord and they performed the apgar tests. It was taking them a while to put me all back together but I wasn’t concerned as never having had a caesarean before, I thought that was normal.
They then placed you in my arms. Oh look at you, I thought, my daughter, my angel. I have never at that moment felt so happy in all my life.

k8y
08-10-2008, 13:10
2ND INSTALMENT:

Your Dad then looked after you while they finished stitching me up as I remember looking up and seeing him standing there just outside the theatre room, holding you and smiling at both you and me.
I was wheeled into recovery, feeling exhausted, and the shakes from the epidural were incredible. I felt dazed and a bit of shock from the emergency surgery.
We were all then taken back to the ward soon after. I was placed on a morphine drip to last for 24 hours for the pain. This drug made me feel a little dazed and groggy. In trying to remain positive I said to your Dad, that next time I could always try a VBAC. Don’t you know? He said. Know what? They took forever to get your IV in so by the time they started the caesarean you were almost fully dilated. Because of this, they tore your uterus when getting Summer out. You were bleeding a lot and that’s why it took so long to stitch you back up. This rules out the likelihood of you ever having a natural birth in the future. I was devastated. Ross told me the next morning when he was in doing his rounds. He told me they weren’t sure as to why your heart rate kept dropping. Perhaps you were pushing on the cord. It will remain a mystery. I wonder now whether the caesarean could have been avoided, but our only focus was getting you out as quickly as possible. I was just so relieved to have you out, so healthy and perfect.
Your Dad started to ring the family and send messages to friends of your arrival. I talked to your Grammy on the phone but had trouble as I was shaking so much I couldn’t hold the phone to my ear properly. They came in later that night to check your blood sugar levels and they were dropping and quite low. They had to take you away, into special care and put a feeding tube in you they said. You needed to be fed this way to get your energy up in order to have the strength to breastfeed properly. I was so sad to see you wheeled away when I had waited 9 months to meet you and hold you. In the mean time I had work to do! I had to try and start walking around again and work hard at getting my milk in so that we could get you out of special care.
The next morning I woke up feeling confused and hazy from the morphine. I had to remind myself that you were here! As soon as able, your Dad organised a wheelchair so they could take me to special care and I could see you. My beautiful girl, you ended up staying in the special care unit for 5 nights. I was having trouble getting my milk in and they said they wanted to see you feeding properly before they would release you from the hospital.
I spent the next few days in hospital trying to get my milk going and going backwards and forwards with you to the special care unit so they could feed you via the tube. You were allowed to come back to my room between feeds so I could have you with me and you could bond with your Dad and me. It was difficult to move around as the wound was so painful and it turns out I was allergic to the tape they used on the exterior of the wound and my skin there was also terribly blistered and irritated. I was sad during the first couple of days as I could only have you in my room when your Dad was there because if you cried it was terribly painful and difficult to get out of bed to get to you or pick you up or just change your nappy. I even missed your very first bath.
Thankfully by the 1st of July, my milk was working well and you and I were learning to breastfeed without the aid of a feeding tube anymore. This is great news as it meant we could be released from hospital together tomorrow. You stayed with me all day and night on the 1st of July and I was so nervous to be looking after you all by myself, but you and I were great and did so well. I had to leave on the 2nd of July regardless as I was only allowed to stay a week. So being able to take you home with me was such a relief. It was also your Dad’s birthday the day we went home, such a good present!
I remember putting you in the car. I was so nervous and had trouble getting the buckles right as you were so tiny and delicate, I didn’t want to hurt you. Finally we were off. Going home together as a family for the very first time. Our lives never to be the same, but better, more enriched and joyful with our beautiful Summer Lily in our lives.

tiggles
08-10-2008, 13:17
Im sorry you had such a terrible time, hopefully if you have another child it will be the birth experience you want. The last part made me want to cry!

tiggles
08-10-2008, 13:29
Just read your second post..very touching, I dont know what else to say.

Your DH sounds like an absolute sweetheart.

babywez
08-10-2008, 13:35
The first time you mentioned your DH getting tears in his eyes I almost lost it. My DH had tears in his eyes too, partly because he couldn't stand seeing me in such pain and not being able to do anything about it, and then at the end because he was so happy to have his son in his arms. It is true that babies can soften the toughest men! I think our kids will be so lucky to be able to read about this when they're older. My mum doesn't remember much - the story changes slightly every time she starts it! :)

jessiika
08-10-2008, 14:43
oh hun you have written that so beautifully!:thumbsup:
i had a similar birth actually mia was 1wk over due so i was booked in2 get induced on the 24th at 1pm but 4am monday morning my waters broke and she had pooed in them so she was distresssed, called hosp said 2 go straight in and i was on constant monitoring aswell and at 10am i was only 3cm dialted and 12 noon stil no change so they decided 2 give me an epi and prep me 4 thearte as it was much safer 2 get her out sooner as she was distressed and i wasnt really progressing anyways, got preped 4 thearte and at 220pm they started 2 wheel me 2 thearte when in the corridoor i said " stop i need 2 go 2 the toilet" lol midwife said no u dont and i begged 4 them 2 let me go so they did and nothing, hoped bak on bed and they lifted up my gown and mias head was crowning, up went the steerups and i started 2 push with a crowd of 8midwifes and 2drs i had 2 get an epiostimy snip thinggy aswell and she was born at 245pm approx 15mins later on 24/6/08
the last hr was so scary and fast it was horrible as i wanted a natural birth but lucky 4 me she decided 2 make a move in2 the world whgen she did as i was seconds away frm haveing a c-sec

oconky
08-10-2008, 16:52
wow k8y that is a lovely story, even though you went through some alwful stuff....I'm :crying: now.

I think you'll be able to make it sounds not so scary as it is more about her being safe.

mosac
08-10-2008, 17:00
Well written.
Beautiful.
You are one strong woman.
:hugs::hugs::hugs:

kotakai
09-10-2008, 07:25
I agree with the others, it is very well written & you are very strong to be able to write it :hugs:

Daisy Boo
09-10-2008, 13:18
you are a very strong woman. I hope you get some peace in writing and sharing your birth moment. :hugs: Thankyou for sharing. Summer is one lucky girl.