get married??...I'd rather pay off the car!!!?!

[FiveInTheBed]

Well we got a lovely tax/ftb refund this year, and it's been sitting in the bank waiting for us to decide what to do with it...

DP said the other day...well you could organise a wedding...or... pay it off the car...he looked a little hurt when I said I'd rather pay it off the car!!:o

I love him to bits...we have been together for almost 7 years, engaged for almost 3, house, three kiddies and two dogs:laughing:...We used to joke that we would get married as soon as the kids were walking.
and MIL keeps asking when? when? when?

...but I really would prefer to get that debt out of the way and then have a celebration in a couple of years maybe when the kids are old enough to enjoy it too!
and to be honest I don't want the stress of organising a wedding whilst running around after 3 little monkeys!:p

Am I horrible?
Any one else just happy to 'be together' without that piece of paper?

[SorenLorensen]

we had 2 choices, get married sooner rather then later or buy a bigger house.
well, i want a rumpus room :laughing:
so our currant house is up for sale.

i am not too fused, i know DP and i are forever and will be married one day but we don't feel that we need to rush it.

i have always said and stick to....we will be married before DD1 starts high school, that is a pretty decent time deadline i think (she is 3:p)

[Pregnor]

I say pay off the car! :yes:

I'll probably be in the same situation as you in a few years, the piece of paper doesnt matter to me!
All our money is together, were having a baby together, I dont think a wedding will make it any different. We'll just have a lot more financial stress

I heard the other day the average wedding costs $40000 :eek: No thankyou, we could use that as a deposit on an investment property! Or a house with a rumpus room ;)

And to be honest, I cant be bothered planning a wedding! We were going to elope in Dec, but the baby changed those plans for us!

[FiveInTheBed]

...average wedding costs how much!!!???:eek:

lucky we're not average !!! :laughing:

I don't plan on spending a quarter of that!!! For one day...no thanks.

can't elope... have thought about it..but family and friends have made it quite clear they will kill us:D

DP reckons we could have it in the back yard..."just imagine", he said, "we'll decorate the shed...the roller door will go up, you can come in that way and walk down the path to meet me under the shade sail!...and we can stay at The Imperial" (...the Imperial is a guest house across the road from us!!)
Slacker!!

[Pregnor]

haha, mine says 'we'll get married in the country, imagine how much money we will save as noone will come!'

...i wasnt sure that was the point of a wedding, but thats man logic for you!

[DB&O]

:iagree: a wedding is one day but what you already have thats forever. DH & I had the big white wedding with way more guests then we would have liked :rolleyes: We say now that if we could do it again, we would have an intimate wedding with just those that really mean something to us. Probably on one of the islands that way we could enjoy a holiday after as well :D I say do what you feel is right, after all theres no time limit.

Ciao,
Brooke.

[mrsmov]

:o I'd pay off the car :o.... If you're not in any rush, it would be nice for you to have a wedding when your kiddies are a bit older & can be involved, that way also everyone would enjoy the day more without having to run around after the littlies.

[punkbaby]

I know that a wedding is meant to be a special day but tbh, why spend all that money on a wedding when you can pay your car off thats how i see it, plus weddings dont have to be expensive if you do it and plan it the right way you can have a lovely day still for 1k unless you want something big and fancy :)
If you can get yourself out of debt then go for it then you can save for a wedding, with what you save with car repayments

[Skittles]

We had a small wedding by todays standards....and it still cost shy of 30000. To be honest if i could do it again i would go the the bdo office and spend the money on a house deposit. LOL.

[~*clairesmum*~]

i would say pay off the car, u would be debt free n u no u weill be together forever y else would u have 3kids dogs n a house.... u can always get married next tax yr

[missmum05]

Just get married in your backyard with a few friends and family something casual and cheap and pay off the car:)

Our wedding cost alot ...we got married before buying our house and than it took us 2 years after the wedding to save our house deposit to buy our first home, but I would rather have spent the money on buying our house sooner as they were alot cheaper than:yes:

[poshBecks]

Well if it were me, I'd get married. But that's because I tend to think that the "piece of paper" is more than just a piece of paper. Marriage is something sacred.

In saying that though, you dont have to spend huge amounts on a wedding. Our wedding was around $5000 all up. And we had 120 guests :eek: It was a really nice wedding. We got a spit roast company in, hired the church hall & decorated ourselves.

[Ange&Seth]

We're getting married in 5 weeks time and our wedding has cost us around $5k and that's with 60 guests. We didn't want anything massive either and most of the guest list is family.

I'd get married and pay whatever was left off the car, but that's cos I told DP that I wanted to be married before we have anymore babies. I don't have a problem with other people having a different surname to their kids but it's a huge issue for me. So yeah, I'd get married but I think you should do whatever you want with the money.

[melbryan]

I think you are very sensible.
I would like to be debt free too.
We got married it cost very little ( we eloped overseas) then we could have enough for a deposit for a house alot sooner.
Bes decision we have made now we are living where we want to and have no regrets about the decisions we have made.

[mollyann]

I would pay off the car :yes:

I'm not against marriage but against weddings that cost an arm and a leg when there are better things to spend your money on.

When people ask me am I getting married I just say my kids are a far bigger commitment than marriage will ever be as they are for life!

Paying the car off now means you can start saving for the wedding you want!

[FiveInTheBed]

thanks for all the replies ladies:thumbsup:

DP is getting the pay out figure on the car today :D