Is he out of work?

[chickaboo]

Anyone else have a husband or partner currently not working?
How are you coping?

[blackdog]

Luckily I don't have this problem, but my friend does.

She puts up with alot. Her hubby can't find anything he really wants to do.:rolleyes:

She works and looks after the house.

My other friend has just left her partner who was not working. He would only apply for really high paid jobs that he had no real chance of getting (and then really didn't apply for many of those - about 5 in as many years)

Does this help?:confused:

[trouble]

My DH has been out of work twice since I have met him, 3 times including the fact that he quit his job to move to live with me,

But lost 2 jobs due to them running out of work and what not, but the very next day, he was on the internet, and that arvo out going around to places, and the longest he has been out of work has been 3 days.

And in those 3 days it was tough, and stressfull, worring about money and what not.

But my DH is a firm believer that the work is out there if you go and get it.

[punkbaby]

dh started a job the other week, first time in hmm 8 years. His a new man, its really changed him for the better, i dont know how i worked and kept a house for so long for all those years but hey there is no way his quitting this job LOL i told him his in it for keeps!

My problem was he didnt help with the kids or around the house and that was a big issue for me, seeing i was working and he did nothing. Now at least he has an excuse not to help :) even though its not right his still doing something so i cant complain

[subaruforestermum]

Not right now, but a little while ago DF lost his job, they fired him for a 'made up' problem, and then the company went bust, and the guy who lied and made up the story is now being investigated for fraud as he ripped the company off big time..

He then found another job ADVERTISED, was there for 3 weeks I think, and they made him redundant as there wasnt enough work..why they advertised a position is beyond me...

Luckily during this time he got a pay out, and I had savings built up to cover mortgage costs etc, but soon the dwindled away, doesnt go far...

He then applied for a few other jobs which were advertised, but they said he couldnt start for a month, as there were no positions available currently..WELL WHY ADVERTISE....

I was so stressed out, and upset, and just stressed big time..We used all our savings to get by, and are now left with no savings at all to fall back on...

He now has a job, and we are getting by ok. But I had to do a bit of juggling in regards to finances and budget...etc.

It is horribly stressful and I would hate to go through it again.

At first he wanted to take a month off until he realised it was impossible for us to survive if he done that...Glad he listened to me and found something else...

[JJJ&D'sMum]

My DP is now working and it's wonderful. The times that he has been out of work have been stressful though....not only financially but emotionally as well. He would get himself into a rut because of knock back after knock back and then become so lazy that he'd just sit on the pc all day playing games instead of looking for work. I don't know how many times I yelled and screamed at him to get off his lazy butt and find a job....I DO know that it took what seemed like forever to happen.

Where we live it's difficult to get a job without some sort of 'ticket' or degree as most of the work is either casual or seasonal. Neither of those suited my plans as they don't pay the mortgage/bills for the entire year.

He has been at his current full time job for a few months now and he is loving it. He helps out when he gets home as well and that makes a huge difference to my sanity. :yes: I actually HAVE some sanity now that he's working! :laughing:

I never want my DP to be out of work again. He's much more lovable when he's working.

[chickaboo]

DP is working this week, after not working for 3 weeks. He does 'agency' work, so only works when companies need him. Most of the time it is good, but lately we have had shed loads of bills, plus car troubles etc that have eaten into all savings. When he doesn't work, he doesn't get paid, and doesn't accrue any sick leave or annual leave.:(
Thankfully I had the baby bonus money tucked away and that paid the mortgage last week.
I just find that when he isn't working, it is really hard to keep a routine around the house. And it doesn't seem that he helps much with housework etc except create more of it....which really frustrates me. He reckons I have it easy cos I don't get out of bed until 7.30 - 8am whilst he goes to work at 6.30, but I am usually up a couple of times during the night feeding DD. :confused:
I don't ask him for any money, I've been living on my MAT leave money and savings. I pay for most of DD bits and pieces.
I know he is stressed because of our finances, but he doesn't need to take it out on me. Especially when I am cooking, cleaning, looking after our child, paying my own way, and never asking for him to look after DD so I can have some time to myself.
We had a huge fight last night, but at least he has phoned and apologised today.
Just one of those weeks I guess......
Sorry, my vent is over....:sunshine:

[blackdog]

I know what you mean about having them just hanging around the house making more mess being so stressful!:laughing: