Getting pregnant in your twenties

[mochachinobaby]

:) Hi everyone,

This month was the first cycle of TTC and it didn't happen for whatever reason. You know how we as women tend to think that things are wrong with our bodies if things don't happen as we want them to to......

I was really hoping to get preggers this cycle and when AF arrived today, i kept thinking that there might be something wrong. I know it's stupid to think that. Husband and i are in our early twenties and have only just started trying. I have heard that for a 'healthy' couple in their 20s, it takes on average 3-6 months to get pregnant.

Are there any other 20-25 year olds who can tell me how long they took to concieve naturally?

I know that i shouldn't worry at all at this stage, but i'm sure people would know how much disappointment can play on your mind.

:bee:

[Baby86]

Hi - It can take twelve months before you should start worrying at all or go to the dr... but
I was 20 when i had my first. I was with a new bf and dd was conceived in the first month of us being together. She is the result of a lil too much to drink (havent had a drop since then)resulting in the temporary loss of brain function to use protection.
I was 21 when i got preg with dd2. Different guy. Again first month i was sleeping with him. Infact we only ever did twice, and i was on the pill...
Dont stress. I do know about getting dissapointed and getting :bfn:
From my experience, it will happen when you least expect it too.

[CrystalMumOfTwo]

Hi,
With DS1 my DP and I conceived him in the first month of trying (was very lucky) I was 20, with this bub after 2 M/C and 1 Eptopic it took me 1yr to the day (after eptopic) to conceive and I am now 25!
*fingers crossed* that next mth will be your month, I always heard that once we give up trying we will fall pregnant and thats what happened with me, i littually gave up all hope and now i am due in just 3-4wks

[Ys_Woman]

I know you are keen but I personally think the secret is to not plan or worry too much..just flow along and enjoy the intimacy whenever you feel like it. Generally the time you conceive is the time you are rip roaring keen to do the wild thing..lol.
I hope it happens for you soon.

Amy:)

[NonnyMouse]

With DD I was 26 when we conceived... started trying 18 months earlier, and we were trying every cycle, to the point where it got tedious.

I'm in my mid 30's now and this time it took exactly 2 weeks after coming off birth control to conceive... and we were actually trying to be careful as I had an operation scheduled and I was NOT allowed be pregnant for the op. As luck/fate would have it, I tested on the morning to make sure I wasn't, and had to cancel because of a BFP!

The only significant difference between now and then is a change of partner.

Before wondering if your body is failing you, think about your partner too... it's quite a bit easier to test for sleepy sperm that non-functioning ovaries. :-)

[KiahsMum]

I conceived DD the third month of trying when I was 27, after having been on the pill for 8 years (it can take a few months for your system to adjust if you have previously been taking it) and despite the fact I have PCOS which makes it much harder to conceive. I wish you lots of luck, I know it is disappointing but keep trying and try not to put too much emphasis on getting pg in a certain month, I believe babies choose the time they arrive :)

[Jells]

I was 26 when I conceived DS...it took 3 months. That first month, I was devastated...to the point I thought it would never happen. By the 3rd month, I actually didn't think about it and wham bam thankyou mam! So I think stressing less is the way to go about it. It's hard, I know. Goodluck with TTC!

[Eco Goddess]

I dont know if this will help...but:

We conceived in our first month of trying and we werent really thinking about it (no charting or OPK's or anything) unfortunately we had a m/c at 9 weeks which was really difficult :crying:
The upside is that I know I can get pregnant...it's just getting it to happen again!
Good luck and try to relax:)

[Seekrit]

I was 23 when I got pregnant with my first child and I was pregnant first cycle off the pill.

This next one (at 26 years old) it took 4 cycles to conceive. :)

[boy wrangler]

I was 25 when we conceived DS on the third cycle, then I was 27 when we conceived the next bubba on the third cycle! I think three is our lucky number! ;) Although both times I was sad after the first two cycles, then didn't really think about it for the third (apart from all the bding) and it happened!

[Blonde Assassin]

I was in your exact shoes several weeks ago when I didn't conceive the 1st month we tried..
I'm 24 & my fiance is 35...so I made the poor darling man go and get a SA - After only one month of trying!! :laughing:

Turns out his results were way above average :smiliedance:

Anyways we're still currently in our 2nd month and already it has been so much more fun because we're more relaxed above TTC...just enjoy yourselves and realise that it may take a couple of months for it to happen..and when it does...you'll appreciate it a whole lot more :goodvibes:

Good luck :babydust2::wizard:

[sparkle5301]

i conceived on my 3rd cycle with all three of my children. and it felt like forever at the time (3 months are you kidding me!!) i understand what you're thinking, but when you look back, it will have gone so fast it will be a blur. good luck and enjoy the ride

[Mama2Mia]

at 24 when we first started trying it took us 4mths to fall pregnant....i was ready for IVF after the 3rd month :laughing:

at 26 we fell pregnant in the first week of trying :yelclap: which was an absolute surprise! I was so relieved as hubby was already over it (the timed trying) after a week:laughing:

oh and i have severe endometriosis and only 1 ovary left too if that makes a difference :yelclap:

[maybe1more]

I was 25 when i had my first bubba, he was one big suprise (not planned). My second pregancy took me 3 months of trying but ending up being a molar pregancy :( We had to wait 6 months before TTC again and fell pregnant the first month of trying and had bub when i was 28, im now 30 and planning on bub number 3 :smiliedance:

[sexy_minx]

i got pregnant with ds at 16yr on my 2end cycle of the pill, been ttc#2 for 18 months then had a MC, and still trying 7 months later so all up 25 months for baby#2 and im 22yr

[ringneck]

the average is actually 6 to 12 months for a normal healthy couple under 30 to fall pregnant. i wouldn't worry that only adds unnecessary stress to what can be a stressful journey. just relax and enjoy trying cause once you do conceive there wont be much relaxing.

[mochachinobaby]

Thanks everyone for your words of advice....

I am feeling much better and have made a decision today to just enjoy the ride and be patient and trust that when it's the right timing it will happen. I am going to continue to chart when i'm ovulating, but am going to just try and bd as often as possible (hubby will like that one) and leave the rest to God.

Emz16 you mentioned making your husband get a SA done.....what does this stand for? Is it sperm analysis??

Will keep you all posted......

:sunshine:

[sexy_minx]

SA = sperm analysis :)

[iMischa]

i was 20 when dh and i decided we wanted a family *after 2.5 years of being together* and it took us 5 months to conceive DS. i was overweight tho which i thought probably contributed. but this time around and im 25 now, and 32 kgs lighter than i was then...still not happening straight away.. 20 something weeks of trying have past..

i guess everyone is different...my sisters fall pregnant at the drop of a hat and its only ever happened to me once! no little 'accidents' or anything.

i reccomend using opk's to pin point ur ovulation...this is the first month ive used them and realised that i ovulate nowhere near where i thought i did. so hopefully this is my month!! :D

good luck to you i hope u dont hafto wait too long to get your bfp.:goodvibes:

[SomewhereOverTheRainbow]

My first DS was the result of an 'accident' when I was 18...(but never a mistake ;):bee:). My DS2 I was off the pill for about 16 months we were just 'let's see what happens' before it happened. After we lost him in July at 18 weeks, this is our 2nd month TTC.

[Trying Hard]

I am 23 and DP is 29 we were TTC for 16 months and have just become pregnant.

I started acupuncture and Chinese herbs a month ago and we had to change our diet as DP has just been told he had high cholesterol. I think a combination of these two things did it for us

Good Luck :fingerscrossed::fingerscrossed::fingerscrossed:

[mochachinobaby]

:wave: Well, i'm definitely not as worried now that i know others have waited much longer than i have (1 month!- a bit pathetic hey?!) to concieve. :o

Trying hard, can u tell me a bit more about Chinese herbs and how they help with conception? I've heard that they help but just wanted to know a bit more about them.

Mischaswonderland- which OPK would you recommend? And how do they work? I think that i have a fair idea of when i'm ovulating, but as you found out with yourself, i might be completely wrong!

[kitzkat]

I'm 22, DH 25. It has been 13 months with no luck as yet. All BT and U/S to date have come back normal. I have just had my first month of acupuncture and chinese herbs. I don't feel any different, but like to feel pro-active.

Had our first appointment with the FS today and went well. More BT to be done. He actually told me to stop taking chinese herbs and other supplements as they can stimulate the hormones the wrong way, and half the time it's hard to tell exactly what you are taking (especially with the chinese herbs)?? So go-figure?

Just try to enjoy the journey and i found being as open about it with the people close to you really helps, as it always great to have support from loved ones. I've needed it along the way when I have my bad days!!! Who knew it would take 3 people to make a baby, but sometimes miracles need a little helping hand

GOOD LUCK!!!!!