Just a quick Question...?

[MummyoftheMuffins]

Hi...

I was just wondering if anyone who's had a ceasar has much difficulty ummm how do i say... Doing IT... LOL.

My DD is almost one now and i still experience alot of pain down there! And sometimes even bleed after... Doctors all tell me that its all normal and it could be up to two or three years untill i get back to "Normal"... But I just wanted to know if im the only one...???

[suemp]

cant help you much as i had c section nearly 5 years ago but i do remember getting in trouble of doc for doing it before the 6 week mark. i have noticed my libido has dropped alot since becomming a mum and without the wanting it so to speak it can hurt as there are no juices. also painful sex can be a sign of clamidia(sp?). all pain should be taken seriously. i had pain during sex for a while but left it and it turned into pid (pelvic inflammortory disease) which i was the sickest i think i could ever be. hospitalised for a week and lucky to have any kids. another thing to lookat maybe is genital herpes. we had a old lady at the nursing home i worked for and hers often bled?? anyway i guess my point is i think its odd that you are still in pain so get it checked out....but than im no doc and they know alot more than me

[SilverStarfish]

I think I've been extremely lucky with my c-section experience. Its been only 9 weeks and I'm totally right as rain - walking, lifting, back to water aerobic even. But then I was driving and mowing the lawn after 3 weeks... I didn't push myself, just did what I felt ok with.

In theory sex would be fine... in practice I'm usually too tired and covered in breast milk and baby spit to feel much like it :o

[MrsMiggins]

I had a great c/s experience, although you wouldn't have been able to tell me that for the first 3 days afterwards!! I thought I had never felt so much pain! But after I got over that, it was totally smooth-sailing (and you know it was all worth it in the end anyway!!)

I have to admit, it took us a while to get back into the swing of things so to speak, but when we did, I had no problems at all. It was as if I'd never had a baby.

From memory, I think the first time we tried it after Claire was born was when she was about 8 weeks old. Not sure exactly, but it was around then.

[SassyMummy]

I had sex early. Around 2 weeks after. I know I wasn't MEANT to, but I did. I found that doing it from a "spooning" position was comfortable. I wasn't ready to try anything more difficult at that time...and DP didn't even WANT to do it then...but I pressured him into it. lol.

I think you SHOULD wait the 6 weeks though...but yeah, I didn't and I survived. As for pain during sex...I never get it. Sorry if that's not much help.

[JATS]

We were back at it like rabbits after 3 days:o , no pain, a little uncomfortable for the first week but nothing after that!

I'd see another doctor.

[Chickadee]

If you're breastfeeding then that can cause dryness, and so pain during sex. A good lubricant should fix that though. Pain isn't normal, particularly after so long and if it didn't hurt before you had your DD. See another doctor, or head to a womans health clinic.

[kadownie]

Definately go and get it checked out. A friend told me that sex was difficult and painful for her after her ceaser- and it turned out that they stiched something to the wrong place...not saying that this is what's happened to you- but it's best to investigate the pain!

[munchkin05]

sorry im no help we were back at it 1 week after he was born and ive had no pains bleeding or anything

the doc never said to us to wait for the 6 week mark he said as long as we feel ready then do it
its nearly a year since i had mine and the scars nearly gone and theres no pain

i have heard a few friends complain years after having theres that they get a bit of pain but never from sex its always lifting something heavey etc

i woudl go see another doc

[MummyoftheMuffins]

Thanks for all your advice girls, but i am still in a bit of a pickle! It's been a year since my ceasar... And a loss of libido also, since i had my DD. I use lubricants and everything and it still causes alot of pain, burning and sometimes blood after. I have tried all the libido lifters and all that **** but nothing works. I'm on the pill, maybe that could be the problem???

[Bessie]

You poor thing!!! It doesn't sound normal to me! See a good gyno and keep pushing for help until it clears up, it sounds like some sort of infection but you could end up getting scared of sex and that could stuff up your sex life and make you really miserable.
Hope it all works out. <big hug>

[MummyoftheMuffins]

It makes me kind of depressed to see that most of you were back having sex after the first couple of weeks... One of you even said three days after! OMG! Makes me feel like they botched my ceasar or something!!!!

I don't think its a disease or anything like that, because on the odd occasion i can do it without any pain at all. Just sometimes it hurts like hell and causes a burning sensation afterwards. We don't really do it very rough and don't really do it in many different positions because certain positions hurt me too much, sometimes it feels like he is hitting my cervix or something. Sorry if that sounds weird but its just the only way i can explain how it feels for me.

Also there is the fear of me falling pregnant again i think, it kind of ruins the moment sometimes. I worry that if i fall pg again then i will be forced to have an abortion because i can't afford another baby. It could be a fear thing too i suppose but i don't understand the bleeding afterwards. It only occurs sometimes but when it does happen it leaves me very sore and uncomfortable for a day or so.

I went and saw another doctor today and he said that it is all normal. And that every woman goes through it. But you guys aren't going through it! My DD is one in two weeks, and some of you are back to normal after only a couple of weeks. This is very discouraging for me....:gloomy:

[munchkin05]

you pooor thing i dont think it sounds right go see another doc

if another preg is scaring you maybe you could use something other than the pill

i must say when i was on the pill my sex drive was very low but once i found out i was preg and came off it well i turned into a maniac lol im still not on the pill cause dp had the snip so we dont have to worry
maybe i could sujest another position ( sorry lol) maybe its the possy that your using i dont know

but i would go and see another doc
good luck

[MrsMiggins]

It makes me kind of depressed to see that most of you were back having sex after the first couple of weeks... One of you even said three days after! OMG! Makes me feel like they botched my ceasar or something!!!!

I don't think its a disease or anything like that, because on the odd occasion i can do it without any pain at all. Just sometimes it hurts like hell and causes a burning sensation afterwards. We don't really do it very rough and don't really do it in many different positions because certain positions hurt me too much, sometimes it feels like he is hitting my cervix or something. Sorry if that sounds weird but its just the only way i can explain how it feels for me.

Also there is the fear of me falling pregnant again i think, it kind of ruins the moment sometimes. I worry that if i fall pg again then i will be forced to have an abortion because i can't afford another baby. It could be a fear thing too i suppose but i don't understand the bleeding afterwards. It only occurs sometimes but when it does happen it leaves me very sore and uncomfortable for a day or so.

I went and saw another doctor today and he said that it is all normal. And that every woman goes through it. But you guys aren't going through it! My DD is one in two weeks, and some of you are back to normal after only a couple of weeks. This is very discouraging for me....:gloomy:

Try not to worry about it!! :hugs: We're lucky if we do it once a month at the moment!! And when I was PG - forget it!! DH wouldn't come near me!! (I don't think he was put off by me so much as he was uncomfortable doing it with the baby "right there"!)

But having said that, I know I've got a few years on you.... Oh god! Now I'm depressed! ;)

I do have a lot of dryness, but that's pretty normal for me. Definitely stick with using the lubricant, and I would get the bleeding checked out, maybe by a different Dr. I'm sure it's nothing to worry about, but you want to be sure. Several years ago, I had something similar. It was just caused by the friction. Is your bleeding more superficial or does it seem to be more internalised. (Does that make sense? Do you know what I'm talking about?)

I also have a very low cervix & can often feel pressure there during sex. It's nothing to worry about. Maybe things changed a bit for you during PG if you didn't have this before? Some positions are definitely better for this.

Hope this helps!:thumbsup: