grass is always greener
19-08-2008, 18:25
Partners take note!! You are not the only partner to a breastfeeding mum who is missing out on sex. Spare a thought for your partner, who is not refusing just because she wants to - especially with a newborn baby. By the end of the day she will have been holding, feeding, changing, settling and any other form of holding a baby you can think of for around 18 hours. This includes the night-time as well. Also, she will be trying to fit in meals and toilet breaks in between. Even the most high-pressured job has breaks for coffee, toilet etc. No such luxury for a mother.
Here are some tips to perhaps boost your chances in the bedroom or wherever else if you have a co-sleeping bub. Consider the following new and exciting forms of foreplay:
Do the washing up!! Inventive - I know.
Prepare the evening meal or any meal of the day. Especially on weekends or your days off.
Offer to wear your baby in a sling.
Have a bath with your baby.
Take the baby for a walk and leave your partner at home for a rest.
Smile and give your partner a cuddle without the hidden message that it is to lead to something else.
Try not to spring advances on your partner when you have finally got into bed late at night.
Try to remember that she may be 'touched out' by the end of the day and may need some very gentle encouragement or perhaps just want to be left alone.
There may even be a medical reason as to why your partner lacks the desire to have sex. Be open with your partner and discuss this at a time other than bedtime.
Remember it will pass and you will eventually be welcomed back again.
Here are some tips to perhaps boost your chances in the bedroom or wherever else if you have a co-sleeping bub. Consider the following new and exciting forms of foreplay:
Do the washing up!! Inventive - I know.
Prepare the evening meal or any meal of the day. Especially on weekends or your days off.
Offer to wear your baby in a sling.
Have a bath with your baby.
Take the baby for a walk and leave your partner at home for a rest.
Smile and give your partner a cuddle without the hidden message that it is to lead to something else.
Try not to spring advances on your partner when you have finally got into bed late at night.
Try to remember that she may be 'touched out' by the end of the day and may need some very gentle encouragement or perhaps just want to be left alone.
There may even be a medical reason as to why your partner lacks the desire to have sex. Be open with your partner and discuss this at a time other than bedtime.
Remember it will pass and you will eventually be welcomed back again.