Way more paranoia

[lukaelmo]

I think I have been making waaaaay too many of these posts lately...

I took the dude to the CHN today as I wanted to get him weighed. And also because I am a glutton for punishment. Why oh why do I go?

Well for once his weight was okay, but then she went on and on about his milestones. The dude is 9 1/2 months and is only commando crawling, and has only just learnt to sit alone. He doesn't pull himself up to sit, nor to stand. On the other hand, he has been rolling both front to back and back to front since he was about 3 months. People usually comment on how alert he is. The commando crawling gets him to where he wants to go, and I don't think he likes to sit, because he wants to be on the move all the time.

The CHN told me to get a referral to a physio in order to catch up on his milestones, and also to a paediatrician to check on his bones, as he has not grown a lot taller over the past few months either.

I have always just thought that all babies were different, and if the dude takes a longer time to do some things then I shouldn't worry, all in good time.

The CHN was also worried that he wasn't clapping or waving. Does that matter? I have always thought he was really good with his hands, he passes things and feeds himself finger foods all the time. He can also pat the dog :laughing: . I mean if I never wave to him, why would he be waving anyway?

I mean does this sound really bad to you? Does he sound way behind? Aren't all babies different?

[~Emmylou~]

He sounds exactly like my DD!
She didn't sit up or crawl until 9 months. She wasn't waving at nine months. (I think she was clapping but it was pretty rare ;) ) She is now 18 months and her motor skills are just fine.

I honestly believe babies do things at their own pace...if it were me I wouldn't go to the CHN (I never went once) if she stresses you out like that.

He's your baby, and you are with him 24/7 and if your gut tells you he's fine, he is 99.9% likely fine. Your his mum and it's your job to know these things ;)
What does she know about him, really? They shouldn't stress people out like that.

[OM]

Do yourself a favour ignore what the CHN said and don't go back! They really just are out to make us parents fret about the silliest things. I reckon they get more money for every parent they see that they tell have something wrong with them!


Besides I have never heard of a CHN actually ever saying oh your child is spot on with development!;)

[Supermum]

IThe CHN told me to get a referral to a physio in order to catch up on his milestones, and also to a paediatrician to check on his bones, as he has not grown a lot taller over the past few months either. The CHN was also worried that he wasn't clapping or waving. Does that matter?

CHN schmee HN!! What a silly **** - not clapping or waving ... OMG:eek:

Ali - ALL babies ARE different. Ben wasn't clapping or waving at 9½ months either ... actually I don't think he did either until he was around the 14 month mark.

Goodness me - talk about alarmists. Reminds me of the CHN who had me in a panic because my son wasn't eating pea sized chunks or baked beans at 9 months.

Lots of babies don't crawl/walk until much later. A friend of mine has a husband who didn't walk or talk at all until he was over two. He is now a highly intelligent self-employed lawyer - and I might add you can't tell that his walking was delayed.

You be the judge mum - little dude IS fine.:hugs:

[veve]

hmmm little dude is a champion.. he FLIES around that floor .. and is very alert - especially toward things he SHOULDN"T touch :laughing:

I know 8 and 9 month olds who dont have teeth?? does that count as a milestone?? cause luka has teeth..

Luka seems to pick stuff up pretty fast.. and if you make him sit more he will learn damn quick ... BUT as you say - he is a happening fella and wants to be on the move (as JAck is... but backwards :laughing: )

I agree.. dismiss her and head for a familiar .. trusted gp ... or keep looking for a CHN that says what you want to hear :D

xx

[sopolicha]

Why oh why do you keep doing this to yourself?

The dude is small, but he eats and sleeps, and is happy.

If you want to get him weighed, find a chemist that runs a weekly baby clinic. Much easier.

How could he be made to catch up on milestones? Can't make babies do anything.

[tickle]

Don't stress and ignore what they say.
You can't judge anything on when they crawl. Some never crawl and walk straight away. My DS didn't wave until he was 10 months and he didn't clap until sometime after that.
Silly, silly CHN.:shame:

[misskittyfantastico]

dude = cool

CHN = poo brain

[MammaMia]

Can I add my agreement to all of the above?

My recollection is that crawling falls usually in the 6 - 12 month bracket.

I have a dear friend who has 2 gorgeous little girls. They each on the scheme of things have done things later than average.

For instance, the eldest didn't walk until nearly 2.

And the youngest started crawling a couple of weeks before her first birthday.

They are lovely little kids and now that the eldest is nearly 3, you wouldn't know she was later to get on the move.

Don't stress...easier said than done. Let him take his time to enjoy the scenery and smell the roses. He's unlikely to be 21 and still commando crawling, and refusing to wave to people or clap hands. He'll just get there at a different rate to that set down in the Official Guide for CHNs.

[veve]

dude = cool CHN = poo brain
:yelclap: :laughing: :yelclap: :laughing:

[Goosie22]

Ignore her, I agree with everyone else.
All babies are different, my friend has a 9 1/2 month old who is only just 7kg and dosnt crawl properly either she can sit sort of but is not keen on it. She isnt worried as she knows after 6 kids that she will do what she wants and you cant force a baby to crawl or sit up all you can do is encourage different activities and provide opportunity. I'm sure your doing that!
Trust yourself:) .

[lukaelmo]

Thank you very much, you are all quite brilliant in the reassurance department. I particularly like the poo brain comment too :laughing:.

And you are all right, and I am not going to worry. The thought of the dude being behind in his milestones had never even crossed my mind before, he is a perfectly happy little man, slip sliding his way around and enjoying life. And I also remember a few months ago when a CHN commented; "you have to teach him to sit, otherwise he'll never learn" that DP and I had a good giggle at the thought of Luka at school requesting a cushion for the floor :laughing:.

So I am going to sit back and be happy - my objective was to get the dude weighed - and weigh him we did. 7.2 kilos, now that is a milestone :D .