Where can i find a partner?

[me&mine]

I know this sounds pretty pathetic... Im really not desparate! I am happy in myself to be able to be by myself, but at the same time that doesnt stop me from wanting someone to share my life with! (and my boy with). And also, I know I am going to want more kids and would prefer not to have too much of an age gap inbetween... so there is my question... how do I find this person? I dont have that many friends and dont really "do" much to meet more. Im alone and dont have any family who live close to me. So I really dont know where to start or even how to. Hope this makes sense... Anyone got any suggestions? :ecomcity:

[sunnyflower]

hi sarah,im single to and i can relate to just about everything you said,the thing is i have been trying to get out there but with no sucess yet!

i really was keen on this one guy but apparently he wasn't ready.

have you tried rsvp.com.au, it's one of the better web sites out there.

sporting groups,gyms,mothers groups ( the more people you know,the more people they know!!)

you didn't mention if you are a religious person but church,lots of decent men there,well maybe more decent than at a nightclub.

apart from that be happy be yourself,have a great life and it will happen when you least expect it (at least that's what everyone tells me!)

good luck,ill pray for you!!

[MissBrightside]

Id like to get out and be more social to, and hopefully find someone. I dont go out anywhere and would love to but am a bit self concious about going out alone, (dont have many friends, and no single ones) I've had a look on some of the dating sites, but dont seem to find anything that I like and when I do I think alot of them freak when they find out you have 2 little kids.
Are there any decent guys that dont mind being with a single mum? I dont know where to look!

[me&mine]

Yep, im exactly the same! Im sure there are some out there.. but Ive got no idea where to look to!! (not that Id feel comfortable looking anyway!). Suppose weve just gotta stay positive! :fingerscrossed:

[JeSsIkA]

hi

was watching Dr Phil yesterday.. he said to met men you have to go to places men go.. some places they visited where, the hardwear store, golf driving range places like that. I was impressed by his ideas and in his book Love Smart it teaches you how to start conversations with people......
I know i would need a book like this if i was looking for someone.....

[Mum&bubs]

A friend of mine who is a single mum has just recently met a great guy through another one of our friends & he doesnt mind her dd at all. So just stay postive & remember that there are great guys out there just waiting for you to find them :o

[MissBrightside]

I like Dr Phil. I may have to read the book as I wouldnt have a clue how to start a conversation. I dont know if Im being picky but I havent seen a guy yet that has really caught my eye! Im kind of impatient so its hard waiting for Mr Right to come along. But I suppose its just like christmas, we all have to wait for that!:laughing:

[lovingmumof 2now]

Wow!!! I am glad I am not alone I can relate to everyones post.
maybe we need a post on

dating tips and anyone who has had success to tell their stories.

[Niki]

a friend of mine found her guy through rsvp

[Jem]

a friend of mine found her guy through rsvp

yep.. rsvp is pretty good :detective:

[Rainbowbrite]

I found a guy through RSVP........i'm now married to him :yes:

[Seekrit]

My dad and a co-worker of mine both met their partners through RSVP :) :thumbsup:

[libandneo]

Hi there

I also found my DH through RSVP almost 7 years ago. My only word of caution would be to be so careful about whom you introduce into the life of your child. Unfortunately some single mums become prey for male predators, particularly those who want to harm/molest children. Did you see the news story yesterday about a single mum whose boyfriend put her daughter in a tumble dryer?

I am sure you would be very cautious and sensible but there are a lot of creepos out there.

Good luck

Libby

[me&mine]

Libby, that is one of the many reasons why I just dont like the idea of the internet for meeting people. I find the best way to imediately get to know what someone is like is to see them in their own environment, and with the idea of internet dating, I cant see that working, cause even when you meet the person, it would be in a mutually agreeable place, not our own personal environments. Im very cautious as to letting anyone get close to my boy.

If anyone starts up the thread re dating, please feel free to let me know!!:o

[mum33]

with those dating sites, i am not sure about rsvp but i know with adultmatchmaker that all the guys on there are looking for is a f**k or s**k. sorry to be so blunt. so unless that is what your looking for then stay away from amm. i dont use the site myself but my single cousin uses it and thats what she has found in her experience of using that site. sorry i dont have any other advice for you but good luck.

[MissBrightside]

Im a bit funny about those sites too! Ive registered on a few but dont frequent them. A lot of guys are after one thing, cant be bothered with guys like that! I find also a lot of them freak when they find out you have kids. I have in my profile that I have 2 kids and I still get guys emailing me who dont want kids! What the....? Do they know how to read?

[Redeeming_Love]

I have been single for 6 years.
My children have 7 year age gaps.
I am 29 this month.
I do want a Husband someday, but am VERY cautious.
I am really careful who I let into my families life.
Also I am a commited Christian, and I also want that in a partner.
I find alot of REALLY older guys try to pick me up, but I am not into old men :eek:
But yeh, I do not know what to suggest.
I really don't know where I will meet my man, but I know someday I will.
Just keep loving your little one, and protecting him.
The rest will happen...

[ashleerose]

I know exactly how you feel.
I am a single mum (i have been now for two years after having no other option but to leave my husband ie drugs, domestic violence and the fact that he pulled a knife on me in front of our two kids).
I have moved on and i am now ready for a relationship but I am finding it hard to meet anyone, as i had to leave the area i was in with the kids and whats worse my ex was with someone within a week of me leaving.
My kids have a better social life than me.
My son goes to preschool three days a week and my daughter is in kindy.
On the weekend they go to swimming lessons and to their friends house, or their friends come here.
But everyone i know is in a relationship and i havent really been able to say more than a hi how are you and then dash to get kids.
I go to the gym, i work in a supermarket.
Im not a supermodel by anyones standard just a plain jane and yet here i am :( .
Other than that i am happy i have achieved alot materially and the kids and i are healthy.

[Little_Toad]

I wouldn't be too scared about meeting guys online.
The majority of people on rsvp are looking for a relaionship. Yes you'll probably meet some weirdo's.. but you do in real life too!.
Adultmatchmaker is more a sex only orientated site.

Tips for dating on rsvp.
Only send a couple of emails back and forth, don't get sucked into an online relationship where your expectations become inflated.. then you meet and are extremely disappointed.
If they appear to fit the criteria you are looking for in a partner, you'll get to know them better in person.
Before you meet them in person you MUST have a phone conversation with them. You can tell a great deal about a person from their voice... their you manners, confidence, intelligence and if they are compatible with you.
Go on a short date and if they aren't suiable be polite and say "Thanks for the coffee, it was lovely to meet you but don't think that you would be compatible as a couple"

In real life, if you see someone you catches your eye,.. be confident, go up to them and say. "i hope you don't mind, but I thought you looked interesting and was wondering if you were single and had the time, would you like to go for a coffee.?" men like confidence. Don't feel rejected if they say no... there may be many reasons than them not liking you. And if you have your kids with you at the time , still ask them out and then if he says yes, atleast you know already he doesn;t mind dating someone with a family.

I met my dp on rsvp and he's "a grade material".

[mum2littleman]

when u guys find where all the nice single men are give me a call as i am also looking for sumone to share my life with i mean other than my DS why should we be alone just because we are mummies i know i have DS and he is my world but we want to share that world with sumone else too.


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