Friend has just lost baby at 11 wks

[Nenie23]

One of my best friends has just miscarried at 11 weeks. She is understandably having a really hard time - hubby closing up - not dealing well. How do I help her - where does she go to for support. What do I say to her - should she name the baby, do something special. How have others dealt with this as I can not begin to understand. My son nearly died at 20 months - so I can empathise slightly - but my son survived - hers didn't. My heart aches for her and I don't know how to help. What do others suggest? Nene.

[CJJHRA]

I suppose just let her know you are there for her, and that its ok to grieve. Maybe you could buy a plant and take it to your friend, plant it together and remember her angel.

[rynosmum]

Hi Nene,

You are a truly wonderful friend to be thinking about what you can do.

Why don't you check out the Pregnancy Loss area - and even post in there - there will be many ladies who can help you.

Welcome to BubHub!

Katrina

[Hokey Pokey]

Having been thru this myself, my advice is that no matter what anyone says, or does only time can heal the pain.
Let her know you are always there for her, maybe buy her a little card and write a nice little message in it for her and mention the baby too. The thing I found upsetting was the fact that people won't avoid bringing the baby up around me for fear of upsetting me but this made me worse. It helps sometimes to know that the baby WAS a baby and still is in heaven regardless of how far gest they made it.
Most of all give her a hug and hold her tight and let her cry to you.

[Fairyfloss]

Hi and Welcome to bubhub, I am sure you will have lots of great advice in here, I would say, just let here know, that you are tehre for her, if she needs you, it is really hard, I M/C 2 before, so kind of know, what sh eis going through.