seating?

[mummybunny]

:wave:
Df and myself are getting married in 2 weeks and have come to a dead end atm, we are stuck on how to arrange seating?
we are looking for some advice on how to seat everyone...

how did you seat your guests? who sat where? and what do we do!!!

please HELP!!

[Seacretsquirrel]

We had a pretty small wedding (about 50 people) in a cafe/restaurant on the brisbane river (lovely had to add that) anyhoo we had a "bridal" table for the wedding party and both of our parents at the front
then we tried to sit everyone with at least one other person/couple they knew. All my fam sat together as did DH's as they didn't really know anyone else then 2 tables of friends it worked really well, every one only sat for the meal then mingled (to a point) so it worked pretty well for all.
Good luck with your big day hope it goes perfectly for you.
Congrats.

[grass is always greener]

We are organising our wedding atm and after attending weddings were the seating was planned and were there was no planning, i have decided to mix it. I am going to have my bridal table and i am going to put my parents and ILs and the grandparents at one table and i am putting any siblings that arent in the bridal party at another table and i am putting all our aunties and uncles at another and then i am letting the friends mingle. They can pick and choose where they want to sit, you will never please everyone so dont try to hard.
Also by the end of the night no-one is in their original chair so it doesnt matter too much.

[the_original_duchess]

ooo im getting married in 2 weeks aswell adn we are in the middle of working ti out as we speak.
its a difficult job trying to work out who cant sit with whom. brads dad and mum dont get along at all so they have to be on opposite sides of the room etc. plus some of my friends are seperated from eachother but still all in the same group and its a nightmare:banghead:
good luck to you. im no help:laughing:

[mummybunny]

thanks for that girls i might sit down and have a play around later today..

T_O_D what date are you getting married??

[Ange&Seth]

I'm getting married in 4 weeks and this was something I was stressing over but once I sat down and did it, it was easy!

First of all, find out how many people the tables will seat comfortably. Ours will seat 6-8 without being a nightmare. I started out with putting my parents on one table, and DF's dad on another (we lost his mum earlier this year) then I picked people (family) to sit on those tables. For example my parents are sitting with our DS and my brother and sister and their other halves.

Then I tried to sit people together who had similar interests - example my friend from Tassie and her husband will know no one except myself and my immediate family. They're both accountants and have 2 kids, so I sat them with 2 other couples who's hubby's are in finance and IT and all 3 couples have 2 kids all close in age. Does that make sense?

[Kittylou]

We had a pretty small wedding (about 50 people) in a cafe/restaurant on the brisbane river (lovely had to add that) anyhoo we had a "bridal" table for the wedding party and both of our parents at the front
then we tried to sit everyone with at least one other person/couple they knew. All my fam sat together as did DH's as they didn't really know anyone else then 2 tables of friends it worked really well, every one only sat for the meal then mingled (to a point) so it worked pretty well for all.
Good luck with your big day hope it goes perfectly for you.
Congrats.

:yes: Exactly the same here, except it was a slightly larger wedding but also in a restaurant overlooking the Brisbane River :p

[the_original_duchess]

thanks for that girls i might sit down and have a play around later today..

T_O_D what date are you getting married??

6th of september:D

[mummybunny]

awesome thanks again girls :)

T_O_D we are getting married the 6th too :) how funny hehe :)

[the_original_duchess]

thats cool!! i hope we both have a wonderful day that day then :D

[BabyPlease]

I got married about 18 months ago, and coming from a family with divorced parents I was filled with dread having to come up with our seating plan....

However to make the job a little easier, we got a copy of the table plan/layout from the venue, photocopied and increased the size to A3. We then laminated that, and with a whitebaord marker you can write all over it (I.e. place people's names on it) and easily rub out combinations that didn't work!

[mummybunny]

great idea babyplease!!!

we are actually having loads of trouble because we will have DFs birth mother and his adopted mother at our wedding :eek: (he was adopted at birth but now has his birth mother in his life too) so im so stuck :crying:

Dan im sure we both will!!

[Ange&Seth]

great idea babyplease!!!

we are actually having loads of trouble because we will have DFs birth mother and his adopted mother at our wedding :eek: (he was adopted at birth but now has his birth mother in his life too) so im so stuck :crying:

Dan im sure we both will!!


You can't have his birth mother and adoptive mother near each other?

[mummybunny]

we can but it will be uncomfortable for them both and i don't want that, and if i stick my parents between them oh dear drama drama drama just wouldn't go lol

his am doesn't like that his bm is in his life she thinks she is here to take him away from her and its all just so weird and complicated and ott really!

[the_original_duchess]

great idea babyplease!!!

we are actually having loads of trouble because we will have DFs birth mother and his adopted mother at our wedding :eek: (he was adopted at birth but now has his birth mother in his life too) so im so stuck :crying:

Dan im sure we both will!!


wow we have that same situation as well. dp bio dad and foster father will be there. his foster father is more like a dad and he will be given alot to do in the ceremony wedding etc... his bio dad doesnt like that but he is a real jerk apparently and not the sort of father i would want. (i havent met him and who am i to talk, my own dad isnt coming becuase he is a jerk too)

[Ange&Seth]

his am doesn't like that his bm is in his life she thinks she is here to take him away from her and its all just so weird and complicated and ott really!


Wow - sounds totally over the top. Why don't you put his adoptive parents on one table, your parents on another and then his birth mum on another, all with people who are either family or have similar interests?

[Lastcenturymum]

Just don't sit the older rellies next to the band! My poor parents couldn't hear a thing at my nephew's wedding!

I used to like round tables but have decided the person opposite was usually too far away to talk to which only left the ones either side of you. Longer tables you can speak to more people (usually 5 others) and we went to a wedding where they were 'fanned out' from the bridal table at the top which meant no one really had their back to the bridal table - well a bit, but not a lot of people/

[gazelle]

I found it hard to place people in actual seats so for ours I made up table cards with who was on each table and let them work it out - seemed to work fine.

Our only problem was a few guests who didn't show up at the last minute, and they happened to be on the same table, so there was a very lonely table until some of my rellies shifted over!

I can only imagine how hard it would be with separated/divorced/adoptive/foster/birth parents - hope it all works out :).

[mummybunny]

I found it hard to place people in actual seats so for ours I made up table cards with who was on each table and let them work it out - seemed to work fine.

Our only problem was a few guests who didn't show up at the last minute, and they happened to be on the same table, so there was a very lonely table until some of my rellies shifted over!

I can only imagine how hard it would be with separated/divorced/adoptive/foster/birth parents - hope it all works out :).

how did you work this one out though? who went on what table im seriously considering this one myself, or even giving them a table number as the go in the door so that they will all be mixed and cant winge lol

[Ange&Seth]

or even giving them a table number as the go in the door so that they will all be mixed and cant winge lol

I love this idea! It's fantastic!!

[grass is always greener]

I just had an idea. Why not allocate parents and VIPs to tables, then have the empty tables with numbers on them and have the guests pick out a number from a 'hat' and whatever number they choose they sit at that table. This way you can have no responsibility of placing someone at the wrong table.

I am thinking i might do this at our wedding when it happens.

[mummybunny]

I just had an idea. Why not allocate parents and VIPs to tables, then have the empty tables with numbers on them and have the guests pick out a number from a 'hat' and whatever number they choose they sit at that table. This way you can have no responsibility of placing someone at the wrong table.

I am thinking i might do this at our wedding when it happens.

this is pretty much the plan im thinking too, im having to boys my cusons at the door seating so im thinking if i print up some card numbers then put a number on each table they can all just take a number in their pairs and sit at the table they get given at the door..

then i dont have to name on the table thingos either!!!