Single Mum wants bubba christened!

[kailensmum]

I'm a single mum and I want to get my boy christened. Has anyone else been in the same situation as I. Also do you know if the godparents ahve to both be of the same faith as I or will one be sufficent. I'm feeling a little stressed about the whole thing, but I do want him to be christened. Help!!!

[Terrible2+1cutie]

I grew up in the church all my life but my partner never had anything to do with the church, i really wanted my kids christened but due to my partner having different feelings we compromised. We ended up settling for a Blessing in our own backyard with family and friends. We were lucky enough to have a minister of the church come and do this for us and i found it to be just as nice as a normal Christening. This is just another alternative for you, just thought i would share it with you.

Catherine

[shellbell]

hi kailensmum,

this may not be a good thing to say, but i say "shop around" until you find a church that maybe has a more progressive priest/minister/pastor etc. we are getting our son baptised on sunday and we have a gay couple as two of our godparents ( not the same as your situation, but something that the church frowns upon) also, we were told that at least one of the godparents needs to be catholic.

hope this helps

[sopolicha]

Due to family pressure I had my daughter baptised in the Lutheran Church, at a time when I was a single mother.

My mum knew the pastor, but no one seemed to fazed about it all. I had my brother and his wife as god parents and no one who attended the ceremony other than my mother had stepped foot inside a church for years and years.

Some religions are definately more tolerant than others. Also from talking to friends and now looking for schools one of the first things that private schools seem to ask is has the child been baptised?

Good Luck (you son has a great birthday, another mad aquarius!)

[kailensmum]

Thankyou all for your advise. Sorry I took so long to reply. I know for sure it won't be happening where I was chridtened, but apparently at mtynephews school parish they're fairl accepting og these things .
Cheerio Spagettios!! :D

[WeThree]

Most churches will christen your child if you are a single mum, but alot will not if you are living with a partner but not married. I dont know if you are looking to baptise your child into catholic or anglican faith or some other one but i had my son christened in an anglican church and i was a single mum at the time, but the minister would not christen a couples child who lived together, when my husband and i had cooper we were not yet married and living together and my minister really did not feel comfortable baptising him, so we got a pastor friend of ours to do a service for us in the backyard, it was so lovely and personal that even though we were married by the time we had matilda we decided to do that again.
With the godparents thing, godparents are generally people that you choose to guide your children on the right spiritual path, this is particulary important to christians, and it is how i chose godparents for my children, i could never choose godparents for my children who would not guide them on their walk with christ, but thats just me :) if you are not a christian a nice word some of my friends have used is guardian, rather than godparent, this still means the person has a very big role to play in your childs life without any spiritual obligation. well i think i have raved on long enough, hope i have been some help :)
blessings, erin