bits and pieces

[Littletreasures]

hey....

ok so tonight i was bathing DD and DS and And DS asked me "where is Hayley's Doodle?" and i said Hayley doesn't have a doodle, And he replied with "why" and i said because Hayley is a girl and girls have vagina's..

When DH got home from work i was telling him about our little bath conversation and DH thinks that DS is too young to be explaining stuff like that too him.. I however think that in 10 years time i want DS to be able to come to me and get a straight answer from me from any question that he asked and i think that trust and respect start from an early age..

So my Question is...
Did i do the right thing in answering this Question with truthfulness or should i have made up some lie..

The second Question is what do you call a girls Vagina? Cause to me it sounds weird calling it a vagina but i really didn't know what else to call it.

thanks..

[veve]

in this house .. boys have a penis .. girls have a vagina .. although DS shortens it to gina ..

I dont like the nicknames myself (we have a cousin called will .. who is called willy .. so that one was out as an option :laughing: .. and to me doodle is something you do with a pen when you're bored) ..

each to their own with the names ..

as for being too young?? nope .. Jack (2 1/2 ) has known for well over 6 months that boys have a penis and girls dont .. I am hoping to ALWAYS answer his quetions in an upfront factual way ..

xx
JEn

[Sanzinoz]

Of course you did the right thing, your answer was perfect. I have two girls and a boy and explained right from the start that boys and girls had different parts and what they were called. Im not big on using the correct terminology either, but I did tell them the correct terms so they know what it means, but on a day to day basis call them "doodles" and "private parts".

[MummyGoingMad]

I think u did the right thing, kids are innocent and arent ashamed of things like adults are...your DH is probably saying what he said because he feels embarrassed about the whole thing, which is not the way to be when kids are around :laughing: DD pointed to DS's and asked "what is THAT!?" haha.... We call it doodle and vagina in this house, but either way its gonna sound weird whatever you say. I've heard lots of things - I've heard a vagina called a peepee.

The classic moment was when DD yanked DS's doodle..... the poor thing screamed in pain! She's a little :devil:

[cindye]

That reminds me of my niece.

My brother became a single dad when she was 3, and a lot of her care fell to me and my sisters. When we gave her a bath we'd tell her to wash her girly bits.

Some time later she was having a shower with my brother (her dad) and said to him "Daddy, you have such long girly bits!"

[Littletreasures]

Thats so funny and sad at the same time for your little man.. :laughing:





The classic moment was when DD yanked DS's doodle..... the poor thing screamed in pain! She's a little :devil:


thanks for your replies, i think the only thing that DH is worried about is the whole walking through the shopping center and for DS to scream out "you have a vagina to every female that walks past".

[cwsmum]

DS has known the proper names since he could talk, and even at 18mths when he learnt what a penis was he never yelled it out in public. DS usually refers to his penis as his doodle, but he knows a variety of other names for it as well (including the one starting with d, thanks to DH LOL). He also know that girls have a vagina, but generally it is called flossy in our house. DD also knows and understands the proper names, but she doesn't talk much yet so can't say them. We use different names depending on the conversation, in the shower they are told to wash their doodle/flossy but if the conversation is more serious (like when DS was telling me he had a sore penis) then we use the proper names.

I think the way you answered your sons questions was fine. Maybe you could teach your DS some other names so he can use a more 'acceptable' name when you are out but also know the proper names so that if he ever needs to tell you that something is wrong then he can use the proper name...DS came out to the lounge room last week and told me he had a sore penis, this was after I caught him encouraging his 2.5yr old sister to hit his doodle with the face washer in the shower less than an hour earlier :laughing:

[NibbleCurlynBub]

I am all for using the proper names like penis and vagina. That is simply what it is.

My 2 1/2 year old knows that he has a penis. He has not asked about his sisters lack of penis, so if he does I will tell him that she doesn't have one because she is a girl and that only boys have penises.

Its his body, I don't have a problem discussing it with him if he is curious about it. He has every right to know about himself.

[UmmInayah]

I think if you're straight forward about it from the beginning instead of all "shh, we don't talk about things like that" like some parents might be, it's all good.

Children don't usually go around telling people they have an arm etc, because it's just a matter of fact, IYKWIM?

[WarriorMummy]

my brother and sister were having a bath together when they were 4 and 5 when my brother suddenly realised my sister didnt have a penis

he jumped up and yelled mum mum ******** has a cut shes cut and so my sister started screaming her head off thinking she was cut or hurt and was absolutely histerical until we finally calmed them down and told them that because she was a girl she didnt have a penis and had a vagina instead

we laugh at it now but when my kids ask whats what i will tell them the truth
no nicknames or anything - tho yes it does sound oddcalling them penis and vagina to a child but it was fanny and willy to me as a kid

[MissSparkle]

Lol..... kids r so cute.

I think u did the right thing by being straight with ur DS. If u had've tip toes around it he would feel like its something to be ashamed about.

I was in the shower with DS when he was about 20month n he asked me "wheres your doodle mummy?" and I said "Girls don't have doodles, they have vaginas." and lil DS turns to me n says "Its looks like a bottom!" :laughing: So innocent.

[Jenko]

That reminds me of my niece.

My brother became a single dad when she was 3, and a lot of her care fell to me and my sisters. When we gave her a bath we'd tell her to wash her girly bits.

Some time later she was having a shower with my brother (her dad) and said to him "Daddy, you have such long girly bits!"

:laughing::laughing:That is so funny...and cute :goodvibes:

I think you did the right thing too. We call vagina's 'wee' around here. I know kinda confusing, but DD know's it's proper name is vagina. DS has a willy ;)

[DoubleDelight]

I think the younger that you begin discussing their body, and I'm another one who is a stickler for the correct anatomical names, the better.

I did have an incident when DS2 was 3 where he informed the checkout operator at Target that he was a boy and had a penis and he knew she was a girl because she had breasts but that her breasts weren't as big as Mummys'. Darling little thing he was.

[Pinky81]

I would heve done the exact same thing as you:)
I think these things should be normalised from a young age so that your children know they can approach you about anything sexual or private in future. They should be educated that their body belongs to them and know if something doesn't feel right then it is ok to tell mum or dad. I will be calling my childrens body part there proper names and plan to be upfront from the start. I think this will make it easier to discuss the birds and the bees when the time is right. Of course I think we all know how much detail to go into at which age? Body parts are body parts and young children should know what they are called.:yes:

[Pinky81]

I did have an incident when DS2 was 3 where he informed the checkout operator at Target that he was a boy and had a penis and he knew she was a girl because she had breasts but that her breasts weren't as big as Mummys'. Darling little thing he was.

:laughing::laughing: Gotta love the things kids come out with.

[WarriorMummy]

yea always love what they come out with

but only after u have left the store lol