Young Father

[Justin1988]

Hi,
I am 19 years old and my girlfriend and I had our first baby about 3 weeks ago.

In regards to circumcision, she left that decision to me as she said that as the father she thought I should make the decision for our son.

I chose to have him circumsized and he was done around 6 days old.

A few of my friends support my decision and say that if they have a son they'll also have their sons done.

However, about 40% of my friends kind of think its strange, and look at you as if you're some monster who inflicts pain on your own children.

I admit, I did not get him done for medical reasons. I had him done because I was done and feel its best for a son to be like his dad.

I never had him done to inflict pain on him. Yes he did cry during it, but I also felt bad for him. But I am glad he was done and if I have another son in the future I will also have him done.

I just feel it is better a boy is like his father. When the time comes when I have to toilet train him, I want him to learn without feeling he is different. Also when he is old enough to get in the shower with me, it is better for him to learn by example how to wash himself with someone who is the same.

I just wanted to get this off my chest.

[Rating]

I dont know what you would like said to you tbh..

Im notone of those people who will yell at you and say your a monster or anything but I dont think these days "like father, like son" is much of a reason anymore..

I think there needs to be something more educated about making this decision for your children..

[Lastcenturymum]

Like all decisions regarding parenting, they are decisions you need to make together and shouldn't be left to one or the other. This is a topic that needs lots of research and the needs of the child and implications for them need to be considered.

TBH, how many fathers and sons compare penises? :rolleyes: I'm afraid I agree that the 'like father/like son' is not a valid reason, but you have done what is done and you state you are happy with your decision and just wanted to share that, which you are entitled to. Hopefully this does not turn into criticism and people can respect your choice.

It is a topic that will have opinions on both sides, just be warned that some people will express them more forcefully than others.

All the best with your bub, I hope he is going well and with all future parenting choices/decisions. :)

[PrestonPie]

Justin1988,
you know what? i don't think for a minute that you need to justify your decision or beliefs or whatever to anyone.

so if your reason is 'like father like son' and you believe that is the best thing for your baby then so be it and far be it from anyone, particularly your friends to judge you.:no:

I do think your partner should have discussed the decision with you and you should have come to the conclusion together and done the research together because i think it is a big decision so it's not really fair of her to put the full responsibility on you.

[babywez]

Unfortunately Justin you'll probably become like those of us who have had our sons circ'd but don't tell anyone about it for fear of their reaction. We DONT have to justify our reasons to anyone. I didn't leave the decision completely up to my husband, but I think his opinion carried more weight than mine did and he didn't have to think twice about wanting it done. You just have to learn to ignore the people who criticize you for choosing to do it. Its none of their business. Try to forget about them and focus on this wonderful life you and your gf have created and enjoy every second with him.

[tiggles]

Unfortunately Justin you'll probably become like those of us who have had our sons circ'd but don't tell anyone about it for fear of their reaction. We DONT have to justify our reasons to anyone. I didn't leave the decision completely up to my husband, but I think his opinion carried more weight than mine did and he didn't have to think twice about wanting it done. You just have to learn to ignore the people who criticize you for choosing to do it. Its none of their business. Try to forget about them and focus on this wonderful life you and your gf have created and enjoy every second with him.

Totally agree with this post. He is your son, it is your decision, and it is no one else's business. Just ignore any negative comments.

Just out of interest, before our daughter was born 14 weeks ago, I spoke to my husband re circing if the baby was a boy, he was adamant that if a boy he wanted him circed, for a number of reasons, but also, "like daddy, like son".

Enjoy you precious bubba!