Day sleeps - only in my arms

[Joshsmum]

Hi all,

my ds is 11 weeks old on thursday he is bottlefed and will not go to sleep during the day unless he is in my arms, as soon as i put him down he wakes up crying. He sleeps fine at night. Is he too young to be crying himself to sleep?
I have tried this over the last 2 days and it can take up to one & a half hours and then he is still only sleeping for a maximum of an hour.
How many sleeps should he be having during the day and how long for?
I know there are a few questions they but i need help.

[MamaSage]

Is he too young to be crying himself to sleep?.


Definitely. It is rather normal for such a small young baby to need the comfort of the one person he trusts and knows to go to sleep. At 11 weeks he will have no routine, he will sleep when tired and want to be fed when hungry. Trying to make him stay within a routine at this age is not going to be of any positive use to either of you.
My advice, get a sling, and let him sleep in that. You can still get things done and he will be secure and relaxed, and then you will be too. Good luck.. :hugs:

[Joshsmum]

Thanks for your advice, i will keep snuggling him as i dont like leaving him to cry for long anyway.:thumbsup:

[mamachops]

My DD was like this (she's 9 weeks), but about a week ago I pulled out the rocker a friend lent us. I very slightly sat her up in it, because she doesn't like it flat. Now she'll often send herself to sleep in it, and if she wakes up and starts wiggling, she soothes herself because it starts rocking. It's a godsend, because she wouldn't lie awake without crying for any length of time either.

Doesn't work every time, but it gives us a rest.

PS I do use a dummy with her most times though.

[Joshsmum]

I use a dummy but he wont hold it in his mouth himself. he sucks then stops and when he tries to suck again it falls out. He is quiet when he has the dummy any tips on how to get it to stay in.:rolleyes:

[Mrs Little]

They get the hang of sucking on the dummy after a while.

My DS used to let it drop out too. They really shouldn't need it once they've fallen alseep. My DS would do a bit of whimper when the dummy fell out as he was trying to go to sleep intially. I would go in and quietly stick it back in. Bear with it in this phase....u should only have to go in to put it back in his mouth a few times and then he'll be asleep and it doesn't matter any more!

Don't get into the habit of going and giving it to him inbetween his sleep cycles or you'll get a sleeping aid habit going!! ARGHHH...you don't want that.

Mrs Little & Son.

[excitedmum]

I have exactly the same thing with my six week old. He has never really slept during the day but sleeps well at nite. i have been told it is a matter of trust and that the baby will grow out of it. My little guy is a bit small for the baby carrier as he gets smothered by my breasts, but if u can use it I think it is the best option. have comfort in the fact that there are others in the same boat and try to relax and enjoy your beautiful baby

[MamaSage]

Grab a ring sling, or a hug a bub type wrap. They accomodat newborns and are better for the baby and for your back.

[Goosie22]

You can make a ring sling out of a length of material and 2 metal curtain or absailing rings. Here (http://www.sleepingbaby.net/jan/index.html) is the site you need to click on the no sew ring sling.

[mof2bz]

Hi there,

My son is 15 weeks this week and I found that the only way to get him to sleep was to wrap him quiet snugly & he has his dummy. It makes them feel secure and stops his arms flailing around and knocking the dummy out. I also play some music to send him off to sleep. I have only stopped wrapping him this week and he is able to self settle himself to sleep. He has also discovered he has a thumb to suck which helps when he loses the dummy!
Lisa.