I NEED a refresher !!!

[Benji]

This is just a big whinge coming.

I wish my XDP would start acting like a parent. I'm so sick of it. From day one, XDP has not changed one #2 nappy, has not gotten up to him at night or in the morning EVER, hasn't watched him so I can have a shower. Sorry, but it just annoys me. And if I sit down for 5 minutes while DS is napping (like now) instead of cleaning XDP says "why don't you do your f-ing job as a mother" and just carries on like a pork chop.

I'm sorry but I just hate him (XDP). I hate the fact that I haven't had a decent shower alone in the mornings in YEARS. I hate that I can't go for a walk alone without having to explain everything we walk past. God, what I would do to sit down right now and just watch a WHOLE movie without interruption I would give my right eye.

I'm so bloody tired. DS is not a bad child, he's just very clever and needs constant entertainment. I can't even do the dishes without his "help". By help I mean pouring water all over the place that I have to clean up later.

Rant over. :crying:

PS - don't mention child care, please. Everyone suggests that to me, I don't want to put DS in childcare, I want his father to spend time with him.

[MrsDribbleDrawers]

Sorry you're having a hard time - it does get better (but sometimes I wonder if it gets worse as they get bigger :laughing:)

[flowalicious]

Sounds like you need to give XDp a good talking to if you ask me. My best friends husband is EXACTLY the same. I think the worst part for you is that you have let him get away with it since day one. My Dh knows his place cause I have put him in it many a time. I constantly have to ask him to bath the kids, wash the dishes, vacume the floor, ect. but I have realised that most of the time he WONT DO IT UNLESS NAGGED! every now and then when I start to feel as if he is getting very lazy we have a 'talk' and I tell him I cant do it all. We are not wonder women and shouldnt have to be. I do realise the neeed to vent so BIIIG HUGS TO YOU.

[Benji]

MrsDD - I agree, I actually think newborns are a breeze. It's when they start walking, talking, throwing tantrums and answering back when it gets hard :laughing:

flowalicious - From day 1 I've been nagging, begging, pleading with XDP to help me. He either doesn't answer or magically gets "called into" work. He's not one to argue with - honestly, no one will ever win with XDP. If there's not something in it for him, he won't budge - I nearly had to get an ambulance to hospital once because he wouldn't take me - his brother had to come get me. I just rang him in tears and begged him to come and help - take DS for a drive, ANYTHING!! His response was "I can't get out of work" but he has gotten out of work when he wanted to go on dates with his little things on the side when we were together iykwim. He told me to call my dad :rolleyes: yeah, right, like it's my dad's responsibility (BTW my dad works 7 days per week).

[flowalicious]

I didnt mean to offend, but in my freinds case it is because she never even asks him to do it. In general men are lazy creatures who wont do things unless asked. It must be very hard on you. Kids are enough to deal with let alone having to deal with that ontop. He sounds like a real doosy. do you take DS to playgroup, its a great way to get them out and doing other things and socialising with other kids. You can talk to other mums and might even fit in a coffee. Keep up the good work and I hope things get better for you

[Roopee]

And there-in lies the reason he is the xdp hey? Sorry.....

Im sorry he's being a child and a pratt! Needs a good kick up the butt by the sounds of it.

Just one little idea for you (and no it's not CC) but have you thought of getting him his own clothes line? Maybe you could let him peg the socks and undies on his line while your doing the big stuff on yours? Just an idea...same as the dishes....take some plastic dishes outside with a rag and a bucket- let him go for it:D Might just ive you 5 mins for a cuppa or something?

Good Luck:flowerz:

[Benji]

I didnt mean to offend, but in my freinds case it is because she never even asks him to do it. In general men are lazy creatures who wont do things unless asked. It must be very hard on you. Kids are enough to deal with let alone having to deal with that ontop. He sounds like a real doosy. do you take DS to playgroup, its a great way to get them out and doing other things and socialising with other kids. You can talk to other mums and might even fit in a coffee. Keep up the good work and I hope things get better for you

Oh no, no you didn't offend. I understand what you mean - some people do tend to let people get away with everything and then complain about what they have created, but in my personal situation it's actually one of the reasons I left him.

My XDP was a funny one, he certainly wasn't lazy - he was a workaholic - he was just incredibly selfish at home. If he doesn't directly get something out of it, he won't do it.

Yeah I take DS to kindergym. It is good :) wish it was more than 45 minutes a week though :laughing:

[Benji]

And there-in lies the reason he is the xdp hey? Sorry.....

Im sorry he's being a child and a pratt! Needs a good kick up the butt by the sounds of it.

Just one little idea for you (and no it's not CC) but have you thought of getting him his own clothes line? Maybe you could let him peg the socks and undies on his line while your doing the big stuff on yours? Just an idea...same as the dishes....take some plastic dishes outside with a rag and a bucket- let him go for it:D Might just ive you 5 mins for a cuppa or something?

Good Luck:flowerz:

:laughing: yes, that's exactly the reason for the big X!! Unfortunately he's had plenty of kicks up the bum, they never work though :rolleyes:

I've got DS his own dishes that go in a draw but unfortunately he prefers the real ones lol. Not a bad idea about the rag and bucket outside! That might buy me a few minutes. I might try that tonight.