Dont want to fail this time..help me to not

[cocobambino]

Hi,
Im currently pregnant and I know i still have 6 months to go but id like to fully prepared, armed and ready to go. My first DD i didnt even try to breastfeed she went straight on the bottle my 2nd DD was 4 weeks early and problems sucking so she went onto the bottle at 2 weeks now #3 WILL be breastfed i am gonna pull out every stop and try everything in my power to breastfeed this baby for as long as he/she wishes.
So I need ALL the advice your willing to give me and ALL the support your willing to show me. How can I be successfull what can i do to make it work???

[onemummmy]

see a lactation consultant and join the ABA. Make sure you have plenty of support and DONT BUY FORMULA. If you dont have it you wont use it :D and of course, any questions or problems there are many great women here who can help you out.

[Deserama]

I second that not buying formula thing (or even bottles) I've never bought a tin of formula in all my life.

You just have to be determined and push through the humps. You need to remember that it's only temporary (the problems) and that they dont' last forever. You CAN do this!!!!

[stellarella]

I'm fak but really wanted to reply to this thread :hugs:

I will back with a much better response and please feel free to PM me with ANY questions etc. at any time.

1. trust your body and trust your baby without question.

2. do not try and express in the first few weeks, just concentrate on having bub on the boob as much as possible. Remember that sucking = milk production.

3. no formula in the house "just in case."

4. read a book about BFing. Buy or borrow the ABA BFing book. In fact I will lend you mine if you like :)

xx

[cocobambino]

I'm fak but really wanted to reply to this thread :hugs:

I will back with a much better response and please feel free to PM me with ANY questions etc. at any time.

1. trust your body and trust your baby without question.

2. do not try and express in the first few weeks, just concentrate on having bub on the boob as much as possible. Remember that sucking = milk production.

3. no formula in the house "just in case."

4. read a book about BFing. Buy or borrow the ABA BFing book. In fact I will lend you mine if you like :)

xx

Thank you, Im so scared coz i have my heart set on it this time, and yes i had formula "just in case" last time and i caved and used it but this is most likely my last baby, my last chance iykwim

[NibbleCurlynBub]

Join the ABA. Go to the group meetings and read the magazines thoroughly. Read the free book 'Breastfeeding.. Naturally'

I agree with everything else Sellarella said. :yes:

Google away too for pictured and diagrams or breastfeeding. A lot of websites have step-by-step photographs to show you how it is done.

I found they helped me a lot. :yes:

[cocobambino]

How would I join the ABA do they have a website

[PunkyDiva]

http://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/ :thumbsup::hugs:

Most areas have groups that meet, maybe going along and observing other mums feeding would help as well and of course they give you the r/l support that can be so crucial to getting through the first couple of months.
Lactation cookies are excellent for helping supply as well.
http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=29207&highlight=lactation+cookies

[Refresh]

#3 WILL be breastfed i am gonna pull out every stop and try everything in my power to breastfeed this baby for as long as he/she wishes.

Along with all the great practical advice you have been given.....what you have written here ^^ is going to help you the most :thumbsup: If you approach it with "This is how I am going to feed my baby and that's that" then I am suuuuure you will be just fine :) Good on you and good luck! :flowerz:

[cocobambino]

http://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/ :thumbsup::hugs:

Hey Stranger, Thank-you:D

[Benji]

The ABA have a website, I'm pretty sure they are first up if you google them :) I'm not sure if we can put links up.

I'd like to add, feed your bub whenever he/she wants and if it feels like you are feeding allllllll day and night, this does not mean that bub is hungry he or she is probably simply building up your supply. Demand feeding is probably the reason I succeeded in the end. Don't let CHN or anyone lead you to believe that you are supposed to feed on a schedule. That's rubbish.

Good luck :flowerz:

[Lastcenturymum]

I agree with joining ABA - have your local counsellors number on speed dial (in case you need it!) If you can attend their meets, they are so helpful and encouraging. I've heard great things about lactation consultants too - and just relax - that really does help and believe you do it and don't get discouraged when/if you hit obstacles - ie. sore nipples, mastitis etc. All the best!

[cocobambino]

I'd like to add, feed your bub whenever he/she wants and if it feels like you are feeding allllllll day and night, this does not mean that bub is hungry he or she is probably simply building up your supply. Demand feeding is probably the reason I succeeded in the end. Don't let CHN or anyone lead you to believe that you are supposed to feed on a schedule. That's rubbish.

Good luck :flowerz:

Im thinking that maybe this is what failed me last time then, coz I was told to feed 3-4 hourly, then when she was always wanting a feed I was told she wasnt getting enough and to put her on bottle :(

[PunkyDiva]

Hey Stranger, Thank-you:D

Hey sweetie :hugs: Huge Congrats on the pregnancy too :goodvibes: Posted link to lactation cookie recipe for you too.

You gunna come visit on school hols for one of my Tuesday meets (check out Frankston Thread) or wanna organise a meet up halfway ? :thumbsup:

[Benji]

Im thinking that maybe this is what failed me last time then, coz I was told to feed 3-4 hourly, then when she was always wanting a feed I was told she wasnt getting enough and to put her on bottle :(

:hugs::hugs: sometimes people are full of bad advice and when we're sleep deprived, confused, anxious it's very hard not to listen to it.

Follow your baby's commands and I'm sure you'll get there :)

I remember when my baby wanted to feed alllll the time the first thing that I thought was "this poor baby is hungry" but I was very, very lucky that my mum and my friend told me he was simply building up my supply. In my case, he was and it all worked out.

[cocobambino]

Hey sweetie :hugs: Huge Congrats on the pregnancy too :goodvibes: Posted link to lactation cookie recipe for you too.

You gunna come visit on school hols for one of my Tuesday meets (check out Frankston Thread) or wanna organise a meet up halfway ? :thumbsup:

I would love to come to one if your meets or halfway or whatever LOL im easy

[grass is always greener]

You know what you want and thats a great start.
I didnt do such a great job with Ds1 and bfing. So this time round i was determined to make it past the 3 weeks that i did with Ds1. I read as much as possible, ask questions as many as you can, even if you think they are silly still ask them. Tell the middies that you want to bf and that you will need help in the early days with attachment. This is what i did and i rang for a middie while i was in hospy everytime Ds2 wanted to feed, just to have someone there to oversee what i was doing and to help out if i needed it, also they were great for a chat to keep me relaxed and were full of praise when i attached him myself :D.
Goodluck and you will do it!!!!

[stellarella]

Both my babies fed/feed a lot. there is no schedule. Sometimes Ginger sleeps for a few hours and other times she wants to feed every 20 mins.
Oscar fed approx once and hour til he was at least 3 months old :D

Whatever they want is good. If they cry or grizzle put bubs to the breast to see if thats what they want. If they are not interested they will let you know ;)

[DQ]

Along with all the great practical advice you have been given.....what you have written here ^^ is going to help you the most :thumbsup: If you approach it with "This is how I am going to feed my baby and that's that" then I am suuuuure you will be just fine :) Good on you and good luck! :flowerz:

:iagree:

[cocobambino]

Thanks everyone I guess we will see how I go in 6 months time.

:fingerscrossed::goodvibes: