just needed to get this out

[MummaFug]

I have never really thought too much about Circ until I had a son (I'm from a family of all girls)
I didnt do too much research and even though DH wanted him done - it was VERY VERY easy to talk him out of it :)

BUT - I went out with some friends last night and they are having a baby in about 2 weeks and the circ question came up .... (they dont knwo what they are having yet but the Dad is POSITIVE it is a boy) .... They are going to get him done if it is a boy...

Now later in the conversation we were talking about having a vasectomy (my DH has said he will get it done when we decide we have completed our family) and our friend said "There is no way they are going near my penis - it is just not natural"

I don't know where it came from but I was mortified and said "How can you say that when you are planning on getting your son circ'd - that isn't natural either" ..... He just went off at me so I left it there ....

I was so shocked with
a) The fact that he thought it was 'unnatural' to have a vasectomy BUT is willing to get his son circ'd
b) my reaction to it - I am not usually one to get so ???? (cant think f the word) about someone elses choices (I think it was his other comment that made it so bad)
and
c) I cant stop thinking about it

Sorry just had to let that out .... I am glad I said what I did to him but hope he didnt get too offended ...

[sam's mum]

maybe it shocked him at the time, but he will think about it once it has sunk in.

I think it is a very good point and something that he should be thinking about given that he doesn't want someone messing around near his penis.

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

You are entitled to your opinion, and what you said was just your honest feeling. Obviously they shouldn't have bought up the topic if they didn't want to talk about it.

It would be different if you had just started attacking their choices all on your own, but clearly this isn't what happened they just didn't like that you had a different opinion.

[Benji]

He deserved what he got.

You kept your nose out of his business until he poked his nose into yours. You did nothing wrong!

If he thinks it's okay to say that vasectomys are "unnatural" (yes, they are but so is just about everything else we do in life including circ) then he has to be willing to take what he gives.

[Lollie86]

I dont get into the pro-anti circ debate but I think if I were in your position, I would probably have reacted the same way. :yes:

[punkbaby]

I understand why you reacted the way you did, him saying no one is going near his penis, but he will let a baby have someone near his.....its a little contradictive.

[Ange&Seth]

I dont get into the pro-anti circ debate but I think if I were in your position, I would probably have reacted the same way. :yes:


I understand why you reacted the way you did, him saying no one is going near his penis, but he will let a baby have someone near his.....its a little contradictive.

Totally agree. It was a completely contradictive statement and eventhough he went off at you at the time, I think he'll realised what you meant when it finally sinks in.

I'm not pro or anti circ but I probably would have thought/said the same thing in your position.

[~Emmylou~]

I think you just called him out on an obvious hypocrisy....nothing wrong with that.

[Jakois]

Well, I probably would have reacted the same way:yes:.