Pobblebonk
30-04-2006, 17:19
Hi. I'm just wanting to have a rant because I'm very very upset :crying: with my DS's father.
We had arranged that he come around for an overnight visit today so that he could spend some time with his son and see what he's like in the morning (when DS is very playful, etc).
He was supposed to come at 3pm. I rang him at 3:30pm to ask him where he was and it was obvious I'd woken him up and he's like 'Oh yeah right I'm awake now'. I'm sitting here thinking, when would he have slept until? 6pm... 7pm...8pm... and still expected that he could come around?
He said to me it doesn't matter what time I come around - I disagree because DS's downtime starts at around 5pm and he's asleep by 6-6:30pm. And what would be the point of him coming around at a time when I'm trying to get him to bed? And we arranged for him to come at 3pm so that he could have a little play with our DS before downtime.
I'm so SICK of him being so unreliable - this is not the first time that he's done something like this. Too many times we arrange for him to come around and he either rings me to tell me that he's going to go drinking with his friends instead, or he doesn't even bother coming (or ringing) because he's sleeping off a hangover.
AND - I'm the one that cops the abuse from his mother (who he lives with - at 27!) because I get blamed for not letting him come around to see his son at his convenience! Am I really that wrong by wanting to put boundaries on when he can come and visit?
Does he really think he can keep stuffing us around and that we're just going to put up with it? On top of all this - we are going for mediation because he doesn't want me to have residence of our son! When he can't even be bothered coming to visit! :banghead:
AAAAAAAARRRRRRHHHHHH!
We had arranged that he come around for an overnight visit today so that he could spend some time with his son and see what he's like in the morning (when DS is very playful, etc).
He was supposed to come at 3pm. I rang him at 3:30pm to ask him where he was and it was obvious I'd woken him up and he's like 'Oh yeah right I'm awake now'. I'm sitting here thinking, when would he have slept until? 6pm... 7pm...8pm... and still expected that he could come around?
He said to me it doesn't matter what time I come around - I disagree because DS's downtime starts at around 5pm and he's asleep by 6-6:30pm. And what would be the point of him coming around at a time when I'm trying to get him to bed? And we arranged for him to come at 3pm so that he could have a little play with our DS before downtime.
I'm so SICK of him being so unreliable - this is not the first time that he's done something like this. Too many times we arrange for him to come around and he either rings me to tell me that he's going to go drinking with his friends instead, or he doesn't even bother coming (or ringing) because he's sleeping off a hangover.
AND - I'm the one that cops the abuse from his mother (who he lives with - at 27!) because I get blamed for not letting him come around to see his son at his convenience! Am I really that wrong by wanting to put boundaries on when he can come and visit?
Does he really think he can keep stuffing us around and that we're just going to put up with it? On top of all this - we are going for mediation because he doesn't want me to have residence of our son! When he can't even be bothered coming to visit! :banghead:
AAAAAAAARRRRRRHHHHHH!