View Full Version : Strangers taking photo of your child !
Just a quick vent i suppose and curious to know if this has happened to you and how you dealt with it.
Whilst being outside yesterday with DD a large family group with no children were walking past our house. As usual DD will wave and say hello to everyone. They smiled and said hello, saying what a cute child she is and then all of a sudden two of the men took out their mobile phone to take a photo of her !
I turned her around and nicely asked them not to take any photos. They got a bit upset and asked me why not... simply because its not needed and i don't want them to and we walked away. They didn't understand why they couldn't.
Do they really need a photo of my DD ? For what reason?
Has this happened to anyone.. what are your thoughts on all this.
I guess the way society has become with hearing about all these predators out there has really made me so "over" protective!
SorenLorensen
14-09-2008, 14:04
in a situation like that i would have asked for them not too as well.
but i have let strangers take photos of my girls. DD1 is blond haired and has blue eyes, Japanese people LOVE her and are always flocking towards her and i have always let them take photos of her.
there has been a thread similar to this before and someone did point out a very good point that i remember. a lot of people had issues with strangers taking their kids photos yet they happily had their photos posted on the internet and in their avatars...its easy to copy and paste ;)
My kids get photos taken of them all the time by people i dont know, i dont say anything, but am curious as to what they do with the photo once it has been developed.
I have never seen a copy of the photos pop up any where either.
I do think it would be nice if they asked first!
Lastcenturymum
14-09-2008, 15:15
People should ask first and if someone took their photo, I would question why they wanted their picture and what they intended to use it for (put them under pressure) in fact if it was males taking them, I would ask them to delete it if you didn't catch them in time and be very annoyed about it.
madaboutsesamestreet
14-09-2008, 15:16
Just out of interest were the family group tourists? Also I've had Japanese tourists take photos of my two dogs when I was out walking them!
loveshack
14-09-2008, 15:17
I've wondered about this well...does your question apply to playgroups also?Moms have taken pics of their kids with DD,and I have as well,but sometimes I still wonder if it's ok....:confused:
We have an annual pass for Dreamworld and we go often.....the tourists (especially the Japanese) are always stopping and taking photo's of the kids...the kids aren't posing for the pic...just walking along ect.....:confused:
hayleysmummy
14-09-2008, 15:23
Hmm I would be sus in your circumstance esp it being a male taking pics of your DD on their mobile phone
A few weeks ago I was at the beach with DD and a japanese tourist asked if she could take a pic of DD with her back to the ocean (DD was fully clothed) so I didnt see the harm in it and it would have made a really nice photograph so I didnt mind had it been a male I would have said NO
A few weeks ago I was at the beach with DD and a japanese tourist asked if she could take a pic of DD with her back to the ocean (DD was fully clothed) so I didnt see the harm in it and it would have made a really nice photograph so I didnt mind had it been a male I would have said NO
Can I ask why :o? Just because A woman has taken a photo doesn't make it any more safe then if a man was to take it.. She could just of easily have given the photo to her partner, or been asked to take the photo for a friend.. Also, just because shes a woman, doesn't mean she herself doesn't want the photo for something that you wouldn't want it used for....Know what I mean?
I'm not picking at all, but I just think to say no to a man taking a photo, then yes to a woman is a bit silly. You may as well say no to everyone if you don't want any photos of your children being used or looked at in an unsavory manor.
hayleysmummy
14-09-2008, 15:41
Can I ask why :o? Just because A woman has taken a photo doesn't make it any more safe then if a man was to take it.. She could just of easily have given the photo to her partner, or been asked to take the photo for a friend.. Also, just because shes a woman, doesn't mean she herself doesn't want the photo for something that you wouldn't want it used for....Know what I mean?
I'm not picking at all, but I just think to say no to a man taking a photo, then yes to a woman is a bit silly. You may as well say no to everyone if you don't want any photos of your children being used or looked at in an unsavory manor.
Honestly I dont know why I would just feel more uncomfortable if it was a man taking a pic of my little girl. I know what you mean though and it does sound silly but its just the way I feel about it.
No offence taken
Glad there was none taken! :D... It doesn't necessarily sound silly.. I just think that theres a general feeling in society that only men are bad when it comes to things like this.. I know that its generally men, but people should really just be wary of anyone, because seriously, women do things too.
tootiredtosleep
14-09-2008, 15:54
I would want to know why they were taking the pic. I can't imagine taking a picture of someone elses child? Esp out the front of your house! I am paranoid too - they would have an address and photo of the child ... big alarm bells ringing there!
I guess camera phones are very popular and most kids LOVE having their pic taken, so maybe they were just humoring your DD and deleted it once they got home?? I hope so.
As usual DD will wave and say hello to everyone. They smiled and said hello, saying what a cute child she is and then all of a sudden two of the men took out their mobile phone to take a photo of her !
I turned her around and nicely asked them not to take any photos. They got a bit upset and asked me why not... simply because its not needed and i don't want them to and we walked away. They didn't understand why they couldn't.
Do they really need a photo of my DD ? For what reason?
Has this happened to anyone.. what are your thoughts on all this.
I guess the way society has become with hearing about all these predators out there has really made me so "over" protective!
You should have just told them if they wanted a pic of your daughter they should just go to the public forum BubHub and they can get a pic of her there. Also it will have her name age and where she lives.
I would want to know why they were taking the pic. I can't imagine taking a picture of someone elses child? Esp out the front of your house! I am paranoid too - they would have an address and photo of the child ... big alarm bells ringing there!
I guess camera phones are very popular and most kids LOVE having their pic taken, so maybe they were just humoring your DD and deleted it once they got home?? I hope so.
:iagree:. No way would I want someone taking a pic of my kiddies out the front of my home.
Harlequin
14-09-2008, 16:07
You should have just told them if they wanted a pic of your daughter they should just go to the public forum BubHub and they can get a pic of her there. Also it will have her name age and where she lives.
:laughing:
Sorry, but that cracked me up.
You should have just told them if they wanted a pic of your daughter they should just go to the public forum BubHub and they can get a pic of her there. Also it will have her name age and where she lives.
:yelclap::laughing:
Classic. I do think it was a bit rude to take a pic without asking. But then again, as a childless person it sometimes gives me hope to see gorgeous young kids... makes me see the miracle and remind me why I deal with the heartache.
Phyllis Stein
14-09-2008, 16:13
You should have just told them if they wanted a pic of your daughter they should just go to the public forum BubHub and they can get a pic of her there. Also it will have her name age and where she lives.
*chortle*
Emsmum85
14-09-2008, 20:10
I would have said "Yeah fine if I can take one of you" then picked up DD and took her inside.
tyler's mum
14-09-2008, 20:12
I would have done the same thing there is no need for any ramdon person to be doin that:no::no:
Bewitched
14-09-2008, 20:29
I wouldnt be comfortable with it happening out the front of my home no :no:
jess joy
14-09-2008, 20:35
Whilst at the perth zoo a small boy and my son were looking at the fish together and thought it would make a good photo i asked the mum (i assumed it was the mum carer ect) if that would b ok as i thought if someone was to take a photo of my son i would want to know and the reaction i got was kinda like why are u asking me of course its fine but not in a nice way but not bad either it was a bit weird. circumstances like playgrounds where u no other ppl hav got kids is ok but others are a bit iffy especially the way the world has become now bit disappointing we can no longer trust the simple things in life
Thanks ladies - now i don't feel as if i've over reacted (as some people that i've talked about it have said)
I just find it weird. Its pointless taking a photo of someone else child really.
mummyjessie86
14-09-2008, 21:59
:no: It's sad to see what our society has come to these days. Years ago, it would never have been a problem... But now... thanks to those sicko's you have to think twice. :(
loveshack
14-09-2008, 22:07
We have an annual pass for Dreamworld and we go often.....the tourists (especially the Japanese) are always stopping and taking photo's of the kids...the kids aren't posing for the pic...just walking along ect.....:confused:
I think kids of a different nationality are themselves sometimes an 'attraction',don't know why...:confused:
mum2bubba
14-09-2008, 22:58
That is quite strange, I guess if they were taking a photo of something else and she was in the background it'd be different but they actually wanted to take a photo of her. I would feel a bit uncomfortable with that. I have taken photos of my kids whilst we've been out and about and other people were way in the background but that is different.
Do you know if these people live locally? I'm sure they are harmless but you just never know these days do you?
Jinglebells
14-09-2008, 23:18
there has been a thread similar to this before and someone did point out a very good point that i remember. a lot of people had issues with strangers taking their kids photos yet they happily had their photos posted on the internet and in their avatars...its easy to copy and paste ;)
that might have been me, I always point that out in threads like this, people don't want their kids pics to be taken, yet they put them on the net
I think kids of a different nationality are themselves sometimes an 'attraction',don't know why...:confused:
spose its like if we went to africa or some place like that, I know of people that go to other countries and have taken pics of the local kids, cause it is kinda like a "attraction" type thing, where we're facinated by seeing someone that looks different
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