Did the father of the bride pay?

[Fuchsia!]

Its just something i have been wondering. I don't think i would want my parents to pay for anything, i would not accept it. So i was wondering who let their parents pay for their wedding?

[Pina Colada]

My parents paid for part of our wedding. They paid for the traditional parents of the brides parts, and my now DH and I paid for the traditional parents of the grooms parts.

[tyler's mum]

My sister is getting married in nov and my mum and dad paid for everything but his suit. Its only a small wedding all up i think 14 people, If it was a big wedding i think they would have paid half

[Mamalicious]

Mine wasn't even there! :laughing: It was such a small wedding though, I didn't even have a dress...we made the food and cake ourselves, the most expensive part was the celebrant lol

I think it's kind of outdated to get the father to pay...we didn't have a cheapo wedding for that reason tho, it was quick and we were broke more like :p

[borntobemummy]

both our sets of parents paid parts of it.

[Rating]

We pretty much paifor everything my dad did contribute but he contributed a few hundred that he was going to put in the wishing well just before the wedding instead of after..

[Kittylou]

My father made a substantial contribution to the costs of the reception and DH's parents also made a contribution. We paid for everything else. We didn't EXPECT them to do it, they wanted to.

[InSaneOne]

my parents didn't pay anything towards mine either. dad did put the meals ($1200) on his credit card that i am now paying off (including interest) as we simply ran out of money to pay for everythying and we had a reasonably small wedding.

i can understand my dh's parents not paying as they had already been through all that with his first marriage. but my mil gave us a really pretty frame for our wedding photo and some cash for our honeymoon.

[Mathermy]

My parents would have to be seriously well off for me to even consider that. Most parents offer to contribute in some way (if they can afford to) and that seems very kind-but I have watched many,many shows (usually american) where these brides are having ultra extravagent weddings and happy to have their parents cop the bill.

I think that is disgustingly self indulgent and if I was the groom I would feel very embarassed that I was allowing my bride's parents to pay for her extravagent choices:shame:

ETA: If I did allow my parents to pay I would never ask them to buy things for me that I couldn't afford for myself. I think it is disgusting when brides take advantage of their parent's generousity.

[amandaw]

My father made a substantial contribution to the costs of the reception and DH's parents also made a contribution. We paid for everything else. We didn't EXPECT them to do it, they wanted to.

As with us....it was a fairly traditional split, and just the way our parents wanted it. Mum and Dad contributed towards the reception (though did then have the issue of Mum declaring that they could then invite extras since they were payng for it :rolleyes: but we lived with that) and DH's parents contributed towards the alcohol. We paid for everything else

[subaruforestermum]

LMAO.... NO way in hell would that thing even be invited to my wedding, let alone pay for any of it....

We dont see each other and havent since I was a kid...

And mum earns less than we do, so I wouldnt let her pay for anything either..

And DF's parents well they say they are poorer than us, but they have money stashed everywhere and its nothing for them to buy a $10 000 diamond ring. But still I wouldnt expect them to pay anything towards our wedding, as they seem to think nice presents makes up for not really being a part of DS's life, and it wont work on me...

We chose to do this, so we will foot the bill for it.....If it was an arranged marriage then sure those who arranged it could pay for it, but I think its wrong for people to go all out just to 'EXPECT' their parents pay for it...

I do know someone, she is an aquaintance that her mummy and daddy are paying for EVERYTHING, including the engagement parties, yep plural, and hens night etc.... She is a spoilt little princess though! AS she expects it..

eta: If parents offer, that's different to people who expect it from their parents... just dont want to offend those who's parents have paid or are paying....

[Queen]

My dad is paying for the venue and food:yelclap:our wedding is not huge so it is not like millions of dollars.
My mum is helping out with everything lol, not money wise, just helping with making things etc, so priceless things.

[EsSjAy]

My parents paid for everything... It was something they had already planned for and wanted to do.... Going against them wasn't an option.... We discussed everything that we wanted for 'our' wedding and they never pushed anything on us whatsoever....

NOW that i am getting remarried DF and myself are paying for everything but his and my parents still want to contribute which is lovely.... and very welcomed, but NOT AT ALL expected.....

x x

[mum2bubba]

Not married yet but I don't know if my dad would pay he has 4 daughters. I'm not even sure I'd want him to pay to be honest. He has said in the past that he would help out though.

[Seekrit]

My family paid for the food at the reception, and his family matched it on the bar tab :D

[Ange&Seth]

My parents paid for the bar tab ($500) and a few odds and ends over the course of the planning. It probably came to a total of $1000 they paid. I didn't have an issue with that though, they gave us $10k towards the deposit to buy our first home.

[mumbron]

my dad is paying for the reception and mum is paying for photos and fh's parents are paying for drinks!! and we'er paying for everything else :D

[Lollie86]

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[Fuchsia!]

My parents would have to be seriously well off for me to even consider that. Most parents offer to contribute in some way (if they can afford to) and that seems very kind-but I have watched many,many shows (usually american) where these brides are having ultra extravagent weddings and happy to have their parents cop the bill.

I think that is disgustingly self indulgent and if I was the groom I would feel very embarassed that I was allowing my bride's parents to pay for her extravagent choices:shame:

ETA: If I did allow my parents to pay I would never ask them to buy things for me that I couldn't afford for myself. I think it is disgusting when brides take advantage of their parent's generousity.

I agree totally

[earthfairy]

We never expected our parents to contribute but they all wanted to...
Plus im an only child so i guess it makes it easier for my parents:laughing:

My mum & her DH paid for my dress, flowers & the bombonerries

My Dad & his wife paid for the food at the reception

DH's Parents paid for the bar tab & DH's mum also wanted to pay for my nails & tanning etc to be done coz she has no daughters & loves the girly aspect of things.

We paid for the rest.

When our kids are older we fully intend to help them out with their weddings too:yes:

ETA: I would like to add that we never took advantage of our parents when they offered to help out. We paid for around 80% of our wedding & saying that we didnt have an Extravagent wedding either. The total came to $12,000 for absolutely everything! Which is pretty mild these days. My best friends wedding cost them $37,000!!!!!!!

[MissSparkle]

My parents paid for everything. The entire wedding minus the groomsmens suits, rings and stefanas.

We offered to pay for more but my dad insisted he'd bought shares years ago with the intention of selling them to make a profit to pay for our wedding.

The bill kind of grew and grew because my mum kept suggesting extra things and went a little over board. I'm not sure of the final total of our wedding but Im pretty sure is was around $40,000-$45,000.

[MummaFug]

My parents paid for almost everything .... I was given a budget (a nice one at that) and everything had to come under that...Otherwise we were to pay ourselves. They also said if we came under that budget - we got given the rest of the money. We went over by a little and Dad REFUSED to take money from us....I will be FOREVER grateful for them for that.

I think DH and I paid for suits and alcohol.
My parents would not have had it any other way - They had JUST retired and had bank accounts for us that were planned for that very reason (i'm from a family of 3 girls). In fact Dad sends us an anniversary card every year with the amount per day he has 'paid' for his daughter to be FINALLY looked after by someone else.
He says its the best investment he ever made :no:

[*Cj*]

My Dad paid for nothing. He will be paying for both my step sister's wedding's. One was $5,000 and the other is looking like it will be around $30,000 :rolleyes:. Thats all ways been the case he'll pay for every thing for them. But not even 5c for mine or my sister's

[mum_inlove]

We paid for our wedding ourselves. My parents didn't come to our wedding, but even if they did, I think I would still prefer to pay for the wedding ourselves.

My in laws did pay for the bar taps and for our wedding night accommodations.:yes:

[missie_mack]

My Mum paid a set amount a head for the reception and my inlaws gave us $1000, we paid the rest. My mothers contribution was our wedding gift which was ok with us. Her parents did a similar thing when she got married and she intends to do the same when/if the time arrives for my brother, so its not a gender bias type thing.

If Mum had said she couldn't afford it we would have been cool with that. I however think my DH would have been cranky with his parents if they gave nothing as his brother was given the same amount of cash as ended up with for his wedding....

[QTB]

my parents brought my bouquet and a few bottles of wine and some of the food...

we paid for the rest of our wedding ourselves... but my mum and dad also paid for them and my brother and sisters to come over to my wedding (from aus to nz) so that was a massive cost to them...

[chameleon]

My Mum paid for our wedding. But it was really cheap and we only invited 20 people.

I was only 18 when we got married though. I think if I had have been, say, 30 and living out of home for years I would've preferred to pay for it myself.

[Grace3]

We paid for all of ours.

My parents made it very clear from the moment I started dating that they would not pay for a wedding. If I wanted to get married it was up to me to save the money.

DH's parents offered to pay for this that and the other, but DH told them they didn't have to pay for anything we had it covered, but to put the money towards a nice wedding gift instead.

We had a bridal register list which they didn't purchase from. I got a yellow towel and DH received a blue towel. They weren't even big bath towels. They were that small that I couldn't do it up around the front after I had a shower. In the end I used them for spare towels for bathing the dog.

My DH was very upset (in tears) with his parents as they contributed to his other siblings weddings and one even got a fridge for a present. He never thought that his parents would do that to him, as they have done other things far worse in the past.

But you couldn't tell him (DH), he had to work it out for him self. Otherwise I was the terrible daughter in law.

Sorry for the vent :o

[mummeeto2]

We paid everything ourselves. My parents don't earn too much so we didn't think it was fair on them to ask for anything. We only had a small wedding at home & as we know a photographer & caterer we got discounts.

[Myliam]

As my husband and I were both over 29, working, and our parents are not well off, we we're prepared to pay for our own. My mother and father are divorced but still got together to pay the $3000 for the food. Which we greatly appreciated. We had 110 people and managed the whole thing for $9000. Thankfully we recieved $1000 cash in presents as that paid for accomodation on our honeymoon. (we had planned on a tent!).

[Yummy_Mummy]

we are planning our wedding for October 09 and we dont want anything from the parents! we are working hard to save the money ourselves as its something we want to do on our own :) also this way we dont have to use anyone elses input but our own & we wont offend them because of it :D

[3blue&1pink]

I am getting Married in November this year.

We have paid for EVERYTHING our selfs, but my Mum asked if she could get together my flowers and the 'something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue'.. and I have said yes.

[Rainbowbrite]

Nope, my father is a cheapskate so paid for NOTHING :mad:

DH's family paid for most of our wedding :D:D I think they were glad to finally be rid of him :laughing:

[ontheway]

We are paying for everything ourselves,(in 17 days)

My Mum made it very clear from the moment we started talking about a wedding that she would not pay it or any part.

DP's is very hurt by her folks as they contributed( more then half) to her brothers wedding and don't understand why we are not paying them to come.( we still don't know if they are comming)

And yes Sorry for the vent :o

[shed]

No way! I wouldn't dream of taking money off my parents for our wedding. Its an old fashioned and outdated custom and we didn't need the extra money anyway.

[mummybunny]

my father is Greek so he wanted to pay for everything, he is sick with cancer though so he isn't working and doesn't have a cent to his name, and i wouldn't have taken the money even if he had it.. we paid for almost everything ourselves..