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[tj_mum]

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[yackysmum]

yay a young step mummy. :smiliedance: Isnt it weird when you say "my stepson" in conversation and people look at you really weird.
My hubby is 29 and his little man is 4. I have been with him for 3 1/2 years.
Ufortunatly his mum is english and she took him to the uk after his second birthday and she wont bring him back for another 2 years :gloomy: :crying: :crying:

[tj_mum]

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[yackysmum]

we call him every sat night but the time difference makes things confusing, and i send stuff all the time and email his mum pics.
when i first starting seeing my DH she hated the fact that he had someone new and much younger and she didint want me changing her sons nappy and silly things like that.They were always on the phone fighting and she even come to the house to have a fight with me. She was the kind who used the baby as a porn to get him to do whatever she wanted.
But now we have been together for so long she has finally accepted the fact that i am a part of her sons life, but its only been that way in the last year and only because she is overseas and i think me having a baby has helped.
But i always think of him as one of my own and i always say i have two boys.
How many kids do you have?
I want to have two but because of my stepson i see myself as already having two, (regardless of his location) and i dont want three, but deep down i want another of my own.
:confused: i know it doesnt make sense does it

[Starlet]

Pick me! Pick me!!

We're not married tho, but yes we have a blended family. I am 22, with two stepdaughters(ages almost 3 and 1 1/2), I also have 2 kids of my own from a previous relationship and we are also TTC.

It was really hard at first, it started off as 'your kids, my kids'. We had alot of arguements back then over favouring our own kids, etc.

But we've worked through all that now and we're a big happy family :) I wouldn't change it for the world.

[MummyCharmzy]

yackysmum.. that makes complete sense...

I always wanted 4 children, then I gained a stepson and initially I thought hes part of my 4.. but then i realised 'no, now I want 5' .. we're onto number 4 now but I still want one more!

When people ask how many children I have, its simple.. we have 3, expecting our 4th...I raise DSS 60% of the time and next year that increases as he starts school... no way I could say anything else! I swear people would think I was crazy if I said I only had two children yet see me out with three all the time and when I don't have three, I'm 'shopping for 3' lol

[tj_mum]

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[tj_mum]

I just realised there was more reply's while i was typing mine :laughing: sorry every one .....Quick question to you all............how did you all deal with the change's ? did you ever feel you werent going the right thing by ss or sd ?

[yackysmum]

it was actually really strange when she took him overseas because he got so used to me and he would even call me mum and we loved each other but two weeks before he left he hated me with a passion and didint want me anywhere near him and would kick me and yell at me etc.(i think his mum had been in his ear beforehand)
but to be honest because of his age i dont think it really matters that much to him, and we are really only a picture on a wall and a voice on the end of the phone.
we've seen him once in the two years for only two weeks but it was hard to enjoy him or let ourselves get too attached because it only tore our heart out AGAIN to watch him leave.
But i dont really talk too much about him to my DH cause he is already suffering from depression because of it.

[tj_mum]

Not good at all

[MummyCharmzy]

I think how things are are fine by DSS.. I think next year things will be easier on him as he will have more routine with school and not be always trying to figure out 'what happens on what day'

[yackysmum]

no not pregnant. my son is 16 months.
maybe i confussed you, i meant said she chilled out a bit after i got pregnant which was a long time ago.
Funny enough i only fell pregnant a month after they left.
so who has main custody of you dss??
i would lov to have mine full time

[tj_mum]

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[munchkin05]

hi just seen this thread and thought i would join

ive got to stepsons ones now 15 and the other is 7
and i have a 11mth old son with my dp

we have sole custody of the 15 year old and the 7 year old comes to us most weekends

i was 18 when dp and i got together and it was a big adjustment to already have 2 kids to have to be concerned about but i wouldnt change anything now

[Leesha]

YAY! I thought I was the only one... I'm 12 weeks pregnant with our first although DF has an almost 3 year old son from a prev. relationship!!

It's tough being a step mum! I've been in his life since he was a little baby and I'm still trying to adjust.... It sounds really awful but some days I wonder what I ever got myself into....

[munchkin05]

i know that feeling a little to well

expecially as my 15 yr old step son lives with me and dp and im the one that goes to teachers meeting runs him to sports etc and its hard to disipin him cause im only 9 years older than him

but when i look at my life i wouldnt change anything ive got 4 great males in my life ( i would like more females in my house lol ) but im happy and the main thing is we all love each other :D