View Full Version : My partner has just turned into one of those losers who leaves their pregnant gfs!
yesterday we discovered we are havint twins, today it is just me having twins and they are all mine, i feel sorry for him for being such a loser and to do something he will deeply regret, i feel sorry for the two children who will eventually learn their father is a loser and then even more time to learn it isnt their fault and to let go of anger. im actually relieved because ever since we found out i was pregnant in the first place, it has all gone from fantastic to bloody horrible. but now im actually happy cos now i dont have to feel guilty about being happy that i have been given this gift...two gifts. im not here for people to feel sorry for me, im a very strong woman and positive. i just want to know if anyone else has or is in the same situation...with twins and being or going to become a single mommy? how are you going with plans for the future etc?
Just wanted to send you some :hugs: and hope your going ok:) you sound like a very strong women:yes:
oh and congratulations on finding out your having twins, thats amazing:)
:hugs: to u and congrats on your double blessing!!!!!! how exciting. Dont worry about that looser. kids only need one great parent to become great adults themselves and you sound as though you will do an awsome job!! I have four on my own and have been mostly on my own as a parent. When you have your babies you can spend as much time enjoying them as you like as you wont have him to take care of so enjoy!!!
I can't really give you advice on what you are asking about but I can say congratulations on your wonderful news. I'm sorry to hear that your partner is not supporting you. Are you able to talk to him about what he's feeling? Is he not ready to be a father, or perhaps he is not ready for the financial commitment? Perhaps you can seek some counselling together. You sound like a very strong person who has recognised how special it is to be expecting twins and I wish you all the best. :hugs:
i dont care how he feels he gave up that right for me to care how he feels when he said bye bye. a couple of weeks ago i said it wasnt working, then he came back and said he loves me and wants it to work, and we decided to have counceling. but since it has become two not one its a different story. he needs to grow up seriously, its pathetic. but thanks for the concern :)
It's an epidemic!
Sorry to hear your bloke is having a meltdown, but congratulations on the babies. Although my bloke isn't likely to ever come back, [he ran for the hills - the really big hills of Canada!], I do think that many of them do. Sometimes it can take a while for them to adjust. It's not fair and it's not fun, but it happens. However, you don't sound as if you were certain about the relationship either? Maybe you both need a bit of space?
I think it's helpful to concentrate on what an amazing thing they are going to miss out on, rather than what a cowardly bugga they are. Try not to burn any bridges. It's easy to throw a whole lot of anger at them, especially when you are pregnant, but keeping the moral high ground is more pleasing. :yes:
Congratulations on expecting twins. How far along are you? How shocked were you when you found out you were having twins? I can't give you any advice about being a single mum to twins but I can certainly give you advice about being a mum to twins. My twin boys will be 3 next month (OMG). It can sometimes be hard work but very rewarding. Do you have family or good friends around you that will be able to chip in and give you a hand if needed?
sorry to hear about your situation. I can sort of relate too you. My twins are nearlly 3wks old and altho my bf is still around, im basically a single mum and im only 17 also which makes it a little more difficult but honestly, i wouldnt have it any other way. My boys are generally perfect (except tonight/this morning LOL).:ecomcity:
Good luck with ya pregnancy, pm if ya wanna chat.
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