fights sleep

[Haylees mum]

my 3 month old over the last month has started to scream the second you put her in her cot. she use to self settle and it was perfect but lately the second i walk in her room at towards her cot she knows and starts screaming not just a grizzle but scream crying. why is she all of a sudden doing this. now i have to settle her and put her in her cot asleep or practically asleep. she also is still waking herself up if i dont wrap her but she is hates being wrapped. i dont know how to get out of this cycle. :hair: she has had bad tummy since she was 1.5 months but its never been a problem before. she has also doing a bit of the same with the carseat as soon as i put her in the car seat and back out the driveway she starts to grizzle. i dont know what to do....

[PrestonPie]

my bub went through a little stage like this. i'm not sure but i think as they become more aware and they go through their growth spurts they change their habits a bit. keep with it, they usually iron out the kinks themselves.
at 3 months i found he was wanting to be wrapped but also not wanting to be so it was a little confusing. i started wrapping him with one hand in and one out and that seemed to help as he decided he would suck his thumb, he didn't want the dummy or his fist. he only sucks his thumb now when he is going off to sleep.

[Mamato1girl]

Hi Haylees mum,

I think what PrestonPie said is true. Babies go through stages of liking things and then not liking them. They might hit a growth spurt or get sick or develop separation anxiety. Having said that Im not surprised that a 3 month old bubba would be wanting her mum close by. Babies are not really meant to settle themselves at such an early age. Have you thought about maybe co-sleeping with your bub so that she can feel and smell you close by? And maybe wear her in a sling while she has a daytime nap. Our little girl lived in her sling in the early years :) She loved it and we got so much done it wasnt funny!

[gentlemama]

Sounds like tricky times.
All I can tell you is what worked for me.
My little one used to always go to sleep on the breast or with me cuddling him. This way I felt that I was meeting his emotional needs instead of trying to make him be independent before it's developmentally normal.
I am a co-sleeper too so it was quite easy for us, he would wake and feed and go back to sleep without me even noticing half the time.
He's 4 now and will happily crash anywhere - evidence that needs that are met go away!
I think just letting go of the expectations that babies should sleep independently and going with their needs is the best way to go. Worked for me anyway!
Best of luck with it.. hoping you're having great sleeping nights soon!

[fludo]

the second i walk in her room at towards her cot she knows and starts screaming not just a grizzle but scream crying.

my 2.5 month old does this too. I think they're too smart for their own good! I dont' really have any advice accept to reassure you that she is not too young to work on self-settling if that's the path you want to take. We have good days and bad days here. Make sure you're putting her to bed when she's tired but not overtired. I've found it all seems to be in the timing - so hard to get right though!