How do I get the message across that I would be nothing but happy for her?

[dreamingofalittle1]

My friend has decided to start TTC'ing in November. My DH and I are currently TTC'ing and are having a lot of difficulty and may have to resort to IVF. My friend said to me that she is afraid that if she will fall pregnant straight away like she has in the past and is dreading telling me about it. I told her that I would be nothing but delighted for her! I don't know if I have eased her concerns but how do I get across to her that her falling pregnant would be nothing but good news for me regardless of what predicament I am in. You see the way I view it is that we are hoping to have children but at the moment this is a far off dream that may not be achievable so I am not going to dwell on what we can't have and regret it already instead I am going to look towards the future and hope and hope and hope that our dreams come true....So how do I ease my friends concerns and convey this to her?

[RoarsomeMum]

I was Blunt.. I told my BF straight out, that her feeling like she could not TELL me was what hurt.. not her being Preg!! - when u are chasing a dream, Its wondeful to see people catch theirs (even if some days its teary)

[trixiebelle17]

I was Blunt.. I told my BF straight out, that her feeling like she could not TELL me was what hurt.. not her being Preg!! - when u are chasing a dream, Its wondeful to see people catch theirs (even if some days its teary)

:iagree:

Different people react so differently to having trouble ttc, and it is nice that others are actually considerate and think about the consequences that it will have on the person that is having difficulty....

HOWEVER, many of us who are having difficulty are realistic that having a baby is a beautiful natural thing that happens to most people without intervention. We are happy for those who don't have to go through the heartache of realising the process isn't going to be as easy as it should be. Rather than jealousy, i think many of us are thankful that those we love get to skip the emotional rollercoaster of 'how is this ever going to happen'.

I think if you explain these things to her (or what ever version is going on in ur head) then she should understand. I think the hard part for you, will be when she is the 2ww wanting to do these ones :hair: that u don't down play how draining and exhausting the process of ttc is even when she has good odds of conceiving within a few months.

[LizzardLover]

Maybe if you tell her that while you might be a little sad or perhaps even jealous, you would be sad/jealous because of how *happy* it makes you to see her acheive her dreams and that you hope someday to be just as happy for yourself and that when you do you hope she will be there to share it with you :)