Getting married with kids

[miryjau]

I am a mother of two and am getting married to their father in a few months. I am really excited that we decided to do this, and thirlled that our girls can share in thie special day but am finding it really hard to arrange. Ie speaking on the phone to the celebrant with my two year old screaming"Mumma, want HI5"in the background and having to rush back from dress shopping to pick the oldest up from school! Within my angst and excitement, I have decided this would be a great topic for a feature article I am writing for a Professional Writing Diploma I am doing. And I would love to hear any stories from anyone who has gotten Married with Children. Good, bad, indifferent!

[jag5000]

my DH and I were married when DD was 8.. she was a bit weird about it, as in didn't want to really get involved.. but then again, that's the way she is.. she did love getting her gorgeous dress etc.. and she read a poem at the ceremony, she did so well!.. not a dry eye in the house after that!! :D this is it;

Today is the wedding
Of more than just two.
My mother and father,
But also me too.

Today is the birth
Of a new family:
One that will fashion
The one I will be.

And so as we welcome
A new man and wife,
I welcome a family
Whose love changed my life.

I welcome a future
Together as three:
My mother and father
United with me.


awwwhhh :) I still get gushy when I read it!

[mumbron]

Hi there congratulations on your up coming wedding. I am a mum of 4 and will be getting married in 5 weeks i have a 8y/o 6y/o 1y/o and a 6 m/o and i have been working around them to organise our wedding ie when they are sleeping or the kids are at school or when i have a spare minute, it can be hard if you make it but i guess its a matter of being organised.
good-luck:flowerz:

[BellyFruit]

Hi Miryjau

We recently got married on 21 June. My 5yo twins were very excited, but because we had a surprise wedding at our engagement party, we couldnt tell them too much because they'd spill the beans! They were beyond thrilled to be suited up as their suits were exactly the same as the 4 groomsmen... While our guests were ushered upstairs to the chapel area, and we were hurriedly getting dressed, someone pinned the fathers' buttonholes on the twins who weren't actually going to have buttonholes and when we tried to take them off them to give them to our dads all hell broke loose with tears galore so we ended up with the boys having the buttonholes and the dad's going without!

The boys didn't actually see mummy getting changed into her white dress, so when we were standing at the altar, they got confused and asked my sister (chief bridesmaid who is also my identical twin) if she was their mummy... aw... We had the boys walking around with little boxes of tissues for our 100 guests - that was a nice touch and kept them occupied...

The boys were excellent all night and eventually fell asleep upstairs on one of the cushioned pews...

was the best night ever :cloud9:

[Hokey Pokey]

We had 2 and one on the way at our wedding in 06 :yes: It was great, no probs at all!

[miryjau]

Thanks! I love the story about the button holes! Yes we are really excited, and both girls especially my 7 year old can't wait. We are going to get her to do a reading, and read a great one from The Velveteen Rabbit just yesterday:

"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"

"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."

"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.

"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."

"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"

"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."

So cute. She loved it. Made us all smile.

[MissSparkle]

DH and I got married in March with our 3year old and 8month old both there.

Organising and Preparing were stressful but being somewhat of a control freak I make fast decisions and new how I wanted everything.

I was trying on my dream dress with DS crawling under is yelling mummy I can c ur bottom in the middle of the dress shop.
Picking out stationery to look down n c my 8month old nibbling on some expensive paper.
Sitting at the cake shop picking out cakes while bottlefeeding DS2 and trying to stop DS1 jumping off the back of the lounge.

It was chaotic....but having them there was worth it!
DS1 still talks about and says
"mummy, did u marry my daddy?"
Me- "yes I did"
him- "U love him...I saw it"
me- "Yes I do love daddy very much."
him- "Ur dress was very beautiful mummy. Ur like a princess."

Its just so beautiful that he remembers it.

One more funny statement. After the wedding my parents were driving the kids hime and the car was all quiet (and full) AJ says
"Hey Pa....was daddy taking off mummys undies?" Refering to the GARTER! lol. How sweet and innocent is that?

[ali1210]

I'm getting married in two weeks with my nearly 2yr old girl and my 7yr old boy as my flowergirl and page boy. My little girl doesn't even want to put her dress on. When she was getting fitted she sat on the ground with this big puffy dress all around her and burst into tears. I wish I had my camera. She still cries when she sees it. My boy is really nervous about carrying the ring cushion (even though they will be tied onto it). Hopefully the rehearsal will calm his nerves. There is one thing that I have learnt throughout the planning- make all calls when little people are out of the house or napping and don't tell or show anything to little people who may tell, especially when it's supposed to be a secret. My son saw me try on a number of dresses. When we got home he promptly told my HTB all about them in great detail. :ecomcity: He completely forgot not to say anything. I didn't take him to my final fittings so he can't describe the dress i'll actually be wearing.