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Mischief
04-05-2006, 04:02 PM
To quote a famous movie…..labour is “like a box of chocolates, you never know what you are going to get”.

I thought I was going into it fully prepared for the worst. I was hoping for 6 hours, planning for 20 and expecting 14. Instead my contractions started at 130 on Monday morning at 10 minutes apart and I didn’t give birth to our baby boy until 732 on Tuesday evening.

We went to the hospital Monday morning for a check and was told I was 1cm dilated, that this would probably mean I would have our baby some time that day. They gave me a couple of Panadine Forte and sent me home, telling me to come back when I couldn’t cope with the pain anymore. We arrived back at the hospital at 930 that night, were examined and told that I was only 2 or 3 cm dilated. I felt so discouraged, they checked us in, and gave me some Pethadine to help dull the pain so I could have a little sleep.

Best laid plans went out the window when Tuesday morning I was still only 2 or 3cm dilated (I had been 1cm dilated at 930 Monday morning) and an examination showed that my waters had broken. Being GBS positive this meant that it was necessary to speed things up, I was told that a drip would be started to make me contract harder and stronger. The Doctor and Midwife both told me I should have an epidural as the pain was going to get much, much worse and I was already lagging.

I was terrified, an epidural was the one thing I had said 100% I did not want. I was petrified of something going wrong when it was administered. Steven just sat there looking as if he was going to cry, he was just as scared of them as I was. I kept asking him what he though, and he said it had to be my decision. He knew how much I didn’t want one, but the Doctor and Midwife were really persistent that I should have one. They said that I would be unable to have any more Pethadine, and since Gas and Air was not working for me at all, it was important that I listen to them and get the Epidural. I tearfully said Okay, and the anesthetist walked straight in.

I was then moved to a labour room and was “prepped” for the Epidural and drip. It was very scary and as I was contracting, very hard to sit still while they inserted the Epidural. Steven was my rock. He held my hand and helped me to stay calm and still, he gave me the courage to go on.

One the Epidural was in the pain relief was amazing. I had been in pain for over 24 hours, and to have it gone was like a new lease on this whole labour. Things suddenly seemed okay again, I could cope. I knew that with the induction “today was the day” we were going to meet our little baby soon!

After several hours and several examinations later, we were told that I could start to push at about 450 in the afternoon. An hour later the Midwife told me to rest for a few contractions, and not to push, Steven ducked off quickly to grab a drink. Almost as soon as he walked out the door, 2 Doctors walked in. They examined me and the baby. After that everything happened so fast. They told me I would be going to theater….the babies head was being molded to much, he wasn’t fitting, and would be in distress if this went on much longer. I was told that I would most likely need a C-Section, but they would try to delivery the baby by Ventouse or Forceps first. I was given some forms to sign, and they started to get me ready to go.

Steven had only been gone about 2 minutes it seemed, as he walked back he was grabbed by the doctor who had just left and told to prep for theater. He was given a “suit” and told to go and change.

They prepped me for theater, including a change of clothes. I was in total shock, so was Steven. One second we had been doing great, expecting to meet our baby any second, the next we were being raced off to theater…I started to shake badly and I couldn’t stop. It was horrible; I felt so out of control.

Fiona, our midwife was wonderful; she explained everything to us calmly and carefully. She held my hand and offered support to both Steven and myself. When we got to theater it looked so cold and scary. I kept thinking that this was how I imagined a morgue to look like. There were people everywhere, and lots of bright lights. I was drugged up further and we had to wait to make sure all the anesthetic had taken effect properly…just in case I needed an emergency C-Section. It wasn’t long and we were able to start.

Although I was totally numb, I could feel the Doctor pulling with each contraction…..it was horrible, I could feel the pressure and knew that was pulling on our baby’s head. I was thinking of all the terrible things that could happen…”what if they break his neck…what if he is brain damaged”. Soon the Doctor said he would need to give me an episiotomy, and once that was done I was told to push as hard as I could. I could still feel the pressure, but it was better now I could do something to help speed up our baby’s delivery. The next thing I knew Steven was telling me the head was out, and I was told to push hard again and the body was born.

They lifted our baby up onto my chest and Steven told me we had a little boy, he cut the cord and we cried and cried. It was an amazing time. Our little baby was finally here, safe and sound at 732pm Tuesday 18 April 2006. He was laying there with his eyes wide open making his arrival loudly known to all! Fiona wiped him off for us and put the cord clamp on.

Suddenly I started to feel really sick and dizzy. Our baby was given to Steven and .................

Mischief
04-05-2006, 04:02 PM
I was checked. I was given 2 injections to help my uterus contract and prevent hemorage, and put on a drip with more contracting drugs. More drugs to help stop the nausea were administered and we were all raced off to recovery. I couldn’t stop shaking…in fact the only time I had stopped in the past hour was when I had been pushing. Our baby was put back on me to help keep him warm.
After about an hour in recovery we were taken back to the labour room and we stayed there until almost midnight. Mum and Dad, Lynn and Melissa came to visit. Our baby was weighed and dressed. He weighed 8.7lbs and was a very long 53.5cm with a 39cm head circumference.

I don’t really remember much of the rest of the day….we were poked and prodded at until about 130am on the 19th, I had a catheter and drip (with fluid and stuff to help make sure I didn’t hemorrhage) until nearly lunch time that day. Every time I moved it hurt so badly, and I felt like I was gushing with blood. Getting out of bed after it was all removed was wonderful, and I dived straight into the shower, after that I felt slightly more human.

I must say that you definitely leave your dignity at the door when you go into the hospital. I’ve never had so many people wanting to check my girly bits, and you know what…I couldn’t have cared less!

The first few days were pretty bad…..Oliver cried almost constantly. He would only sleep during the day, and we couldn’t get any rest when he did because all the family were so excited and wanted to be there to see him and us. It hurt to breast feed and I wanted to give up.

Leaving the hospital was scary too; I had called them within a few hours of leaving to ask advice! I cried every day from day 4 till day 13. I felt so depressed because I didn’t feel that instant joy and love that I thought would be there. Every time I looked at Oliver I wondered what on earth I had done, how was I going to be a mum, why didn’t I feel that bond, how could I breast feed him. He wouldn’t sleep more than 2 hours at night and then would want to be up for another 2 once he was fed and changed. Steven and I were both so exausted!

Night 13 I told Steven we were going to try the Feed Cuddle Change Feed Cuddle and BED routine. We did that, he would cry for about 5 minutes and then go back to sleep! It was very hard listening to him cry, but its been a total godsend. We are now getting sleep during the night and the blues have passed with the exhaustion.

Birth and Motherhood hasn’t been anything that I expected to date, but all I can say is that the past few days I can truly say its been a wonderful experience. The bad stuff is nearly forgotten now, even as I read back through this I realize I don’t remember most of it now by myself. When I look at our son now I feel all gooey and an intense love for him….that came when the blues passed.

We are only planning on having one baby now though. Labour was traumatic, but it’s over now and our son and we are all safe sound and very in love with each other.

Briannabear
04-05-2006, 04:05 PM
Wow! What an ordeal you went through! Big hugs to you, and congratulations!! :hugs: :yelclap:
Wishing you a speedy recovery!

Pixie
04-05-2006, 04:14 PM
Great story in so many ways..traumatic as well well done to you and Steve and welcome oliver!

tickle
04-05-2006, 04:15 PM
Congrats to you!
You have great taste in names, if I say so myself.:D

brooke
04-05-2006, 04:16 PM
congrats on the birth of you baby boy!

what a strong woman you are going thru all of that! well done! :hugs:

Jem
04-05-2006, 04:17 PM
Congratulations.... :yelclap: :yelclap: :yelclap:

Welcome Bubby Oliver:hugs:

Melo
04-05-2006, 04:42 PM
Congratulations on the birth of your gorgeous son!

reAllytee
04-05-2006, 05:05 PM
What a story, im glad to hear that in the end all turned out well even if not quite what you had planned ... You did a good job with all that you went through & you have a beautiful boy to boot ... Welcome little one & well done mama :hugs:



Love the name also tis one of my favs :D

littlepickle
04-05-2006, 05:16 PM
Wow - what an amazing birth story - Glad you are starting to feel better now! Congratulations on the birth of your little man!

LittleBoysRock
04-05-2006, 05:35 PM
Congrats and welcome to your little man!

Your birth story is almost exactly the same as mine!!!

*Chels*
04-05-2006, 05:36 PM
What a drama!!CONGRATS on the birth of Oliver!he weighed exactly the same as my son!!
Hope u are feeling better andd enjoying your precious new bundle!!As for the no sleep-get used to it!!LOL
take care,rest up!!

Funkychicken
04-05-2006, 06:51 PM
What an amazing journey for you and Oliver. I had tears reading through your birth story. For some reason all the memories of my first birth with DS#1 came back and it wasn't really that similar to your story. Must be the first bub thing. Huge congratulations to you and Steven. You'll do a fantastic job of motherhood!:thumbsup:

defaipe
04-05-2006, 09:57 PM
**congratulations** and welcome to the world bubby Oliver!! :)

mrsrobo
04-05-2006, 10:11 PM
congrulations on the arrival of your baby boy oliver hope u are both great

HoopDeeDoo
05-05-2006, 09:17 AM
Congratulations on your baby Boy!!

Sorry to hear it was rough for you, you say no more, but I bet you will forget :yes:

Mischief
06-05-2006, 11:58 AM
Thanks guys! Motherhood really is amazing, isnt it!

Things really didnt go as planned. I'd hoped for a natural birth...no intervention, no drugs other than gas, and had not expected it to take so long. But the most important thing now is that our dear little Oliver is here, safe and sound.

Its funny...You dont think you could do something, but when push comes to shove you dont even think about it, its just something that you DO!

Love,
ME and Ollie!

caz
06-05-2006, 12:44 PM
Congratulations on the birth of your son Oliver

OopsieDaisy
08-05-2006, 12:12 PM
Congratulations Kat!! Can't wait to meet him hehe!!