Stop the roller coaster!

[sharvs]

Well (a good story always starts with well!). As some of you may remember, my DF is away for approx 10 months. He was originally coming home for a few weeks in July. I went to a deployment brief today & was told that he isnt coming home until August & it will be for a month.

I should be excited, right??? I am, it's just that for that whole month he will be home. As much as that is going to be great, he is going to be with us 24/7 then gone again. Dont get me wrong, i want to see him it's just that after having him here for so long it is going to make it really hard to say goodbye again. I kind of feel like I am taking 2 steps forward, one step back.

I think i would prefer him just to be here a couple of weeks, so I dont get too used to having him at home - Am I a bad fiancee?? It's just really hard to go from being a single parent, to a partnered relationship, back to solo again - I'm all over the place.

[MonMic]

Oh Sharvs :wave:

It is a bummer, my Dh travels alot but for shorter trips and its always a pain for everyone, having to adjust when they come and go.:(

Try to just take one day at a time and appreciate the time you do have instead of living in the future and worrying alot, it just spoils the good times and you miss out!

:hugs: to you,
it will be OK!
Mon.

[Scout]

I say this like a broken record (sorry), being a partner of someone in the ADF is hard. This won't necessarily go on forever.

Make sure you find some support in the ADF community where you are and of course, the ADF thread here.

Take Care.

[Mummy@home]

I havent been in the situation that you are in sharvs but I do know what you mean. My thought would be that it would be eaiser not to see them at all until they are home for good.

I think you are just going to have a great support team for when he does go back. But just try to enjoy the time you have with him when he comes home :)

[Jinglebells]

sharon, your not a bad fiancee, I know exactly where you are comming from, I always found it easier for DH to not come home half way throught his tours overseas, its hard to swap from being a single parent and to a family then a single parent again, your bubs is stil young so he won't notice any difference, just keep yourself busy after your DF goes back, the time will just fly by and he'll be back before you know it

[tupper_lady]

Hey hun! I am in Brisbane too and go through the same rollercoaster with my DP who is in the Army at Enoggera. It doesnt make you a bad mum, it just really takes it toll during deployments and it doesnt seem as though you can cope with it. It does get easier each time, but there are still hard patches. I always find him coming home mid deployment to be quite upsetting, as My DD attaches to him and then gets her heart broken when he leaves again.

PM me for my msn and perhaps if you feel like it we could meet for a chat and a coffee. My DP is away on course for four more weeks but it feels as though he has been gone forever. Big hugs!!! :kiss: