Would it be wrong......

[Emmi]

Hi All.

Im just wondering if it would be bad/wrong of me to ask some family of friends to help me clean around the house? Im 30 weeks this week and in so much pain I can hardly move so cant do any work. And I get tired extremely easily. I try to do stuff (just finishished in the kitchen and need a rest)!

TIA

[our little treasures]

Depends how well you know them but I don't think it's wrong:no: If my friends rang me I would leap at the chance:yes: I know how you feel as I suffer SPD which makes cleaning very very hard

[La Que Sabe]

depends how well you know them!
but definitely! if you feel you can't do it, don't hesitate to call some friends/family to help.
i should think they would want to help. =]
all my family and friends actually offered to help me and i felt bad but they did it anyway :p and i was like :yelclap: free house wives :laughing:

[Emmi]

It would probably just be my sister. Now just to see if she is able to help me.... DH works full time so only has weekends and thats when he does other stuff.

[delirium]

If it's your sister, I say definately. I regret not asking family and friends to help me more during my pgs. I had chronic MS, backpain, carpal tunnel etc etc and the help would have been so great.

[ExpectantKatie]

Hey,
I definately see no problem asking family friends to help out! I am still ok at this point but we have just bought a house and will need help later as we were planning on renovating (not nesting just yet)... Things are going to have to speed up!
lol

[Ana Gram]

I personally wouldn't be comfortable in ringing people up and ask if they could help with housework, however, I would certainly take them up on any offers of help. You know when people say "If you need anything, let me know" type thing.

[WorkingClassMum]

If you don't ask you don't get...


I think your sister will be understanding.:yes:


Maybe you could also get a cleaner for the next few months?

[MandaMommy]

Definitely yes... if you need help then ask. It is really just the way you ask that matters.

I'm 35 weeks and asked my sister to come on Sunday morning to help get things ready for my baby shower in the afternoon.... she offered to come stay for the whole weekend to help. She cleaned everything from the bathroom to the kitchen... vaccumed the entire house this morning (I was soooo thankful for this one because I can only manage one room a day, lol..) She helped prepare all the food and she helped all weekend with my 10 month old as well.

I think most sisters love helping and feeling needed :)

I have had a pretty good week for house helpers, on tuesday morning I called the MIL and asked her to come over and look after my 10 month old because I thought I was in labour and it was only early and my 10 month old would sleep for another few hours. We got back from the false alarm and she had cleaned the entire house, done all the washing and the baby was fed and bathed and it was only 9.30am in the morning, lol....

P.S the other good thing about asking is they come back again... my MIL left today saying she would come over probably on wednesday and help out. She said she will call and organise it and I will definitely not be turning it down.

[MoOaNdLiTtLePoPpEt]

no of course not. what are friends and family for.
if you need help ask for it!

[dillydAlly]

You might be suprised! They might want to help and have been waiting for the right time.

I love cleaning and if it's the least I can offer my sisters to run around and do stuff that they can't so they can relax then thats what I will do!

When my sisters were heavily pregnant I went over and cleaned both their houses as well as changing sheets etc and cooking food when they were in hospital! They still thank me to this day!

Ask away don't stress yourself too much.

[Jinglebells]

I personally wouldn't be comfortable in ringing people up and ask if they could help with housework, however, I would certainly take them up on any offers of help. You know when people say "If you need anything, let me know" type thing.

i'm the same, I won't ask people to do things for me, but I will sometimes take them up when offered (doesn't happy much though) I dont' have any family here really, so that makes a difference

but if you feel you need to ask your sister, then definatly, if my sis was near me, I would :yes:

[Myztik]

Get them all over for a busy bee :yes: Get some nibblies and maybe chuck on a BBQ and get everyone over, make it fun!

[JJJ&D'sMum]

I think if you know the person well enough and they have previously mentioned to you that you can call them if you need help, go for it.

I have a close friend who doesn't have children and she has been a huge help to me over the past month. She is constantly telling me to call her if I need help..usually she just rings me and comes over but there have been times where I have called her to help me out. Usually it's just to help me with grocery shopping (my back kills 99% of the time atm) but there have been other things that she has helped me out with.

I feel grateful for everything she does for me as I don't have family nearby. DP's family are all tied up with their own lives so my friend is a lifesaver atm.

I know if I was near my family, that they would do anything to help me out....whatever was needed just as they did when I was pg with DS1 and DS2. I also helped my sister out when she needed help while pg with her kids. I figured that that's the normal thing that you do for your family.