how old is too old.

[mehimandher]

I am nearly 30 and i was told if i want another baby i better get on to it. I want to wait until i lose more weight before trying again.. Is 30 too old to have another one?

[BazzasMum]

:hugs: Hun... I didn't have my first till 31, so no 30 ISN'T too old!!

[Mrs Potts]

What a lot of rot! I didn't have my first bub until I was 30, and had planned it that way. I've just now had #3 at age 37.

Tell those people to mind their own business.

[biscotti]

What a lot of rot! I didn't have my first bub until I was 30, and had planned it that way. I've just now had #3 at age 37.

Tell those people to mind their own business.


:iagree: What a load of rubbish.

I have a tenth month old and I'm nearly 41. I had my first at 30.

[halloweenmum]

:laughing: what a load of rubbish!!!! even in the world of IVF where age is super important, a 30yr old still has the same odds as a 25 year old, so NO, 30 is plenty young enough!!!! who on earth told you such rubbish???

[mehimandher]

thankyou ladies for making me feel better. It was just a friend who has finished having her kids.

[~Bec~]

I had my first at 36 and plan to have more. My mum was 39 when she had me. Pfft, the average age of first time mothers is somewhere around 28 now!

[Square777]

It is entirely your decision!

Personally I think younger is better, but that is my own decision, it doesn't apply to anyone else!

If you want to wait til you are a healthier weight then by all mans do that, because you are most likely going to have better pregnancy etc and be a healthier mum for your kids.

The only advice ever given to me that I really love, is not to plan when you want to start having kids by, but when you want to finish having them by :)

Because then you have an idea of what your want for after your babies have grown up a little bit and you start to get a little bit of your life back!

All the best, as long as you are comfortable with your choices then it really is irrelevant what other people say!!
:thumbsup:

[Witchypoo]

Man!!! If nearly thirty is too old then I have missed the boat as have millions of other women who haven't had their first child by that age. I think that as long as you are healthy and are able financially and emotionally to support a child then age shouldn't enter into it.
I'm 36 and am TTC #1. Maybe your friend would like to have another baby herself and isn't in a position to for whatever reason and is a tad jealous??

[neostudded]

Thirty is not to old! :)
You have plenty of time left, what you friend said is not true.
Your still very young, don't worry about it.

[Babydreamz]

This is very re-assuring, im nearly 30 and was wondering if im too old to start trying for a baby soon, I havent had any kids yet and this would be the first.

My friend (a nurse) told me that there is alot more risk to mother and baby being 30+ Is that true? Also when does fertility start to decrease? Thanks and sorry to be abit off topic. :flowerz:

[Jakois]

I had one baby in my teens (19), one baby in my 20's(24) and another in my 30's(31).
I can honestly say that there is no real difference:).

[Bron]

Another superannuated parent here - I had DS at 31 (nearly 32) and if we do have a second (crossing our fingers) I will be 34 before they arrive.

Most doctors will tell you that fertility starts to decrease after 35, and that there is considered to be an increased risk of various conditions such as Downs Syndrome after 35. However, these are slight and gradual changes, it doesn't mean that the second you blow out the candles on your 35th birthday cake your chances of a healthy pregnancy plummet.

[MummaFug]

SO NOT TRUE !!!!
I had my 1st at 31 and am having No 2 in Jan (I will be 33).....and then will there be a no 3???? who knows.
I didnt feel ready emotionally, financially etc until then. I hadnt done what I wanted to do by that time...
Each to their own but
30 is in NO WAY too old..

[SPC]

Women's fertility begins to decline after 35. Birth is riskier after 35, but not so much if you are fit and healthy anyway. I had my 'oops' at 34, and my mate is just having her first at 43. It all depends. If you have problems conceiving you may regret leaving TTC until your late 30s, but at 30 you have a good ten childbearing years ahead of you, so there is no cause for alarm unless you want six!

I had the opposite problem, I was anxious and my friends kept telling me I had years to go, when I felt that I didn't if I wanted more than one. Obviously at 34, I'm not as full of beans as I would have been at 24, [one of the other October mums who is 20 was doing star jumps to start labour - um, no, I couldn't do that!], but it's fine.

[maybe1more]

30 is definatley NOT too old!!! I had my 1st @ 25, 2nd @ 28 and im now 30 and planning my 3rd!!!

I would think at the age of 50 and TTC bub number 1 would be pushing it and considered at the "older"end of the scale.

[Kema]

Hi,

Just wanted to say that I dont think 30 is told at all!!!

Did anyone see on ACA last night there was a couple in their 60's that had just had their first child....they went OS to get an egg and sperm donor and the woman fell pregnant first go on IVF. They will be in their 80's when their son is 18!!! :eek:

Not my cup of tea..but each to their own.
So having a bub at 30 to me is no big deal at all!!!


Kema:bee: