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monkeytoes
22-08-2008, 13:50
OK, so I've got a 2 year old and a 6 month old. My problem is shower/bath time. I have always showered with DD1 and she has always enjoyed it. It has now turned out to be the worst part of the day. Every day now it ends with both kids in tears and a very stressed out Mummy.
When DD2 was a newborn we were still able to have our shower together while bub was asleep. Now that bub is a bit older, she is awake at shower time. It's the time of day that bub wants to be held. I've tried putting her in the rocker/on the floor with toys/in the hi-chair, in the jolly jumper. She is only about 3 metres away from me and she can see me, but it doesn't make any difference. She crys as soon as I put her down. This then makes my 2yr old upset. I'm not sure if she's upset because she thinks bub is distressed or if she's upset because she thinks bub is taking all the attention. My 2 yr old ends up hysterical.

So, the obvious answer is to change the routine, but I can't really. To fit in with our other activities and bedtime, shower time needs to be inbetween 5pm-6:30pm. I have tried ignoring my 2yr old, singing happy songs, but it's at the point where we all tense up just at the thought of shower time. And it's no different if I give DD1 a bath either, it still ends up in tears.

I feel like there's nothing I can do about my 6 month old. She will get over this clingy stage when she's ready. I'm not sure how to deal with my 2yr old. I've tried explaining to her that bub is OK and not to get upset. Does it sound like a jealous toddler trying to get attention. Tell me what would you do?

sam's mum
22-08-2008, 14:05
where's DH, can he look after bubba while you are in the shower?

I put my kids in the bath together after they have had dinner and they love it. I know that you said have tried putting the 2 y/o in the bath, have you tried having the bubba in there as well? You can get support rings so that they are safe.

other than that I guess it is wait until bubba grows out of it. the only other suggestion I would have would be a schedule change and you have said that this isn't an option.

3blueones
22-08-2008, 14:34
Hey there:)
We have always showered with the kiddies, and each time we had a newbie we just added them into the mix:D
I always shower holding the youngest untill they are old enough to sit (and are happy too) in the bottom of the shower YKWIM. The next oldest is just sitting/standing under the spray too. So my advice would be, let bub join in.

monkeytoes
22-08-2008, 14:46
You guys make it sound so simple. Why do I find it so difficult?

DH is still at work at showertime so it's just me to get both girls showered/bathed and fed. DH is usually home in time to put DD1 to bed.

I've tried having both of them in the shower and both of them in the bath. I still have the same dramas. If they're both in the shower bubba is OK cos I'm holding her, but DD1 gets upset still. Then I find it difficult to get out and dry and dress all 3 of us. My 2 y/o runs off to her bedroom crying naked and dripping wet. I am stuck dripping wet in the bathroom trying to dry and dress the bubba.
If I have them both in the bath bubba is upset cos I'm not holding her and DD1 gets upset cos bubba is crying:rolleyes:. Again my 2y/o will climb out of the bath and run off crying. We have tiled floors so I am paranoid about her slipping and hurting herself.

Hopefully this is just a phase and we will get over it in a few weeks.:fingerscrossed:

sam's mum
22-08-2008, 14:50
:hugs: not simple at all. I hate bathing them by myself because I hate having two wet kids to deal with at once. If I am wet as well :crying:.

I am just more fortunate that my 2 y/o has a different temperament.

If we shower, I get out first and leave him in the shower (which he loves).

If they are in the bath I pull out the plug and leave him in while I get DD2 dry and dressed.

But mostly either DH is home or I have DD1 to help out.