I feel like I'm losing it

[aodhan-n-ciara]

Hi,
I am having alot of trouble feeding my DD at the moment, she just doesnt want to drink. This is compounded by the fact that DS is refusing evrything offered to him and DD always seems to wake right on his mealtimes. I just burst into tears sometimes, and just dont know what to do. Most of the time I feel as though I am coping, but when everything goes cactus, I just feel hopeless.

I know that with babies it is very hard work, and I know that I would do anything within my powers to help them. Is it just because its so much harder with 2? Or am I just plain hopeless and not copeing? Or am I suffering from PND? I have only started feeling like this in the last few days. I will be seeing the M&CHN next week, and I could go to our GP, who is fantastic, but I feel weak, and that I am just making excuses, trying to put a label on how I am feeling.

Please give me some reassurance that everything I am experiencing is ok, just knowing that others feel the same will make me feel a little better. :(

[MumsieMel]

You are not hopeless,

You have done the right thing reaching out for help.

Maybe you could talk to your Early Childhood nurse, or phone one of the help lines Like Karitan, they are great. they can really help.

O Please take it that step further and ask some one for direct help, in home! :yes:

I really wish you the best of luck.

please let us know how you go :hugs:

[StormAngel]

I second everything MumsieMel said!

Your not hopeless, and what you are feeling is normal for so many of us (even us mums of 4)

[aodhan-n-ciara]

thanks so much girls, I feel alot better this afternoon. We ventured out for a walk and my head feels alot clearer, she also fed really well last feed.

and I also am coming to understand that its not any easier second time around, new challenges are thrown at you. And its ok to cry. :)

[MumsieMel]

Oh good to hear you feel better today!

But remember if you need help it is out there :hugs:

[clairbear]

aodan-n-ciara :hugs:
My hat goes off to you for coping with two littlies and not crying constantly!!
I am learning too that two is bloody hard, and mine are eight weeks and almost three which might be a tad easier than your two bubs age difference!
I have been doing it tough lately, and asking myself exactly the same questions. Is it me having a post natal episode (have had mild depression on and off for years) and do I need medication, or is it just the difficulty of the situation getting me down???
Then evrything will go beautifully for a day and i'll think it was just my imagination, but then the next day it all goes pear shaped again and the tears are flowing!

Have you thought of counselling, not saying you need major psychotherapy or anything, perhaps just chatting with someone objective and trained to be reassuring would be helpful to you. Maybe you should look into it.... your local community health centre should offer counselling (mine does, and babies can come too if child care is difficult). This worked for me before when my first little boy was six months old and I was feeling anxious and overwhelmed, and I'm looking into doing it again! Good luck and you are DEFINITELY not alone:)

[Hokey Pokey]

Let us know how your check up goes.
My thoughts are with you and I'm here for a chat if you want to..

[Tam-I-Am]

HI aodhan-n-ciara's mummy,

How old is your little? Its really normal for them to go through a period of breast refusal (I think from your post you're breastfeeding - If your FF, then sorry - but I think its normal for bottle refusal too!)

If this is what's going on, I know how devastating it can be - it happened to us when DD was 17 weeks old. Please don't feel alone, and don't feel like you're doing anything wrong. Let me know if you want anymore info.

PLEASE, please PM if you want to chat - its awful when you feel all alone, but I think what you're going through is a normal mummy-reaction to feeling as though your children are starving - trust me - they're not. They'll both be eating enough until this rough patch evens out. (I know when people told me this, I thought - you just don't understand what I'm going through. I might not, but I empathise). Please know that there are people here who understand, and want to help!

Take care of yourself!:hugs: